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  1. 4 points
    No, I don't think this is true. If school had gone so well for them, it is unlikely that they would be diagnosed with an ASD. Having significant difficulty with one's environment, at school, in the family and in the workplace later in life, is a key part of their diagnosis. One doesn't get a diagnosis for school to have gone smoothly. Some might have had good academic results, but all going through mainstream schooling will have had some significant social difficulties, that is the definition of the diagnosis. You studied at university. I don't think that you could have done all that badly academically at school, otherwise you wouldn't have been accepted and gone to university.
  2. 3 points
    I am good at math, I know I don't have dyscalculia which I have always understood to be a numerical form of dyslexia, so instead of struggling with letters, words and language you struggle with numbers and math. I did the test to give you a point of comparison, my results are below: Pass - 4 minutes - You scored well and the time taken suggests that your skills are fluent. Unless you have serious concerns that your mathematical skills are significantly lower than other skills, you have no need for a diagnostic assessment of your number skills. I will admit I was also watching something while I did the test so I probably could have done it faster, I got one answer 'incorrect' although that isn't really right since the question was 'Do you have difficulty managing money?' and that issue is as a result of ADHD
  3. 3 points
    The type of Christmas you outline is probably quite common among people with AS - certainly those who live alone. There is a lot of pressure to be social at Christmas and this can lead those who lead a more solitary life to feel left out or anxious. However Aspies probably do cope much better with a low-key Christmas than neurotypicals as they are more comfortable in their own company and routines. I think it's important that people observe Christmas in whatever way they wish - if someone really enjoys lots of socialising, present-giving and partying that's fine but if another person wants to treat it as an ordinary day that's fine as well. The worst thing is enforced socialising and jollity. that can be particularly painful for someone with AS but it can also be hard for many neurotypicals. We can end up with the irony at Christmas of two people seeing each other, or giving each other presents and cards, when neither wants to but feel they must because "it's the done thing" - and even though they dislike the ritual each would be offended if the other didn't take part! None of this is to knock the genuine pleasure many people get at Christmas but it should be the one time of year when we get to do what we want, not be forced to do what others want. As regards your Christmas card total that again is probably not unusual. A lot of people send cards as a sort of empty ritual. Not getting cards doesn't imply being disliked or being forgotten. As you suggest it may reflect not being particularly involved in socialising but someone can still be well-regarded nonetheless. While all this socialising can be satisfying it comes at a price - literally as well as metaphorically - and that is more true at Christmas than at any other time. A "quiet Christmas" doing what you want to do, when you want to do it, has its attractions.
  4. 2 points
    I got the risk of dyscaliculia too . I spend 5 minutes and 23 seconds on it.
  5. 2 points
    I think thats ignorant, dangerous and probably ableist rubbish ... and certainly not related to my experience. School was a solitary nightmare where it was impossible to fit into anything, which naturally impacted an ability to learn whilst almost completely shut down. I left a year before I was legally supposed to and the last 6 years of school were certainly very damaging. Granted I was schooled in the corporal punishment era where peoples differences were not accommodated and physical and mental abuse was very common ... school running smoothly? certainly not ...
  6. 2 points
    Please don't think I am being difficult or obtuse but the difference is kind of in the question... it's functionality. The higher functioning you are ... literally the more you can function (by NT standards). The lower functioning you are... the less you are able to function. This means that you can adapt more and learn more at the higher functioning end of the spectrum, it isn't just that you are better able to 'fit in' but also that you are better able to grasp things, learn things, adapt to new situations and generally cope better with the challenges of modern life/living. P.S. Welcome back
  7. 2 points
    I was always very good at maths (and physics which includes some math) at school, also when I went to Uni I studied Electrical Engineering (although I dropped out) which also has a fair amount of math, I don't think you necessarily have to be good at math to be a geek though and certainly not to be a tech although it can help with coding I certainly never feared numbers/figures... I quite like the fact matht is predictable and follows rules, I would think most people with AS would feel that way.
