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  1. 18 points
    Just wanted to tell you all that, after a very long, hard road, my book is finally complete! It's release date is the 2nd April (World Autism Awareness Day). It's around 70,000 words long (376 pages). The foreword is written by the lovely Liane Holliday Willey, EdD and I am very honored that she was able to do this for me! Also, to run alongside the book, there will be an interactive timeline, which will consist of various videos, photographs, letters and artwork that fit with each chapter. This will be available within the next week. http://www.willowhope.com/products/the-other-side-living-with-aspergers-syndrome I wrote this book to try and help other people with Asperger Syndrome, and their families. I hope that my experiences and the way I have dealt with situations will guide others so that they can further understand themselves, feel less alone, and hopefully go about getting the help they need – whether that’s a diagnosis, or just ways to cope as a person on the spectrum, in a world full of people who see things differently. I talk about my childhood and how that fits into place and makes sense to me now that I am diagnosed. I also speak about my struggles through school and my teenage years, and how this was the most difficult time in my life, but was also when I found out I was on the spectrum. I then go on to talk about my partner and my new life with him; my various projects on raising awareness of the Autistic Spectrum and how I have learnt to cope with being an Aspie living in a normal world. “WillowHope, like many people on the autism spectrum, is a visual thinker. She can peek back to her earliest memories and bring them to life with detail and elaboration as fresh and vivid as a sharply taken photograph. WillowHope’s story is like her name, filled with hope. She expresses her memories with articulate thoughts that bring the reader into the world of Asperger syndrome and autism.” – from the foreword by Liane Holliday Willey Publish Date: 2nd April 2014 (Autism Awareness Day) Category: Self Help | Asperger Syndrome | Autobiography ISBN: 978-0-9927847-5-1 Pages: 376 Author: WillowHope Foreword: Liane Holliday Willey
  2. 18 points
    So I was officially diagnosed yesterday My psychologist said I ticked pretty much all of the boxes for Aspergers Syndrome and that they already knew I had it from my initial assessment. She is sending the final report to me and my GP at the end of this week (I've already seen the draft copy though) and she is also writing me a mini report for my boss outlining that I struggle on the phones and stuff. They've referred me to an occupational therapist who is looking forward to meeting me, as she specialises in the sensory side of AS and apparently I am very sensory. I think I'm feeling every emotion at the moment. But mainly I'm happy and relieved that I finally have my diagnosis
  3. 16 points
    I guess this is more aimed at those who don't have a diagnosis. And really, my first question would be, how did you come to the conclusion that you have Aspergers? Then from that, are you getting a formal diagnosis? And if so, what will happen if they say you don't have Aspergers? But for those of you with a diagnosis, do you ever worry that it is a mis diagnosis? Either because you just feel it doesn't fit, or because you sometimes look at how other people are and worry that you're coping better so maybe you don't have it? I sometimes think that I've 'grown out' of Aspergers, until I realise that I've just learnt to cope better as I've gotten older. Though, mostly that's due to isolating myself in my home with Chris, or just on my own when he's at work. And as for going out, I rarely get out of my car unless it's somewhere I know won't be busy, or I'm familiar with it.
