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  1. 5 points
    Take a deep breath and calm down. You cannot change what you did, but you can reflect on it and decide how you will move forward. I think it is a good idea to look at mistakes as learning opportunities, and reflect upon how you could have responded differently. From my experience, it is always easier to think of an appropriate response after than during a spontaneous situation. It is frustrating to not be able to correct it but it does no good to ruminate on it and make yourself crazy. Here is some wisdom for the future, however hard it can be, sometimes it is better to ignore someone if they say something that offends you. Just walk away if you need to. From my experience, it gets easier to not care about other's opinions with age and experience. I hope you are okay. Just remember, deep breaths, calming music, maybe a bubble bath or read a nice book, enjoy a hot beverage, take a nap... relax.
  2. 1 point
    Thanks for all the tips! I'll check into the drops and tea. I want to avoid feeling high at all costs, it sounds like hemp might be an option for me. Thanks again!
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    I have tried CBD from a few suppliers for 3 months after a cancer scare and to deal with extreme anxiety. Results seem to vary greatly amongst different people. There are facebook groups (CBD users UK is one) that can be used to glean info. I did find it helped melt anxiety for a while. I've not had it a few months now ... maybe should try it again. My preferred supplier was CBD brothers. My preferred items being blue edition oil (few drops under tongue) and blue edition capsules 100mg (which also reduce pain). I believe the guideline is less is more. Some people use CBD vapes but I have never tried that. My partner has tried fiddlers elbow grease for a damaged knee ... thats a CBD balm that reduces pain. You can also buy hemp tea from amazon or ebay ... nice with honey and lemon or if a smoker you can smoke it. Though stigmatised by association (with marijuana) , none of these products get you high or contain sufficient THC to be illegal. Personally I found it worthwhile, (great for bike rides as legs don't tire). I believe it can seem to stop working after a while - so a short break is sometimes required to resensitise
  4. 1 point
    Might be his later stuff like Russians and Americans.
  5. 1 point
    And then there is giggot, the highest number in this system before "many".
  6. 1 point
    Aspies often have problems with expressiveness - whether it's an apparent lack of expressiveness or appearing to lack the appropriate expression as mentioned by Nesf. In many ways it's similar to acting with the person with AS seeming either to be "wooden" and "underperforming" or simply "false" and unconvincing. Their inner feelings may be very different and exactly appropriate but somehow they are not communicated in ways others find "correct". These things are not easy to change as they have developed over a lifetime. Sometimes the biggest problems come with trying to "fake" or broadly perform expressions as this can seem inauthentic and insincere. I think it's best as much as possible to act in the way you feel comfortable - smile if that genuinely feels right to you but be more neutral if that feels more natural to you. The photo situation David mentioned is a little different. In a sense it's a fun occasion and I think a big, broad smile just for the camera is in order. It won't matter if it seems a little over the top whereas a neutral or even nervous expression will look odd. Alternatively just say you're not comfortable being photographed although that they can seem strange as well. If it's a rare thing I would just put on some sort of a smile and get it over with. In ordinary interaction though I feel it's best not to force expressions - smiles or otherwise.
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    My problem isn't that I have not expression, but that I have the wrong expression to the social situation. I can and do smile, but I don't always smile (or produce other facial expressions) on cue or I smile when I'm not supposed to, or I smile too much and seem child-like. My facial expression is determined by my internal emotion and not the emotion or the people around me, and I don't always pick up on or respond to people's emotions, so I have the 'wrong' expression. I was frequently punished or told off as a child for displaying the wrong expression.
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