  8. 2 points
    I liked Maths at school and am one those AS people who is fascinated by numbers, especially statistics. I can do calendrical calculation but not to the extent of savants. However my skills at Maths have never been exceptional and I found Pure Maths much more difficult than Statistics. As regards teaching and learning I'm not someone who is adept learning a subject by myself unless I already have some prior knowledge; even then some input from a teacher is useful to clarify misunderstandings and get over any hurdles.
  9. 2 points
    I know because I have a different way of thinking than most people. I constantly want to know what will happen next (I don't like the unknown). I constantly want to know how things work, everywhere I go. I overanalyze situations. Some situations I could think of for a while, years even. I store a lot of information in my brain. That's what I have for now.
  10. 2 points
    We all have to restrain ourselves regarding inner impulses ... but as you said The simplistic solution is don't stay in your room too long and get bored ... a goal of forgiving and liking yourself might be productive ... and a goal of rewarding activity / utilising relaxation times. All easier said than done but we need direction ...
  11. 2 points
    This forum has a mainly U.K base, and at least three of our active members (@Miss Chief , @Echo and @Angry Primeape) are from Wales. I don't know if any of them are native Welsh speakers but I would like to introduce people to Welsh. It is Britain's second most widely spoken language and is also spoken in a remote part of Argentina called Patagonia. I'd like to start with a list of words that are the same in Welsh as in English.
  12. 2 points
    Cwtch is pronounced; Coo - like a pigeon noise, Tch - like itch without the i The Welsh alphabet has 29 letters and includes extra vowels so W and Y are vowels, it also has 8 digraphs (double letters) and it has accents used on vowels; acute accent ( ´ ), grave accent ( ` ), circumflex ( ˆ ) and diaeresis ( ¨ ) but accented letters are not regarded as a separate part of the alphabet it just effects how you pronounce the vowel; long, short, hard, soft etc. I mention the above because the one thing most people ask about pronouncing is the double LL digraph and while this doesn't sound anything like an English sound this is how I explain it: put your mouth and tongue in the shape/position you would if you were going to say the letter L (hard as in Laugh) then instead of making the sound for L (keeping you mouth in that position) instead make the sound for the letter C (hard as in Cough) and the noise that comes out of your mouth will be the right sound for the LL in Welsh Consonant letters are almost always hard in Welsh, so the letter B is said Buh and never Bee C is Cuh and never Cee and so on through the consonants. Here is the Welsh alphabet... A, E, I, O, U, W & Y are vowels. I'm not going to go into ALL the ways you can pronounce vowels, it depends on the accent used as well as what letters come before the vowel. Speaking of which there are also mutations in Welsh: And of course we have masculine and feminine forms too, so that can effect stuff. I've probably put everyone off now
  13. 2 points
    I don't think there are Welsh words that are the same as English words, there are some words that don't exist in Welsh and so we use English words instead, this is because Celtic languages (which Welsh is) are the oldest languages in Europe and obviously there are modern words that didn't exist when Welsh was evolving and we don't always create new ones so we just use the English word. There are some Welsh slang words that have made their way into English (mainly Northern England since some parts of the North still have links to Welsh) I think the term 'tara' which means goodbye comes from Welsh although I'm not 100%. The term 'cwtch' (which means to cuddle) seems to be used in northern England and that is definitely a Welsh word It's also worth knowing that there are differences between the North Wales and South Wales languages, although you can get by in either if you speak one. I know @Echo is Welsh speaking but she is from North Wales so I assume she speak the Northern Welsh where as I am from the South. You can see some links between English and Welsh, if you speak both languages it's obvious that English came after Welsh since Welsh is structured a lot like 'old English' for example in modern English you would ask someone: 'Where are you from?' but Welsh would be closer to the old English of: 'From where do you come?' in South Wales this would be 'O ble dych chi'n dod?' I think there would be some slight differences in Northern Welsh but the translation into English would still be the same. So you can see the evolution of the language in English, whereas, Welsh has stayed the same. I was raised Welsh speaking but I moved to a city where it isn't spoken much when I was 10 so I lost a lot of the language but I still speak some and I'm working on getting back to speaking it more since I now live in an area where it's spoken a lot again. @Nesf I don't know if you have this already on the resources page but a Language Tree would be good I've also attached it here (a slightly shorter one since this topic is specifically about Welsh) so you can see that Celtic is the first branch on the Indo-European > European trunk and predates Germanic (which includes English), this means you can see a lot of Celtic influences in the groups that directly follow it (like Germanic/English). However, English has evolved a lot since then so you see the links more in old English (like Shakespeare). EDIT: I almost forgot, French also has huge Celtic influence even though it's a Romantic language because part of France spoke Brittany (a Celtic language very close to Welsh), so there is huge Celtic influence on French even though the Romantic languages evolved from Germanic, there are common words between Welsh and French, for example the Welsh word for 'window' is 'ffenestr' and the French word is 'fenêtre', the Welsh word for 'horse' is 'ceffyl' and the French word is 'cheval' and while they look quite different the pronunciation is very close.
