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  2. When I've been issued with a security pass, as in most of the places I've worked at, I've also been warned that repeatedly losing the pass may be considered a disciplinary offence. Is this discriminatory against neurodiverse workers?
  3. Miss Chief

    I dislike explaining things

    I don't really know what you mean by that? She just does, thinks and says things that are not sensible, they are illogical. When you try to explain this to her she gets frustrated and irritable and refuses to see the reason/logic. This results in me getting frustrated, I try to explain differently even drawing diagrams and stuff but it's very frustrating.
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  5. Myrtonos

    New board game café offers weekly "autism friendly day"

    You often start threads with (not written by me). But it reminds me of another autism-friendly cafe in my own country.
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  7. Aeolienne

    Facebook groups

    I'm a member of AspieRep, Autism Solidarity and The Hidden Aspie.
  8. (Not written by me) Board game café set to open in Leamington A ‘board game café is set to open its doors in Leamington later this month. Stephanie Branch, 31, and Trev Davies, 33, will be welcoming fellow enthusiasts, competitive families and complete beginners to their board game café, ‘The Dice Box’, in 137 Regent Street on November 10. The café will provide a large library of board games as well as a café area offering drinks, snacks and food. Stephanie, having lived in Leamington for the last four years, wanted an opportunity to help improve tourism and subsequently give back to the town. She said: “I have found so many people are looking for new and exciting days out, whether it be as a family or with friends. We hope The Dice Box will capture their interest and draw more people back into the heart of Leamington and keep the high street alive. “With that from day one we wanted to make it an option for everyone so we offer a discount of ten per cent off the total bill to all students with an NUS card, NHS workers and all front line emergency services including the military.” Every Monday the café will also hold an autism friendly day where the music will be turned off, the games on offer will have reduced number of options to reduce stress and carers will be able to play for free. The café will open for its official launch on Saturday November 10 and doors will open at 11am. People are strongly encouraged to book their table for the day in advance but there will be a couple of tables open to walk-ins. The Dice Box will be open on Mondays to Sundays from 11am until late. All players are encouraged to book a table before going to the café, but it is not essential, each table has a set three hour slot. The Dice Box will also serve a selection of cakes catering for customers with gluten free and vegan requirements. Source: Leamington Spa & Warwick Courier
  9. It's certainly true that in the past schools (and other institutions and many people widely) viewed all manner of behaviours in a much less sympathetic way. The view would often be taken that these were the fault of the child and nothing could be done to help them, or that if they didn't improve it was "their fault" for "being lazy", "lacking commitment", etc. Often the attitude would be that criticism and even ridicule would be the only ways someone could change. In part it was also because there was little awareness that such problems could be due to underlying conditions rather than personal "choice". Education has changed considerably and conditions - where known - are generally treated more supportively though not always more effectively. One of the issues though is that conditions are often still undiagnosed or - even where diagnosed - not declared. If others are unaware there is a condition they will often assume the person is at fault. For example if a person with undiagnosed or undeclared ASD seems disorganised, hesitant or indecisive due to these executive function problems there will be some who make harsh judgements that they "lack initiative / commitment / interest". This is a dilemma that every person with ASD (or other conditions) has - he or she may, for understandable reasons, want to keep their condition private but that doesn't stop others judging them - and unfortunately those judgements can be rather harsh.
  10. Dr-David-Banner

