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  1. 6 points
    Be VERY careful here - really, because it would be such a shame if you were to demonise your own perceptions of reality in favour of societies. Reality is whatever YOU want it to be. If you think it, you'll eventually become it. FACT. I don't care what anybody says, the mind is the most powerful force in the universe (next to God). You can argue the toss as much as you want, I'm where I want to be in life because of the way I think. I'm not depressed - because I'm fulfilling my authentic self. I'm not anxious because I'm aware that the future doesn't exist - only the here and now exists. I don't lack confidence because I'm limited to only one edition. No one else can do the things I do in the style I do them in - just like you. Society wants you to conform because they want you at the same level as them - they're not brave enough to be as unique as you. Don't let them stop you.
  2. 6 points
    I love being in my own little world as well. I accept I need to socialize with other people and actually can enjoy it sometimes. Although I feel frustrated other times because I don't always have the best responses and feel awkward a lot of the time. It is so good to be able to retreat into my shell and do my own thing. I think it also comes with maybe being an introvert as well... Introverts get their energy from within and are drained being with other people. This world often seems designed for extraverts who get energy from other people but there are a lot of people who are introverts who prefer their own company. And many in between.
  3. 5 points
    Sometimes I really hate "the real world". I very much prefer my own world. And it's hard when living in your own world is demonized by pretty much everyone. Even me. I constantly have this voice in my head that tells me I'm a weirdo or crazy or just lazy and that I'll never achieve anything because I simply don't want to be here enough to do so. I try to become invested in worldly affairs, I have since I was a child. And it never gets easier and it always hurts. I just want to be in here, in my world, where it's infinite yet safe, challenging yet without demand, stimulating but not obnoxious. But I'm not supposed to. I'm supposed to want these designated things and be an active participant, because if I'm not, there's something wrong with me. I'm tired. I'm past a meltdown. I don't have the energy for that. I'm just....tired.
  4. 5 points
    I just want to be able to do my own thing and for other people to accept that I don't necessarily want to do what they want to do, or that I have my own ideas about things. I'm not hurting anybody, just being different, and if people can't accept that, they they have the issue, not me.
  5. 5 points
    Come on, man. Let's try to raise the level here a bit. Don't contribute to the deterioration of society by acting and expressing yourself this way.
  6. 5 points
    I got diagnosed because I thought I had AS so we can definitely know about it. Here is a quote from the National Autistic Society: "It's quite common for people to have gone through life without an autism diagnosis, feeling that somehow they don't quite fit in." Link here: http://www.autism.org.uk/about/diagnosis/adults.aspx
  7. 4 points
    I do not think it is a substitute for friends, no. I don't mind the story, it is a sweet gesture of the sister to want to do something like that for her brother. Though a few close friends are better than a lot of strangers giving you cards & gifts, in my opinion.
  8. 4 points
    I am one who actually likes the routine of getting up at the same time each morning. I think because for a long time I had weird work shifts with fast food so I sometimes had late shifts and other times I had morning shifts, and it was difficult for me. I really did not like evening work shifts because I felt like I had work hanging over my head the whole day and couldn't do anything productive. I prefer morning work shifts as I can get work done and then come home, eat dinner and relax. Though it is difficult now that I am working full time to find time to get things done. Lucky my boyfriend can be helpful a lot of the time so it takes some of the pressure off me. Sometimes it gets tiring but for the most part I like my routine. I get up at 6 am and have coffee and toast (or some other breakfast but I usually have toast) and watch something on YouTube or Netflix or just browse the internet while I eat, and then my alarm goes off at 6:50 am (phone alarm) and I know it's time to get ready, get dressed and make sure my bag and lunch are in order. Sometimes it is difficult to know what to wear or I might have nothing prepared for lunch but so far so good. I know what time I need to leave at. And as a plus, my current job is so relaxed and I know what I am going to do most days so that is so nice. The worst thing is my commute as I have to take public transit but I am mostly good with it. I think why it might be difficult for some people on the spectrum is the change in routine, many on the spectrum might prefer to sleep in and stay up late, and also if the motivation is not there... if you do not like your job or school, then it would be more difficult to get up. I am much much more happy to go to work now than previous jobs. Not to brag or anything but I am just content. Not that it doesn't feel difficult sometimes and sometimes I don't want to go to work but I then think of the money and how I actually don't mind my job and that I like it better than previous jobs and I get through it.