  14. 2 points
    I agree Gone home. Privacy is important to people with AS - we need that space and independence. Even those who live with others value having more time to be alone and do what they feel comfortable with. You're right though that too much privacy and time to oneself has its drawbacks. The presence of other people - whether as visitors or living in the same home - can reduce the risk of drifting off in the wrong direction. I'm not talking about doing things that are "bad" but simply letting things slip and maybe becoming too remote from wider society. For example there are home improvements that I wish I'd got done over the years but the lack of visitors - let alone anyone staying for longer periods - meant I felt little impetus to get things done. Other people - even if they don't say anything directly - make us more aware of wider social standards. It's also the case that when others either drop by or live with us - friends or family - they can provide an important source of support, whether that be practical or psychological, and we don't have to struggle with things alone. All this is not to deny that other people in our homes can be a major source of stress and that in some cases their "interventions" are far more of a hindrance than a help. It's a case if getting the right kind of interaction in the home and elsewhere. We don't need much - but we do need some.
  15. 2 points
    I like privacy. Its the only way I can protect my vulnerabilities. Too much is not a good thing though.
  16. 2 points
    I hope this fits in here I don't know if it's considered Progressive rock, maybe more like Progressive Pop, however I think Kate Bush is very progressive in her approach to music. She was definitely not mainstream. And also, I am crazy about her music even though I've only listened to some of her records. Hounds of Love and The Kick Inside are personal favourites of mine. Her music and especially her voice really speaks to me.
  17. 2 points
    For a very long time I'd been aware that I was "different". I had limited social skills and an almost entirely solitary lifestyle. I had very unusual, intense interests. I had always had a very limited diet and a long list of anxieties and aversions. I found practical and spatial tasks such as learning to drive very difficult. I didn't really know what to make of all this until I heard a "Book of the Week" on the radio called "Born on a Blue Day" by Daniel Tammet. The book is about his life with AS and so many of the characteristics he mentioned (not his savant skills I should stress) seemed to apply to me. I then read other autobiographies of people with AS and very soon was certain I also had it. There may be some people who have no idea they have AS until they are diagnosed but I would say most will recognise the characteristics long beforehand. These characteristics come in different combinations but the number and strength of them usually leaves little doubt that someone is on the spectrum.
  18. 1 point
    I recall ages ago I had posted a pic of my dog on this site so I had a look in the archives just in case. Here is his photo probably taken 4 years ago.
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  20. 1 point
    You know what I didn't even think about with the math and computer connection. For example, in Access you can have a calculated field in database tables and queries. I am also a Microsoft Office Specialist in Access 2016. I got certified in Access about a month ago.
  21. 1 point
    @RiRi Why? Just curious, RiRi?
  22. 1 point
    Yes, I am good at computer and IT stuff/and SQL, and HTML with PHP programming. I am okay in math. Some of the questions I took random shots in the dark I got some of the right.
  23. 1 point
    Here's one. http://app.educational-psychologist.co.uk/screening/dyscalculic/ All of my answers were correct, but I took more time than average, because of concentration issues and because I need time to understand and think about the question. Also, I always need to double-check. I had this problem at school, too, I was always slow to finish any task, and it was a problem for timed exams. Edit: I passed (I don't have dyscalculia).