    Maternal warmth and serverity

    I have been somewhat down over the last few days and trying not to let it unsettle me. My mother is now 87 and has collapsed three times. My aunt has tried to build bridges because she rightfully feels it would be sad for my mother to pass away still with a rift in place. Yet it is now abundantly clear my mother can't accept an autistic son when she has another who is normal. I have therefore had to opt to stay away as somehow she gets highly strung when I visit. Much of this has made me feel kind of cruel and heartless but the truth is there are clear issues my mother has - my guess is non acceptance. I never told family I was autustic high functioning. They definitely notice my lack of emotion and the fact I spend my time alone. The pioneer of autism research Grunya Sukhareva did connect family, mother or environment to autism but physical illnesses also factor in. I suspect actual causes may vary or maybe combine. Also we don't know if family strain leads to autjsm in some cases or is caused by the autism itself. My case is just like the TV episode of The Hulk where a girl is not accepted by her mother for not being neurotypical and nornal. All I can say is I have many faults and short-comings but U don't exploit or hurt people or push drugs. I struggle to see what is so terribly bad about being wired differently.
  11. "One of the most important features of these patients is the lack of mental tension, the absence of a more or less pronounced sense of purpose in behavior, the dependence of their behavior on random external stimuli, increased saturability and exhaustion.They are noted, in particular as having difficulty in mastering elementary school skills - reading, writing, especially counting, prolonged disorientation of their bodies, insufficiency in temporal and spatial judgement, difficulty in performing actions consisting of consecutive acts. Further, the characteristic of the whole group is the tendency towards fruitless wisdom, strange, sometimes completely inappropriate reasoning, the desire to ask unnecessary questions, to make accusatory speeches." Shoved this through Goggle Translate and edited the worst parts out. Sadly Google Translate I find is over-rated but it saves time if you edit it. The above was from a dated Russian article on schizoid personality type and autism. I do actually relate to the "exhaustion" symptom - a lot of the subjects slept a lot. The learning difficulties mentioned only apply when traditional group teaching is used. The patients often showed very high results in areas where they were self taught. They showed difficulty finishing projects and things they started.
  12. I got into a lot of trouble at school for forgetting things or leaving them behind on public transport. School's approach to law & order did not distinguish between executive dysfunction and skiving, so I went to great (often counterproductive) lengths to avoid getting caught. Sadly, my family's reaction was to take the mickey out of me (my brother once sang a list of all the things I'd left on the train to the tune of The Twelve Days of Christmas). In today's supposedly more enlightened age, would schools be more compassionate towards an AS pupil with a tendency to be disorganised?
  13. Although I.went to uni some years ago, I am now fully aware I perform incomparably better not being tied down to rigid, organized classes with structured deadlines. I fully admit that struggling to finish tasks and lacking determined drive is normally a problem classed as disfunctional. This may be quite true but I feel I adapted by applying myself more to the theoretical side of things. If I am doing an actual job I now bear in mind I work more slowly and that's something I have to get used to. Employment wise it is a major problem because everything is down-to-earth and subject to time. At any rate, listed under an old article on schizoid personality type, it seems the following was noted: Not being able to finish projects, inertia, lack of purpose, lack of direct objective in activities and indeterminate analysing. Where I disagree with the article is I see no reason why an active mind must always have a purpose. Admittedly nothing would ever get done if we all lacked intellectual structure but in physics and abstract subjects it can be OK. Also neurological deviations and disorders often are a by-product, going together with creativity. Some schizophrenics are awesome musicians but may not have studied music systematically.
  14. Aeolienne

    My doctoral degree

    Why do you need to take a course in "something else" before a doctoral degree?
  15. Dr-David-Banner

    Do You Ever Worry You Don't Have Aspergers?