  4. 13 points
    I just did this as a blog post, but I'll paste it here incase it helps. I found all these myself, but please add your suggestions
  5. 13 points
    Toran - I'm quite surprised to find just how little you seem to think of Willow (and by extension, me, since there is a little about the forum we don't discuss) and how you think your personal situation excuses you for a lot of your behavior on the forum tonight... I'm not really sure where to begin. I don't want you to think I'm attacking you, (I feel like I've said this to a lot of people lately :/) I just want to try and have you understand. Try and keep that in mind when reading this. These are facts - the definition of a 'fact' being a statement based upon tangible or measurable evidence. You've derailed 2-3 threads in the last couple of days for no good reason. You've attacked other members and Willow.You have mentioned the situation with your daughter... a lot. There's nothing wrong with that and we definitely do care about that kind of stuff, but it doesn't mean you should be treated any differently or excused from the prior points. You've been abusive towards other members, you received warning points for it (details were in the warning note). Sofi has been abusive. She has received warning points. There are no favorites here or anyone that the rules don't apply to. We definitely do root for freedom of speech, provided that the speech in question isn't a direct attack/provocation of another member or posted in the wrong place. A thread where somebody is trying to organize a meet-up and make a few friends is not the right place to start a debate and start throwing accusations of discrimination. Go ahead and start a seperate thread for it (though I think Kuribo beat you to it). I haven't deleted or edited any posts here, despite you bashing Willow and the forum... is that free enough? I'm not sure why you think Willow is 'nasty' or how we've treated you unfairly. You're an honorary member, won the 'Asperclicker Award' (!!!) and we've tried to help you where possible with the forum (changing your profile picture, info, creating your signature, etc). Willow was actually going to post you the painting you ordered a while back tomorrow, just because we knew you were going through a rough time and thought you might as well have it. We're a bit disappointed to be honest. I don't have a lot else to say and am still undecided on whether it's best to nuke this thread from existence (since it's extremely... 'ugly') or leave it as a reminder for days to come of how ridiculously out of hand things can get, but lastly: We are sorry to hear about the situation with your daughter. Even those that you've angered and have lashed out tonight I'm sure don't like to hear about cases of self-harm and what-not. I for one would like to offer you support, in whatever form I can, since it's obviously taking it's toll on you. But that's extremely tough when there's what feels like a 'turf war' going on right now.
  6. 13 points
    I want to point out that it is not, and never will be, acceptable to pick on a member here, for any reason that I can think of, but especially not just because you 'don't like them' or they 'don't fit in' or they 'ruin the vibe'. None of those are good reasons. It's not a popularity contest, it's a forum for people on the spectrum and we are not the type of people to push someone out for those reasons. We’re a community and like in any other community, there will be people that don’t get along. Like I've said before, I'm not here to try and patch things up between members that don't get along, I'm just here to sort out things like spam and abuse etc which may happen, and to give the warnings out when needed. I can't be expected to act as a go between when members fall out. I expect that you would be able to come to an amicable agreement via PM, and not on the public forum, because that just leads to a negative atmosphere if it ends up spread across several threads. We have a block function and you can choose to not see anything from a certain member. Please use that rather than PM'ing me telling me that you don't get along with someone. More often than not, it will end in an argument which means that you're both likely going to end up with warning points from taking stabs at each other, and then it really does become my problem, but please, for everyone's sake, just take a step back and think about blocking them before it gets out of hand!
  7. 12 points
    There was really only one person who we could give this to (I think you all know who it will be)! Congratulations to... ...Tylermc! You will get your certificate and the Asperclick keyring, just like everyone else, but since this is the top prize, and as a personal thank you for being such a good fan, I had a 1st edition copy of The Girl In The Panda Hat printed just for you, since I know you wanted one and we don't make it anymore for sale, so I'll sign that and send it with your other prize!
  8. 12 points
    Well I've had a very hard time stopping myself from ringing him and giving him a piece of my mind (but you asked me not to so I won't). I've never come across a man who is so selfish and inconsiderate as him. He will never deserve you as a daughter and will never appreciate you for who you are. You are everything to me and Jason and we wouldn't change you for the world. I love you just as you are and always will and you can always count on the both of us to be there for you and for Chris. Don't let your dad get you down you're far better than he is and have such a caring nature that he takes advantage of. Lots of love Mumma xxx PS He should always ring first, everyone else does!