  9. 4 points
    I agree but I think NT's probably deal with it better, where as I seem to completely shut down and stop going (like I did at school) because I found it too tiring and pressuring Where as I could manage 2 or 3 days of school (or work) no problem, but anything more I get burnt out mentally pretty quickly and then just shut down.. (which makes everything worse for me, as then don't want to go back, feel I've let people down, get depressed etc) it makes me sound really lazy but I'm not, I know I have good intentions !
  10. 4 points
    Life is stressful sometimes especially when you reach adulthood. You're not lazy. Everyone has different perspectives on everything because everyone is different I think. The key thing to me is really not care what people think. I'm still working that of course, but I think it's important not to care about others think because then you feel happier and have a better attitude.
  11. 4 points
    I don't think anyone would label themselves with Aspergers if they didn't really have it. Finding out is a relief, but it's also a shock and not the most fun realization. If you've done your research and know you have it, own it. Besides, doctors like to label people 'depressed' and then put them on meds. Easy fix, big money. Ditto. Reading my teacher's notes on my kindergarten report cards is very telling.
  12. 4 points
    Not, not true - People with Asperger's without a diagnosis grow up feeling that they don't fit in, can't relate or connect, or feel that others treat them differently. We can see that we are being treated differently, we can see that we are different. We might not know that it is Asperger's specifically, but we usually know that we are different. I would see a different doctor and get a second opinion from someone who is better informed about autism.
  13. 4 points
    When I was a kid, my dad used to play Supertramp and Manfred Mann's Earth Band in the car on our road trips to, for example Norway. I really liked the music back then, and for years and years, Blinded By the Light (by Manfred Mann's Earth Band) used to be my favourite song of all time. When I became a teenager I got heavily into heavy metal. I think my first band was either System of a Down or Rammstein, I loved it. I sort of didn't discover a lot of new music at the time though, for whatever reason, apart from Pendulum (an electronic Drum and Bass band), but then when I turned 17, I was exposed to a song by Rush on a TV show called Chuck. It was Tom Sawyer, and I loved it. I thought it was so interesting and different that I decided to look up the band on Youtube and Wikipedia, and I discovered that they were a Progressive Rock band, a genre I didn't really know what was at the time. At that time I also read about related bands and came across the name Dream Theater, which I found to be an interesting name, and it sort of made me think about Halloween and pumpkins for some reason. I didn't really check them out though until... Fast forward a year or so, I was 18, it was the year I joined Asperclick funnily enough (4 years ago now), I heard a song on an internet radio for metal on iTunes.. It was an obscure instrumental piece by Dream Theater called Raw Dog... It was almost as if the band wanted me to discover it! Sounds crazy, I know. I thought it was good, but I forgot about it again... Then at some point later that year, for some reason I decided to look up Dream Theater again, and I found The Spirit Carries On, which was soon to be my new favourite song of all time... I thought it was good too, but for some reason I still didn't look them up further... It wasn't until the summer of that same year, 2013, that I was in a record store and I saw Dream Theater's Metropolis Part 2: Scenes From a Memory, and I was thinking to myself that that was the band I had stumbled upon on several occasions, and I bought it. When I came home that day, I remember being all alone at home, and I decided to listen to my new mysterious CD... I put it on and lay in bed... and immediately, especially as I heard the opening to Overture 1928, I was blown away. My perception of music had changed forever. It was the most incredible-sounding music I had ever listened to... I even remember being in tears over the beauty of songs such as The Spirit Carries On and Through Her Eyes... I became a Dream Theater super-nerd. I even remember posting about it on this forum and Nesf (thanks by the way) told me that their genre were Progressive Metal. That band changed my life, I swear to god. Well, the rest is history, but basically my search for other prog rock and metal bands started from Dream Theater and it was because I wanted to find similar bands, and also bands that had inspired them, like the classics Yes, King Crimson, Genesis... Even though I didn't realise the genre of the music until my late teens, Progressive Rock and Metal music has become my go-to music, that I never get tired of, even though I love other kinds of music like the electronic chill out stuff such as Zero 7, and other completely different types of music. Oh dear, that became a long post! But I think that covers my story pretty well Thanks to anyone who reads. Cheers and prog on!
