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Had a meltdown in a bingo hall

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rainbow

A friend took me to bingo for the first time today.

I had a bad meltdown and ripped up the bingo slip and walked out for a bit. the bingo caller was going so fast and did not give me time to take the information in.

And the colours upset me as well.

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RiRi

Where were you playing the bingo? Was it at the casino? Was there a lot of people?

Sorry that, this happened. Sorry that the bingo caller was going too fast. I hope you can feel better soon. 

I've never played bingo outside of my home like at the casino. Usually for this sort of thing, I try to prepare in advance either through looking at videos to have an idea of what to expect or I ask the person. I don't like uncertainty and I like to be prepared at least a little for what's to come. 

Feel better soon. *hug* 

Edit: Just saw you said it was at a bingo hall, don't know what that is, but hope you feel better. 

Edited by Live&LetLive
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Eliza

Sorry this happened to you. Please don't feel bad. You did the right thing by walking out for a while.

This world is in such a hurry! I can't deal with the rush either. Our brains aren't wired that way, which is a blessing for us. We don't have to be told to, 'Stop and smell the roses,' so to speak.

Today I was watching Project Runway (a show where people compete as designers). 98% of the contest is rushing to meet a deadline. I wouldn't make it through the first round. :wacko:

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aspieguy

I don't know, they might have rules that they have to follow regarding the speed of the game, particularly if there's money involved, but maybe next time you could ask if they could call the numbers out a bit slower? And ask for a black-and-white card?

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Mimo

I'm so sorry for your experience! A couple years ago when my husband and I were just engaged, he scored some awesome seats to watch my favorite NBA team play. I've been to games before so I knew what to expect, but I had a meltdown before the game even started. I don't remember what caused it but I still feel awful for ruining such a special date and the best seats I'd ever had the opportunity to sit in! I didn't even watch most of the game, I was too upset!

Having meltdowns, suck but they are part of our experience with AS. Having a meltdown in front of others on a special day/occasion is extremely frustrating. Don't blame yourself. It happens. I hope you feel better soon!

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Harrow

Your not alone, I can't play Bingo the speed of things and the rush I find way to overwhelming. There's even a general knowledge/quiz show my mom watches on TV, that I get meltdowns just watching because of the speed of them shouting their names, the questions and the answers, sometimes all in the span of 5 seconds and that's just me watching it.

So don't blame yourself:)we all experience it 

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RiRi

I've never gotten a meltdown at any basketball game that I've been to, any soccer game that I've been to, any concert that I've been too, any club that I've been to. I wonder why that is? Some of those things were upsetting. Meaning that I thought the place was too loud, too many people, etc. I've felt overwhelmed, yes, even upset at times, maybe wanting to leave, but never to the point of crying/melting down. I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad, just seems kind of odd being an aspie myself. That I haven't gone through such experience. Maybe not every aspie will have a meltdown due to the same/similar things? Or maybe they will react to things differently. Like maybe I would have been upset, unhappy, but not to the point of crying? 

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RiRi

Or maybe I have been able to hold it in until I got somewhere safe to cry/meltdown? 

Edit: I apologize, before anyone tells me this isn't the place to talk about this, I just wondered after reading some of the posts. I do wonder sometimes. I am sorry if it was wrong of me to mention this. 

I hope @rainbow's feeling better. 

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Nesf

I have never played bingo myself, but I've seen it being played on TV. I don't know how anyone manages to follow it, it goes so fast. I'm sure that I would have become extremely frustrated and given up on it had I tried to play it. I need to go at my own pace and I'm not good at concentrating in crowded, noisy places.

@Live&LetLive I don't think it's entirely off-topic and a discussion about what triggers meltdowns in similar situations and how to avoid them might be useful to @rainbow. I think that where, how and when a meltdown happens very much depends on the situation, how you are feeling, what stress or energy levels you have on that day. Meltdowns aren't inevitable. I've been to soccer matches or concerts and had no meltdown, and I've also been to weddings and functions and got upset and had meltdowns, had to leave before then end and things like that. Also, meltdowns can manifest themselves in different ways - sometimes I get annoyed or frustrated, sometimes I get emotionally charged and upset, sometimes I just shut down and switch off. I think that if you are not feeling up to it - if you feel stressed or tired, then going to an event like bingo which might be demanding for us one way or another should be avoided.

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