  9. 12 points
    Old stuff only, as despite being a photographer, I always forget to photograph my work (more the case I think of get rid of it as soon as possible as I have taken as much as I have taken as much as I can out of the piece and when it is finished, I always think I could have done better, so get rid fast) But ;
  10. 11 points
    Just found this on Liane's Facebook page (not sure why I've not seen it already), and thought I'd share it; it's a really great, in depth interview, which I thought might be useful for people
  11. 11 points
    We have a thread elsewhere for this: http://asperclick.com/topic/1550-autism-card/ But I'm starting this one because I wanted to include all the info in one post I've designed an 'alert' card, for those on the Autistic Spectrum to carry around with them. The idea is that if you get a bit overwhelmed or you aren't able to get your point across etc, when you're out and about in public, you can hand this card over and it will just go some way to explain why you're flapping and struggling to breathe! I've written myself, and didn't look at any other cards beforehand, because I didn't want to 'copy' any others. As you can see, it's got the WillowHope/Asperclick colour scheme etc, so it's not dull. I tried to make it a bit more 'funky' etc. than the usual ones, and not as...insulting. I don't mean that in a bad way as such, I just mean that after seeing some since designing mine, and from what I can remember from my old one, they seem to make us look kind of useless, and I just wanted this one to be worded a bit nicer. You can get them from my store here. They cost £1.50 (plus shipping) and once I've made back the money it costs to order them (pretty expensive as it turns out ) then the money will go towards the running of Asperclick and the general expenses that come from all the other things I try to do to help They will be the size and thickness and durability of a credit/debit card, so will fit into your wallet/purse and should last a long time! Front: Back:
  12. 11 points
    My local police department got back to me and would like to meet me to learn more about the work I do They said they do have a card, but they didn't say much about it, so we'll see.
  13. 10 points
    Just a reminder that this is all a bit of fun and not to be too disappointed if you didn't win anything. There are plenty more awards that we could give out, but you have to stop somewhere! We want to thank everyone for participating on the forum, however little or often, even if you're a serial lurker, it's all good and we appreciate you all!
  14. 10 points
    I'm sure I've said it before, but please, please, please hit the report button on anything which you think needs looking at by a moderator. Finding one thing in a thread is hard enough, but to recognize a member who repeatedly says something offensive is harder because there are so many members and so many threads and it's not as easy to track everything for us, as it might be for one of you to spot something, since there's so many of you to see things. Hitting report doesn't do anything automatically, it justs notifies us and we can take a look at it, it's super helpful and it makes dealing with things much more streamlined because we can go right to it, rather than hearing about it in the ranting thread and having to dig for it. If you don't use the report button, it's not fair to complain that we're not clearing things up or whatever, because if we don't know, and more importantly, if we don't know that you specifically have been offended (when to most people it might not be offensive), then we literally cannot do anything. Thanks, Willow & Chris
  15. 10 points
    What Will I Get Points For? Cooldown | 1 Point | Temporary Ban (decided by staff) | Removed After 1 Day This is used to prevent or stop arguments or public meltdowns from happening, used to limit the damage you may cause to yourself or others. Signature or Profile Violation | 5 Points |Removed After 2 Days No rude images depicting anything of a sexual nature. No GIFS. General Warning | 3 Points | Removed After 1 Day This can cover any number of small wrong doings. Excessive Advertising | 5 Points | Removed After 2 Days If all or most of your posts are advertising yourself in some way, expect to get this warning. Inappropriate Language | 5 Points | Removed After 1 Day This covers anything from swear words being used in an offensive nature towards others, to language which is purposely meant to insult another member(s). Spamming/Baiting/Arguing | 7 Points | Removed After 2 Days Repeated posting on purpose, backhanded comments, passive aggressiveness, arguing, flaming, etc. Continued Misconduct | 10 Points | Removed After 5 Days If you have been warning already about language, profile or signature violations etc., you will be given this warning. Abusive Behaviour | 15 Points | Removed After 7 Days If you have been previously warned about your behaviour towards another member(s) and you continue, you will be given this warning. Bullying | 20 Points | Never Removed (staff discretion) Extensive and continued abuse toward a member(s) after being warned more than once. What Do The Points Mean? 10 Points | Content Moderated For 1 Day 15 Points | Content Moderated For 2 Days | Restricted from Posting for 1 Day 20 Points | Content Moderated For 3 Days | Temporary Ban for 1 Day 25 Points | Ban Any number of warnings can be given, and can stack up pretty quickly if you’re on some kind of rampage, so just bear that in mind.