  14. 4 points
    First, you gotta understand that you aren't 'defective' and grasp that concept. Everyone reacts in different ways to conflict and rough times. Aspies usually struggle with emotion regulation (they feel too much and have meltdowns, they feel too numb/overwhelmed and shut down, or even both), so it's understandable you react that way when facing obstacles or when something goes wrong. It's part of the condition and it's not a 'wrong' way of reacting, just different. You will meet people who won't understand this. Those are ignorant or seriously lack empathy. Luckily, some will at least sympathize if you explain what affects you and why. Once you understand this, develop tolerance and patience towards yourself. How I cope now? I go to a nice corner, the bed or the couch, I listen to music, put on comfy clothes and socks and wait for my body to process what's happening at its own pace. Maybe you can have a calming playlist or a coloring book on your devices, or watch your favorite movie? Self-care comes first. If you're outside, make sure you can leave the place, go to a green area with a bench, breathe. I repeat: self-care comes first. You can also avoid the temptation of self-harming by getting away from dangerous objects and engaging in a activity that keeps your mind busy, text a friend/acquaintance and ask for help. Post on places like this forum. Once you start texting or posting, the urge to harm yourself will gradually fade away. I hope it works for you as it has for me. Stay safe.
  15. 3 points
    Gone home has offered some very good advice. All of us have done things we shouldn't have in our pasts, whether that's a desire to fit in with the neurotypical world or a response to the difficulties we face in our lives. They may be things that we regret but those feelings of regret are themselves positive as they show we know we did wrong whereas there are plenty of people who have done bad things and feel no sense of guilt at all. Also accept that any wrongs we have done are mitigated by these difficulties - we didn't do these things out of selfishness or lack of morality but pushed by circumstances. Sometimes we can atone for past wrongdoing but that isn't always possible. What matters most is what we are doing now - are we now doing the right things and heading in the right direction. Feelings of frustration, even despair, are common, especially to many people on the spectrum who have had to cope with more than their fair share of difficult times. Giving up or running away - in whatever forms those take - are very tempting options but it's better not to be defeated. Take on the challenges and see what can be achieved. Even if you're not successful you will have stood up to those problems but you may well overcome them or be better placed to take on future events. Giving up just means certain defeat and that presents its own indignity that then has to be faced. Keep going and I hope things get better.
  16. 3 points
    Life can be more challenging when one has principles and conscience. I certainly get the not wanting to be here thing and have had very strong impulses to arrange that (due to some bullying from a couple of corrupt work related care organisations) ... but obviously not done. It can be a problem when we burn out ... especially when life has got in the way of therapeutic interests. It takes time to get over. For me my interests keep me functioning well ... sort of akin to charging batteries and simplifying + strengthening resolve. Interests help oppose that pointless feeling ... though it does take a while to get back that zest after prolonged periods of problems. All these depressing periods eventually pass as long as thats the aim. Anxiety is worrying about imagined future scenarios ... we can frighten ourselves by what we imagine ...trying to imagine better scenarios is more useful if you can. I imagine your feelings are common
  17. 3 points
    Because: 1. I was diagnosed. 2. Because I can relate to the experiences of other people who have it. 3. I know that I'm different to most other people, and other possible conditions or explanations don't explain it/cover it adequately.