  24. 1 point
    It's not a personal question. Degrees in Russian needed to be filled so the demand for A levels was exempted. They would take reasonable candidates. Whereas for French you needed an A Level pass. For Russian you could do Foundation Year and an overall 4 year course. I was a "mature student" with at least some promise so I was allowed in to study Russian. Yet Foundation Year for me was a bad idea. Too wide and varied. So, I just got into Russian and got top grades in that while flunking biology and the whole FYear to boot. After appeals and discussions they allowed me into year one only on the basis of my Russian language exam result. It took years for me to discover that I need to narrow down my focus and gravitate to theory. People like me make good physicists but not so great engineers. I like Einstein a lot because the system didn't work for him. The idea Einstein was a slow, substandard student was never true. That was exaggerated as he spoke good French and was a talented violin student. Even so, he did flunk his electrical engineering entrance exam. After that his only option was to take the self-taught path.
  25. 1 point
    I certainly have a tendency for my accounts on almost any topic to be too long. Often the core ideas are quite concise but then the extra details and analysis flood out. While those extras are sometimes useful they can result in a much less effective piece of communication - communication involves judging what your specific "audience" needs to know and delivering it in the most accessible manner. This is certainly not about being superficial or "dumbing down" but giving people what they need to know for their purposes. We know from our own experience that it can be frustrating when someone gives a long-winded or overly-complex account when we need something more direct and specific to our needs. I can be concise when required and my accounts are generally better for this. I'm certainly aware of going into too much detail and benefit from greater brevity. However there can be an over-compensation where the account is too brief and doesn't provide the clearest explanation. I do try alternative explanations with different approaches and examples but these are often no better and can end up being confusing. All this comes back to the AS difficulty in judging what others are looking for. Accounts can end up being too complex, too basic, too long or too short. Explaining things is hard for anyone (harder than most realise) but harder for those with AS.
  26. 1 point
    I agree with @Nesf here: I think he isn't really conscious of the stimming and it just stops when he has to direct his attention or focus on something else. I also do this like @Nesf I also will stop talking suddenly if something requires my full attention... this tends to happen when I'm driving and it used to really amuse my driving instructor back when I was learning... we would be chatting and I would just stop mid sentence because something was happening up ahead and once it had passed or resolved itself I would start up again where I left off. Personally I think this is a good thing, it meant I was paying attention to what was going on around the car but he thought it was quite funny that I would just stop, pause, then start again. I'm the same with stims if something requires my full attention then I go still while I deal with that, then when I relax it comes back.
  27. 1 point
    Thank you for the responses! I consider myself in the less severe cases, I think I'm able to hide it better, but functioning wise, I think I'm in the lower end. For instance, I wouldn't stim like he is, especially if I'm with someone I trust as he is, but I wouldn't be able to hold on to a job like he can. Although if the boss was accommodating, maybe. An observation I made with Sam is that he would stop stimming when he would talk so it made me wonder if he was capable of controlling the stim because he was able to stop it. Maybe he just is comfortable to stim like that, but if asked to do so could stop stimming? What do you guys think? It definitely seems like he stopped stimming when he was focused on what he wanted to say.
  28. 1 point
    Having met well over 100 people on the Autism Spectrum, I can say that Sam is certainly a severe case. I have never met anyone with Aspergers who is so severe. I've certainly met some who appear like they have learning difficulties (and some have them too), although they still appear to function better than Sam does. So Sam will not have an Aspergers diagnosis, though may have a Classical Autism diagnosis. Its often surprising what some of the more severely Autistic people are able to do. There are of course the non-verbal ones. I don't know if anyone can say for sure that anyone with Autism is entirely unaware of the world. For instance, Carly Fleischmann can't speak at all, but communicates via an electronic device and is very articulate and even shows a sense of humour.
  29. 1 point
    Thank you so much! It does thank you
  30. 1 point
    How well you function also depends on how far people are prepared to accommodate you., and how well they treat you. The person in the video, Sam, appears to have quite a few difficulties in functioning, but because his boss is prepared to accommodate him, he is able to work. Unfortunately, people usually aren't so accommodating...