  16. 10 points
    Hi all I've made a new forum called 'Debates' which will be for 'Anything which will cause a heated, opinionated discussion; religion, politics etc.' I will be gradually moving threads over to this new forum which will hopefully make it more clear what kind of thing I would like to be posted there in future. Posts made in this forum do NOT count towards post count. Reason being that these threads usually get into an out of hand argument and I don't think people should be increasing their post count through an argument! I'll be honest, I do dislike having to moderate the kinds of threads which I've made this forum for; a lot of the time it's about a topic I don't fully understand or am not personally interested in and so it's harder for me to read through everything and decide who's fault the argument is etc. A lot of the time in these threads, people tend to end up launching personal attacks, which is beyond what I would like to see: a healthy debate or discussion, but keeping in mind that opinions differ and that's fine, that's life. You can't then be angry with that person elsewhere on the forum, it's not fair on everyone else for something to be dragged across the forum into unrelated discussions, because you had a different opinion to them about whatever topic you were arguing about. So, this new forum is going to be mostly unmoderated. I expect you to be mature enough to keep what goes on in this forum, in this forum, and if you really want to make it personal and continue arguing/falling out, then there's a place for that too: personal messages. Please, and I'm asking as nice as I can, don't bring unrelated anger into other threads. If something is becoming a debate in a thread elsewhere, then stop and make a thread in here about it to continue. Thank you
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  18. 9 points
    Australia Lifeline is a 24-hour nationwide service that provides access to crisis support, suicide prevention and mental health support services. Number: 13 11 14Kids Help Line is a 24-hour nationwide service that provides access to crisis support, suicide prevention and counselling services for Australians aged 5-25. Number: 1800 55 1800Canada The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline based in the United States is also available nationwide in Canada it is a 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Number: 1-800-273-8255Kids Help Phone is a nationwide 24-hour, toll-free, confidential crisis line and counselling service available to Canadians under the age of twenty. Number: 1 800 668 6868Ireland Samaritans is a registered charity aimed at providing emotional support to anyone in distress or at risk of suicide throughout Ireland. Number: 1850 60 90 90UK PAPYRUS Prevention of Young Suicide is a registered charity. It is the national charity campaigning for prevention of young suicide. It operates a helpline providing short-term support and advice for anyone concerned about themselves or a young person they know. Number: 0800 068 41 41Samaritans is a registered charity aimed at providing emotional support to anyone in distress or at risk of suicide throughout the United Kingdom. Number: 08457 90 90 90Campaign Against Living Miserably is a registered charity based in England. It was launched in March 2006 as a campaign aimed at bringing the suicide rate down among men aged 15–35. Number: 0800 58 58 58USA The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free, confidential suicide prevention hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Number: 1-800-273-8255The Trevor Project is a nationwide organization that provide crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. Number: 1-866-488-7386Europe ARMENIA - (2) 538194 - (2) 538197 - Trust Social Work and Sociological Research Centre AUSTRIA - TelefonSeelsorgeBELGIUM - 02 649 95 55 - Centrum ter Preventie van Zelfdoding BELGIUM - 106 - Tele Onthaal BELGIUM - Télé-Accueil CROATIA - Plavi Telefon (Zagreb) CYPRUS - Befrienders CZECH REPUBLIC - Krizové, poradenské a informační linky - PRAHA DENMARK - Livslin (70 201 201) ESTONIA - Usaldus: Usaldustelefonid FINLAND - Valtakunnallisesta kriisipuhelimesta kriisiapua - Puhelinnumero 01019 5202 FRANCE - 01 45 39 40 00 - Suicide Écoute FRANCE - 01 46 21 46 46 - S.O.S Help GERMANY - Telefonseelsorge GIBRALTAR - Befrienders GREECE - Τηλεφωνική Γραμμή SOS 1031 - Ο.ΚΑ.ΝΑ. HUNGARY - SOS 505 ITALY - 199 284 284 - Telefono Amico Italia ITALY - 800 848 400 - Telefono Amico Centri in Rete ITALY - 800 86 00 22 - Samaritans onlus Italia LITHUANIA - 8 800 28888 - Jaunimo psichologinės paramos centras LUXEMBOURG - 45 45 45 - SOS Detresse NETHERLANDS - 0900-0767 - Sensoor NETHERLANDS - 113 Online NETHERLANDS - SOS Telefonische Hulpdienst terecht. NORWAY - 815 33 300 - Kirkens SOS POLAND - Polskie Towarzystwo Pomocy Telefonicznej PORTUGAL - 21 354 45 45 - SOS Voz Amiga PORTUGAL - 225 50 60 70 - Voz de apoi PORTUGAL - 808 22 33 53 - Telefone da Amizade SCHWEIZ - Dargebotenen Hand Schweiz SERBIA - 021/6-623-393 - Centar Srce SWEDEN - 020-220060 - Nationella Hjälpinjen SWEDEN - Någon Att Tala Med SWITZERLAND - 027 321 21 21 - Parspas Apologies if any are outdated or non-existent. I complied this from various Google and Wikipedia searches. Feel free to add to the list.