  18. 3 points
    If you have friends, then maybe you can chat with them on facebook, maybe even arrange to meet up with them in real life if you feel like it. It's so hard to keep in contact with my friends, especially since I'm not in school anymore, but I try to contact them every month or two, unless they contact me first. If you don't have any friends, then I suggest going out in public occasionally and doing something. For me, the only time I really go out is when I go out to eat or go shopping, but maybe you can find other things to do.
  19. 3 points
    Yes, it sounds like she's not being fair to you. You could send what you wrote in your post to her via email (or an edited version of it) to tell her how you feel. Is she older than you? Older siblings often assume a dominant role over younger siblings, and then try to maintain it in adulthood when it isn't appropiate. My older sister was a bit like this, she was very bossy and trying to control/dominate me, and it frequently lead to conflict and resentment. I rarely talk to her now. When I was diagnosed with Asperger's, my younger sister was supportive and helped me with filling in forms, etc, but my older sister was completely indifferent.
  20. 3 points
    I can't believe I'm about to say this, but perhaps it's worth popping into the Job Centre (I know, swear word) and asking about what courses are available - and by courses I mean career coaching, etc. In 2010 when I was well and truly in the shit, I had an appointed personal advisor and an advocate from two separate work based programs. One was organised by the Job Centre, and the other I sourced myself from searches - and yes, this was an agency specific for disabled people - whether physical, mental or otherwise. I don't think it's a case of being incapable, I just think you're in the wrong jobs. With coaching, an advocate will sit down with you, work with you, and get you to take work based psychology tests to determine your best career path. Because you shouldn't be getting to the two year mark and walking out, you should just be getting into your stride and chasing down that promotion/bonus.
  21. 3 points
    Depends... Some aspies like the idea of structure, routine and predictability I certainly do I like schedules and timetables and don't like it when things change suddenly. I also tend to function better in the morning
  22. 3 points
    I work in the healthcare industry. I think it's important to realize that everyone was different (even people with Aspergers) and have different strengths. But I think strengths of people with Aspergers are generally effective for every industry. In my area, I've been seeing more and more people hire people with intellectual disabilities so hopefully we're moving in the right direction with hiring neurodiverse people.
  23. 3 points
    I thinik it's true that we can become overwhelmed more easily than most people, though it's not exclusively ASD thing. It becomes easier once it is incorperated into the daily routine.
  24. 3 points
    Farming - it's the only job I'm willing to do for someone else. After that, I work for myself. The world is too coperate and full of bullshit these days. As a herdsman, I work to my own schedule and only deal with vets and contractors who are all on my side and speaking my language. I spend 80% of my life on my own. The other 20% is by choice.
  25. 3 points
    I get those same nagging thoughts. I like what Asperger expert Tony Attwood said, that aspies are basically hermit monks born in the wrong era.
  26. 3 points
    Yes. Im always curled up on the couch with a book or just dozing, and my cat comes in and joins me. I always think we are just two of the same kind. Shes really sensitive to noise, and hates people. So whenever we hear a noise outside, a neighbour or footsteps of a postman, we both perk our heads up prepared to run haha. Unfortunately if there is someone coming she gets to hide under the bed or jump out the window and I have to do the people stuff.
  27. 3 points
    Yes its hard because a party for the kids is also an excuse for the adults to have a party too Guess you just have to bite the bullet, keep reminding yourself that it's only for a short time and you can just play with the kids without having to interact much with the adults
  28. 3 points
    I'm one of the older members of the forum. This forum is the only one that I actively participate in at the moment, and I would say that there is a fairly even distribution of people of all different ages, with different interests. Just as well, because it it were all about Snapchat or video games or other stuff that the younger generation is typically more into, then I wouldn't fit in here at all. I like that there are people of all different ages, with different interests and coming from different walks of life. I once belonged to a chat group where the participants were mostly a lot younger than me - I did find it a bit difficult and I didn't think I fit in, but that was for various reasons that weren't necessarily to do with the age of the participants.