  31. 1 point
    Well, it certainly isn't a savant skill for me. @Dr-David-Banner I do find your statement interesting that most people on the spectrum are at a disadvantage. I never really liked math because it was pretty much the subject I was worst at, but I wasn't that bad at it. I'm not very good with mental math (that's why I've thought I have dyscalculia), but if you give me a paper and pencil, I can work out a problem. I didn't like word problems, statistics was hard for me, but then again, every math was. Math wasn't something that came "natural" to me.
  32. 1 point
    @Dr-David-Banner, @Sanctuary and @Nesf - Look at Einstein, now believed to be autistic, and he was good enough at maths to understand physics. Also, Nicola Tesla, who would be diagnosed with Asperger's today and he had a more advanced mathematical understanding that the general population. Could @Miss Chief be good at maths given she's quite geeky?
  33. 1 point
    When learning maths at school, I found that I was good at geometry, but hopeless at algebra. I'm now reading a theory that says that autistics have difficulty with tasks which require you to use both hemispheres of the brain simultaneously, and that sounds about right for me, as I have difficulty multitasking and it's no coincidence that the specific things I find difficult are the things that require good integration of the left and right hemispheres of the brain. I think that algebra requires both hemispheres -or two separate ares of the brain which don't have good connections - to solve problems, and that's why I find it so difficult.
  34. 1 point
    I don't think the headline does Chris Packham any favours as he seems merely to be saying that animals in general sometimes need to be euthanised - not that he thought it was unavoidable in this case. He also states in the article that animals in zoos can be seen as "animal ambassadors" and I suppose someone can be critical of zoos in general but still feel they have a role in educating the public about animals. It's true that on many issues there may appear to be inconsistencies or possible anomalies in people's views. e.g. someone who campaigns for animal welfare but eats meat or supports animal experimentation. Even among vegetarians and vegans there can be question marks about their views on certain animal issues. Sometimes the inconsistencies arise from lack of knowledge, sometimes changing on other issues seems too difficult for some people. I don't eat meat and am a big supporter of animal rights and welfare but I would far rather appreciate any steps someone can make to promoting the better treatment of animals than expect them to change on every issue. On this and many other issues there can be apparent inconsistencies in attitudes and behaviour - an entirely "pure" or consistent policy is rarely possible. Moving in the right direction is something to be applauded even if the ultimate destination may never be reached (and may not even be a desirable place.)
  35. 1 point
    It's only unreliable if conversion is done blindly. There are actual language courses based on these techniques. Yes, there are false friends, and that's when the meaning needs to be given.
  36. 1 point
    Yes, it's a way. But warning ! There are also fake friends. For example, "dramatic" means "spectacular" whereas the french word "dramatique" means "tragic".
  37. 1 point
    In french, it's "appétit" In France, we don't say "elevateur" but "ascenseur". One more thing. There are also "accents" like é, à, è...
  38. 1 point
    One word we have in English is 'avon' as a name of a few rivers. In Welsh, 'afon' (f pronounced as in 'of') is simply the general word for 'river.' In fact, it can mean 'a river'. If you look at the list above, you'll see the word for 'a head'. 'A white head' is 'pen gwyn' believed to be the source of the English word penguin, even though penguin heads are black as I'm sure we all know. 'The head' is 'y pen' and 'the river' is 'yr afon'. Another Welsh word we have in English is 'eisteddfod' the <dd> being the [dh] sound like in 'the'. In English it is the word for the Welsh festival of things like music and poetry. But in Welsh it apparently just means 'a session'. 'The session' would be 'yr eisteddfod'. Another feature Welsh shares with French is a thing called liason. In French, it's only a matter of pronouncing word-final consonants before words beginning with vowels, like a/an in English and indeed y/yr in Welsh, the latter meaning 'the'. In Wesh, this linking of words connected in meaning also affects initial consonants, causing mutations mentioned above. Going back to the word for 'session' it is a compound word. 'Eistedd' means 'sit' or 'to sit' and 'bod' means 'to be'. Note what happens to 'bod' when combined with 'eistedd'. These are the sort of words I mean. Regarding Northern English, the North Country counting jargon is an example, having something to do with Welsh numbers. Before we get to an example, here are the first four numbers in Welsh, and they can actually be related back to Latinate numbers we use in English: *Yn - This can be related back to 'uni' in English, as in uniform, unicycle, unicorn, etc. And indeed also to 'Uno' which means 'One' in Italian, for us it's the name of a card game. *Dau - prounced 'die', it can be related back to the Latin derived 'duo' in English. *Tri - Although Welsh has both [th] and [dh] (the latter written as <dd>) it sounds like the English word with [t] instead. And it is spelled like the tri- in worlds like triangle and tricyle, coming again from Latin. *Pedwar - We have Quadra in English in words like Quadralateral, Quadracep, etc. The <qu>/[kw] is a 'p' in Welsh, because Welsh is P-Celtic. If you've seen that country jargon, you will have seen 'pimp' for 'five'. It is pronounced the same in Welsh but written like the English word 'pump'. And that's how the <u> is generally pronounced in Welsh. The formal British pronunciation of <oo> as in 'food' is what is written as <w> in Welsh. While <w> can also be a consonant, as in names like 'Gwenth' and 'Gwernol', <y> is always a vowel in Welsh, pronounced as in 'Sydenham'.