  19. 9 points
    Wawa-weewa! I did not expect to win anything this year. Least of all the "Most Troublesome" award, which I find hilarious to be honest!... Well, apart from "Oldest, active member" which was kind of obvious, unless you didn't think I was active enough anymore, which I would have understood. And now I'm rambling Thank you so much, Willow and Chris! And everyone on Asperclick for being awesome. I shall now pull down my trousers to show my utter humble-ness, like Jack Black taught me! *Pulls down trousers* I remain, Alex
  20. 9 points
    Okay let's get this show on the road! I'll start with the Honorary status which I have decided to award to... Congrats to The Id and Miss Chief! P.S (You don't have a certificate, just the honorary member card...sorry, but I thought I'd make this one so I can show you that you've won!) P.P.S (I digitally wrote the awards I'll be posting, but I wrote the actual ones out by hand.)
  21. 9 points
    There's nothing wrong with any of you. It's society dogma that is drumming it into your heads that you are somehow not fitting a certain mould or criteria, that is expected of you to be an adult in 2013. Take out the word 'neuro' and just call it acting typical. Acting and conforming to the typical standard set by those who see as as nothing more than sheep. Make a stand.
  22. 9 points
    Here is a message from my Mum: Just a quick note to thank you for kindly looking out for Sophie through the forum. I was moved to see the support that has been given particularly during our past weekend away. Sophie coped extremely well and she assures me this was all thanks to the support from her new found online friends! So pleased to see the support and friendship you have given her, she is a very sincere friend to have, glad you can share a lot together here too as Sophie has a mild form of autism. This place seems great and I am happy Sophie and everybody else has it as a support system. I have made sure Sophie knows now she can come to me if there is ever anything that worries her on the internet ! Thanks, Willow Sophie's Mum xx
  23. 9 points
    Thank you very much, for everyone's kind comments/actions to me this past weekend. I would not have coped as well as I did if it wasn't for the supportive people on the forum. I am so grateful for all the thoughtful comments, it really means a lot to me. In general, I am so happy with the friends I have met on the forum. It has changed a big part of my life. Willow Heather Arthur Mr & Mrs. Spiderman oakers Iggy Nesf Annaflower Megsmum Smithy the Wizard Khasper Andy
  24. 8 points
    This picture popped up on my social media feed this morning: All is nice and cool until we get to the "fight against" part. Fight against? How do you fight against? Or more importantly, WHY fight against it? Are we labeling it as something bad? I mean, if you fight against something is because it's bad. So this shirt create the "awareness" that "autism is bad" and we must "fight against it". There's already enough discrimination as it is and now we gonna make t-shirts to further make people believe autism is bad?
  25. 8 points
    I once had dreams of being a professional wildlife photographer. Sadly I don't have the patience for it and it's almost impossible for most people to make a living from it now as there are so many images available on the internet. I enjoy it though as a way of learning more about wildlife and my patience is improving. Shag. Stonechat. Robin. Puffin. Brown hare. Male red-breasted merganser displaying to female. Great black-backed gull. Grey seal 'bottling'. Anyone got any more piccies to look at? It's gone very quiet in here.
  26. 8 points
    Congratulations everyone who won and I'm happy to still get some award from Asperclick I'm happy to hand over that title to you this year
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  28. 8 points
    I'd just want someone who is kind, non-judgemental and understanding, whether Autistic or Neurotypical. Don't ever fall into the trap of thinking that "kind, non-judgemental and understanding" will always apply to an Autistic person. It does not.