  29. 3 points
    Either the entire forum is younger then you and thinks your a wierdo or the entire forum is super mature and older and thinks your nuts?
  30. 3 points
    I tend to feel people are a lot older and wiser than me on the internet. But I also get the feeling sometimes that people are younger than me when they know all about Snapchat. I feel okay on this forum though, I feel sort of middle in age and nobody thinks I'm a weirdo (I hope)
  31. 3 points
    The statement made by the doctor is very worrying - that she could have such a view and then be involved in the diagnosis process. Is she your GP or a specialist of some kind? Even if she is your GP rather than a specialist in AS she should know better or at the very least refrain from taking a view and refer you to someone more informed. GPs are the gatekeepers to more expert analysis and diagnosis and they need to be very careful about ruling out AS (or any other condition) unless they are certain of their facts. Unfortunately I think these sorts of views and other misleading ones about AS can deter many people from seeking a diagnosis. As others have mentioned many who have AS have had years of feeling different - and other people often making it clear they are "different". They have often tried very hard not to be different and found they cannot do so. There may be a small number of Aspies who genuinely don't feel themselves to be different but I imagine the great majority are only too aware that they "don't fit in". It's certainly a case of getting a second - hopefully more genuinely expert - opinion.
  32. 3 points
    I don't believe thats true. It may be for some, but aspies tend to be observant. I think most will know they are different ...
  33. 3 points
    I think that "different, not less" is a good mantra to have whenever you start to think of yourself as defective.
  34. 2 points
    I hope you're doing better. Just wanted to give you an update--my game plan worked! I started the new group today, went in deciding to be 100% myself and was given a warm welcome. It's opened up a door to several options for volunteer work. I'm happy for the first time in months. I encourage you to make your own game plan for a fresh start, fairytattgirl. You deserve to be yourself and to be happy!
  35. 2 points
    Pretty much everything listed above. I'd add poor executive functioning skills, constantly misinterpreting what people are saying, constantly misunderstood by what I say, easily stressed, a need to break assignments by details- the big picture is way too overwhelming, processing information can take days, weeks, or months, and chit-chat is physically painful. There's more, but these are my daily frustrations.
  36. 2 points
    I think making diagnosis's on youtube videos is stretching it a bit (quite alot actually). There are many potential reasons why a person might be uncomfortable on film. Having to endure patronising interviews which are more about his father and ageing rockers rather than him might be one reason ...
  37. 2 points
    Bear in mind though that the cast are professional actors who are much more skilled than ordinary people at performing emotions. Comparisons are often misleading but even more so when we make the comparisons with experts and trained performers. Making comparisons with those who don't have AS (some of whom also have difficulties expressing emotions) is also not helpful though I'm as guilty of it as anyone. It's best to accept and work within our limitations where they occur but also realise that AS gives us strengths in other areas.
  38. 2 points
    A real friend is someone who genuinely wishes you well. I like the story.
  39. 2 points
    Yes, I do have this issue when I visit a large city, partly because I live in a very small town without much traffic where crossing the street isn't usually an issue. Many drivers where I live are not mindful/respectful of the rights of pedestrians. I deal with it by crossing at an intersection and waiting for the green man. Not always convenient, but at least I know that the traffic is going to stop for me to cross.
  40. 2 points
    I didn't find this difficult when I was at school, maybe because I was too young to appreciate that it's depressing and I really liked my routine of going to school every day. It probably helped that I enjoyed school too. I don't go to work as an adult but I do have a schedule of activities I'm meant to get up to go to every day and I find it really depressing and difficult and lately, I haven't been going as much due to it. I would never cope with the pressure of getting up to work 5 days a week, plus physically I wouldn't cope either because I need a lot of rest and I don't sleep well. I this it's normal but I think NT's can cope with it even though they may complain about it. Whereas, Autistic people are much less likely to cope and just hit burnout really quickly and can't do it anymore, possibly from higher cortisol and higher arousal levels in the brain.