  39. 1 point
    @Miss Chief Thanks for posting the language tree. This is actually the same picture that I used for the profile picture. This is interesting. Also, the German word for window is Fenster, it is very similar. What is the pronunciation of this word?
  40. 1 point
    @Alex I highly recommend her 2005 album Aerial if you haven't heard it.
  41. 1 point
    I've just seen a very interesting short documentary on the Welsh language S4C channel about a young man with autism: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p033zb7q/sign/taith-fawr-y-dyn-bach-cyfres-2013-daniel Although the documentary is in Welsh there are English subtitles.
  42. 1 point
    Here are a few jazz rock/fusion albums that I have heard and enjoy - unlike @Sanctuary These albums combine jazz with other influences, notably rock, folk, symphonic or psychedelic. More information can be found here http://www.progarchives.com/subgenre.asp?style=30 Santana - Abraxas (1970) Santana - Caravanserai (1972) Miles Davis - Bitches Brew (1970) Herbie Hancock - Crossings (1972) Mahavishnu Orchestra - Birds of Fire (1973) Mahavishnu Orchestra - The Inner Mounting Flame (1971) Ayres Rock - Beyond (1976) Blood, Sweat & Tears - Child is Father to the Man (1968) Sloche - Stadacone (1976) Modry Efekt and Radim Hladik (1974) Modry Efekt - Svitanie (1979) Out of Focus - Out of Focus (1971) Opus-5 - Contre-Courant (1976) If - If 2 (1970) If - If 3 (1971) If - Waterfall (1972) Arco Iris - Sudamerica (1972) Arte e Mestieri - Tilt (1974) Zingale - Peace (1977) Brother Ape - Karma (2017) Lot Lorien and Theodosii Spassov - Live in Ohrid (2009) Eela Craig - Eela Craig (1971) Deux ex Machina - Cinque (2002)
  43. 1 point
    I do feel that people with AS are more likely than others to value privacy due to having more "self-contained" personalities and valuing independence. As such they can particularly value living by themselves and find it harder when others come into their living space, whether those people are friends, family or other visitors such as those doing checks and maintenance. Aspies - particularly those living alone - may develop home lives that suit them but strike others as unconventional, e.g. not being very interested in home improvements, having unusual eating or sleeping habits. When visitors come, scheduled or otherwise, unconventional arrangements may come under scrutiny or efforts need to be made beforehand to "cover them up" to seem more conventional. The person with AS may feel judged. Unscheduled visits or ones at very short notice can be harder for someone with AS to deal with as they are more likely to have routines which are then disrupted. I suppose these things become easier the more often they happen but they may always be difficult to some degree. There can also be a tension as regards receiving support from friends, families or others. This support can be very valuable but it also means giving up some independence or privacy. Sometimes the support may not always be required but can be hard to change when others are used to giving it. Some friends, family but occasionally support workers may also worry that a person on the spectrum needs their interventions. Some of them may have misunderstandings that AS (in particular) makes a person vulnerable and in need of a lot of support but that well-intentioned (and often useful) support can restrict independence and sometimes be intrusive. The key is probably to commend people for their good intentions but advise them when their support is no longer needed or can be scaled back. It's not always easy to do that but it can be beneficial for all concerned in the long run.