  41. 2 points
    I'm like this too. I have to pump myself up even for something as simple as laundry day. I don't know if it's an aspie thing, but I do believe we get overwhelmed a lot easier than NTs, and I've read several articles saying our bodies produce too much Cortisol.
  42. 2 points
    Thanks for highlighting the article Aeolienne. Clearly there are some positive developments but overall a huge amount needs to be done. Too many employers "talk the talk" and too few "walk the walk" when it comes to employing more people on the autistic spectrum - or indeed addressing other diversity issues. Some employers are insincere and even prejudiced but will say the right things in public. Others are more genuine but still see employing more workers on the spectrum and treating them with proper consideration as a low priority. Some are much more committed but get "cold feet" when it comes to making actual employment decisions. A few are fully committed and really do make a difference. Often - as in the company highlighted in the article - their aspirations will have been shaped by personal connections to autism. In too few cases are there employers without that connection who are still prepared to take real action. Sometimes - as mentioned in the article - other workers and colleagues are part of the problem and can make life very difficult for workers on the spectrum and this can be a reason (not a justification) for employers not taking appropriate action. I feel real improvement in employment opportunities is only likely to happen when there are targets for employing workers on the spectrum and proper enforcement when these are not met, or appropriate adjustments are not made in the workplace. All too often employers think that statements in policies or on websites that they are "autism-friendly" or words to that effect are enough. Or they may feel that offering a token interview to someone with AS shows that are autism-friendly. Real action involves actually employing people, in good conditions and on good contracts. It does have to be said though that a major issue is that so many people with AS are undiagnosed or their diagnosis is not declared (perhaps due to fear of stereotyping and discrimination) and so assessing their progress - or lack of it - in the workplace is difficult. However when employers are aware that an applicant / employee is on the spectrum they need to give them proper opportunities and consideration. Finally I agree with Nesf that the article can help to reinforce the view that people with AS are all IT experts or adept with other technical and numerical enterprises. Clearly some of them are but there are many on the spectrum are skilled in other areas and can be very good employees in many other jobs.
  43. 2 points
    I had depression and severe anxiety recently diue to an illness, so I started taking antidepressants. Taken in the right dose, they can help, though I don't see them as a long-term solution. I get through the week by promising myeslf a treat at the weekend, that gives me a pleasant, positive thought that keeps me going through the week. I also take exercise and keep busy - I have projects that I work on, so I don't dwell too much on negative thoughts.
  44. 2 points
    It's certainly true that people who feel themselves to be outsiders and have low self-esteem - which includes many Aspies and some neurotypicals - want to rectify these situations and see being as helpful and cooperative as possible as the ways to do so. While these strategies can help - and in general it's good to be helpful - they don't always work. As mentioned it's easy to be taken advantage of and to be seen as a "pushover". As David suggested the opposite approach of standing up for oneself and being prepared to say "No" can produce an even more negative response. Aspies and other outsider groups can find themselves in a no-win situation - soak things up, don't complain and try to help others and you're weak and a pushover; stand up for yourself and challenge those who take advantage and you're being confrontational. Gone home is right that we have to be aware of our limitations. Sometimes people may value our help but if it leaves us very stressed we risk burn-out and no-one benefits in the long run. it's certainly not worth being helpful for people who don't appreciate it and who are ungrateful. Sometimes we are more productive to others in the long-run if we put our own welfare first. There is no value in being a martyr and always trying to put other people first - unless maybe they're willing to do the same. It's hard to know where to draw the line. I am certainly someone who tends to be unassertive and prone to guilt. Perhaps the best guide is not to make any special efforts for those who don't show gratitude and to stop "giving" when you start to feel the strain. Saying "No" also doesn't have to be confrontational - it can be a matter of politely saying "I'm sorry but I can't help" or words to that effect.
  45. 2 points
    Be the kind of person that you'd be afraid to lose - and be unashamedly autentic and straight talking. Shoot from the heart, you won't go wrong.
  46. 2 points
    Psychotic is a delusional state of mind where you imagine things and lose touch with reality. I read psychotics feel they have special powers which is also assumed to be part of the disorder. However I believe mental illness can trigger ESP phenomena or Savant symptoms.
  47. 2 points
    The other day I almost had an argument with my husband. We are both Aspies. We don't argue often, but when we do, it's really bad. I think it's because our lives sort of revolve around each other. Neither of us are social, and we are each other's best friend. So if something goes wrong in our relationship, it feels like the world is falling apart. By "wrong in our relationship", I mean we have a spat. Every time this has happened, it has been about ego. And he is better at arguing them I am. I'm the same as you, when I feel like an argument is really going wrong, I shut down and just want to hide. I think it derives from pride. I tend to be very prideful; I am often the smartest, most capable person in the room, but when I'm not, or if I'm losing an argument, I'm embarrassed and want to just put my head in a hole and make it go away. It's really my downfall. I have plenty of strengths and I actively try to overcome my weakness. But my biggest one is my pride/ego. And I don't handle confrontation well at all. So the other day when we almost had an argument, my husband had this idea, that we start talking about how we felt by stating it like," my ego is telling me that you think I'm a problem for you, blah, blah," instead of just venting chaotically. It changed everything. It's a specific tip for a specific situation, but on the whole, I think it helps to do your best to take a step back and observe yourself objectively. It's really hard to do when your go-to is shutting down and isolating, and sometimes, that's exactly what you should do. Either way, I just try to keep a finger on my emotional pulse and assess the best course of action. If I feel myself getting crazy mad or upset, I will try to say, as calmly as possible," I'm going to a bad place, I'm gonna go be alone for awhile. Everything will be fine." And yes, for the majority of my life I have felt wrong and defective. Especially before I was diagnosed. The way I handled it is similar to way I handle it now, which is that I try to remember time. Whatever has brought you to this place, it will pass. Sometimes everything is pretty much fine, and then the bottom drops out and I feel like everything is pointless and I'm biding my time until I have permission to die. I can go to a really dark place. But there's this little beacon of hope I try to be aware of, and that is that it will pass. And I feel like I imagine things to be worse than they really are. That's been the case almost always. I call it borrowing trouble. Also, words have power over the unconscious mind. Words are like incantations to the spirit. I have some mantras. One of them is, " I am whole and complete." You may ruminate on some meaningful words, words that describe you as you want to be. Then say that that is who you are. You will start to believe it. I hope you feel better really soon!
  48. 2 points
    Welcome to the new members Prism and Alex! @Prism I grew up with Queen because my mum was really into it (and still is), and I also prefer their earlier albums. In the 80s I knew Genesis and Yes as being more mainstream, poppy groups and so I didn't pay much attention until a lot later when I heard some of their earlier work on a compilation CD that I had bought and thought, hey, I need to investigate this! @Alex I first heard Dream Theater - Metropolis Part 2: Scenes from a Memory near the time it came out, in late 1999 or early 2000 when I borrowed it from someone, but I had to give it back so didn't listen to it for a while, then later, I saw Train of Thought in a shop and remembered that I had liked the other album and so I bought it. I really love Six Degrees of Inner Turbulence. For me Rush's Tom Sawyer was also one of the songs that I heard early on that lead me to getting into prog - and Spirit of Radio.
  49. 2 points
    I started listening to Queen (early proggy Queen) and Yes with my siblings when I was around 5 (and probably other prog bands like Genesis from time to time, but those memories are foggy). That's how I got into it. I've always liked it without thinking about the genre.
  50. 2 points
    Hey! I was so happy to see that there is a prog rock club on the forum. I didn't know. I'm glad to be a member I'm a big big fan of Porcupine Tree and Steven Wilson's solo work and I just found this song today, which is an outtake of his newest album, To The Bone, and it sounds like old Porcupine Tree. Enjoy!