  44. 1 point
    I totally understand the embarrassment. I think the best course of action here is to try and limit your interactions as much as possible with the person and try and keep it casual if you see them or their kids outside. Just smile and say hi if you choose and then say you have to go and continue on your walk. I think the idea of sending an apology note could be okay, as you could take your time to say what you want to say. I know that I am better at writing things down if I really want to say something. I think it helps also that the person has the opportunity to read and take in all you have to say without interrupting. I think we on the spectrum tend to overthink things and overexplain things a lot... which can make it worse. I have learned it is best to let things go. It helps when I write out what happened and how it makes me feel because at least I know my truth is written somewhere. I know it is difficult to move past it. I know with me, I do not like thinking others are upset with me. But I think at this moment, you both need time away from each other to settle and cool down and hopefully, in the future, you can be comfortable around each other again to be friends. Don't feel bad though, I think this situation got blown out of hand and hopefully, things settle down. It might be a good idea some time to let them know you have Aspergers or are on the spectrum and sometimes have trouble explaining yourself and hope they can give you the time to listen and that you did not mean any harm by what you said... but I think some time away might be good first. And just try to move past the incident as best as you can.
  45. 1 point
    Pretty much everything listed above. I'd add poor executive functioning skills, constantly misinterpreting what people are saying, constantly misunderstood by what I say, easily stressed, a need to break assignments by details- the big picture is way too overwhelming, processing information can take days, weeks, or months, and chit-chat is physically painful. There's more, but these are my daily frustrations.
  46. 1 point
    Apsergers is from birth and therein is the acid test in diagnosing ASC - rather than acquired brain injury or anxiety / depression etc Myself - I did not know how to play with toys like other kids. Many toys seemed pointless and things like cars would just be lined up. I was dogmatic and could only understand things in a practical pragmatic sense ... so religion did not make sense - I did not understand idioms at all - or anything cryptic - I would get overwhelmed in public places - narrow range of interest - was quite a concrete thinker - I had a strong sense of being trapped in a body - I did not fit in socially - .... etc. ... there are so many fluid aspects that change as we move on through life There are online tests
  47. 1 point
    Because: 1. I was diagnosed. 2. Because I can relate to the experiences of other people who have it. 3. I know that I'm different to most other people, and other possible conditions or explanations don't explain it/cover it adequately.
  48. 1 point
    Ich spreche kein Deutsch, aber ich mag die Idee, es zu lernen. Ich bin niederländisch, also denke ich, dass es Ähnlichkeiten zwischen ihr und meiner Sprache gibt, die das Lernen erleichtern. Ich hoffe, ich habe das alles richtig geschrieben.
  49. 1 point
    Yes. Im always curled up on the couch with a book or just dozing, and my cat comes in and joins me. I always think we are just two of the same kind. Shes really sensitive to noise, and hates people. So whenever we hear a noise outside, a neighbour or footsteps of a postman, we both perk our heads up prepared to run haha. Unfortunately if there is someone coming she gets to hide under the bed or jump out the window and I have to do the people stuff.
  50. 1 point
    I think you are right that you have learnt to manage your Aspergers and this has lead to your AS traits being less obvious. This does not mean that you no longer have it, just that you avoid the situations where it has been a problem in the past. As with Autism in general, Aspergers is a sliding scale of intensity. I have a mental image of a grid of 500 squares, each one representing a trait of AS. For each person they will tick a differnet ammount and combination of those traits within their character. For a diagnosis of AS they would need to tick between a third and two thirds of those squares. Below a third would be NT and above two thirds would be classic autism. for every person who is in the AS 'zone' they will have their own combination of traits. Some of them will be outwardly obvious and some may be more hidden. This means that each AS person cannot be the same as another and so comparisons person to person are misleading. I realise this is a very simplistic and non scientific representation, but it helps me to understand the intricacies of ASD.
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