    It took me time to discover the autism that Asperger studied is not the same as Lorna Wing's "Asperger Syndrome". Many people don't consider A.S. to be autism at all. It's time to consider that Lorna Wing named a more modern definition "syndrome" after a doctor who actually deal with plain autism (but not mentally impaired people). Evidently the reason.A.S. was removed as a diagnosis recently is there was huge disagreement over the "is it autism?" debate. Personally I think Wing's derived diagnosis is valid but I think calling it Asperger Syndrome confused a lot of people. The actual patients of Asperger did stuff like eat paper, rock back and forth, showed aggression, needed special classes or may have bordered schizophrenia. They were also clever in music or sciences. In short you have Wing's derived diagnosis applied to those who often showed little signs of autism. Then you have the original psychopathy which is based on autism. The very first term ever used as far back as the 1920s was ШИЗОИДНАЯ ИЗБЕГАТЕЛЬНАЯ АУТИСТИЧЕСКАЯ ПСИХОПАТИЯ by the Russian Jewish psychiatrist Grunya Zukhareva. This is schizoid avoidant autistic psychopathy. Not to worry though as you can have most of the symptoms without being autistic which is what Wing discovered. Paul Cooijman is worth reading for the modern diagnosis.
  16. All these things are generalisations and each person's experience with organisation / planning is different. Individuals with ASD often develop their own form of organisation / structure for activities and can find this very useful - the problem often comes though in adapting to the rules and routines of other people or organisations, or in developing a structure for a task that the person with ASD has been asked to do and is not of their choosing. The biggest problems can arise in environments which seem to lack structure and where individuals are expected to "find their way" or improvise or somehow tune-in to the expectations of others and this can be very problematic for someone on the spectrum who doesn't have that same "mind-reading" (or theory of mind) ability. The world of education can present fewer organisational problems for someone with autism due to its structures such as rules, timetables and specified tasks to complete but this is not to deny that there are still many unspoken or implicit practices in education, or that tasks and expectations are sometimes vague. Making all these more explicit can help but there can still then be a clash between how education wants a student to work and the preferences of the autistic person. As regards tasks and assignments deadlines like the one you mention can certainly focus the mind. Other good strategies are word counts or an allotted space to complete a task which reduces the confusion of how much to write. Specifying clearly what things must be included and how they should be presented is also helpful and opening sentences or other prompts may also reduce difficulties in getting started and then continuing to make progress. Many of these things are helpful to many people but especially useful to those with ASD.
  17. As a favour requested by an American I translated an old 1920 Russian Orthodox document It was a family document he had to scan. I had to force myself to start and finish it today. Otherwise I knew it would never get done. Work such as this distracts me from my rigid schedule and risks being done in fits and starts. Employment wise this is a massive negative factor. So now I.recognise it and will give myself a pep talk to go out and get something done. Hopefully the American will be happy he has some family history cleared up and I can feel useful today.
  18. Yeah, a good post, Sanctuary. Strictly speaking, the concept of starting a project and not finishing or being vague, not purposeful.- is seen as part of the disorder. However I have come to recognise the pattern in myself but go with it. I feel I have the causes and effects down to a fine point and better than the general autism explanation. I see the cause in my own case as a byproduct of internalised thinking. The more you think.the less physically you do. It's like an abstract mentality more suited to physics or creative music. Although I really struggle to finish things I tend to come back to them at some point and the freedom to go with the flow motivates me not to get bored. You can pour a bucket of water on the floor and take a sponge to soak it up two ways..Either by starting.systematically from corner to corner. Or by just plunging the sponge in anywhere. So long as you finally soak it up the job is done. And I repeat the absolute core point of Asperger's research. People with autism.don't function well at all in organised classes according to systems and schedules. They will daydream or think inwardly while missing the focus of the class.
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  20. Myrtonos

    I dislike explaining things

    Does that mean sho doesn't always do what logically follows from her intents?
  21. I've recently been doing a free Open University course called "Understanding Autism". One of the issues I feel it's covered extremely well is "theory of mind" which can be a difficult concept to grasp. This can present issues for people with ASD in three main areas: 1. Personal organisation and planning (related to an idea called executive function). 2. Creativity and imagination 3. Details versus "the big picture" Although the issues are linked it may be best to address each separately. Researchers suggest that individuals with ASD are more likely to have problems with personal organisation and planning. Although they may have many ideas and a wish to deal with a task or problem they are less adept at organising their ideas and forming an effective strategy or plan. For example an autistic person may be unsure how to start an educational or work task, or start it and then be uncertain how to continue. Alternatively they may have momentum but veer off on a tangent or "overdo" the task, perhaps spending far too long on it which may mean falling behind with other activities. Some autistic students have also reported problems with personal organisation, e.g. being unsure what resources to bring so taking a huge amount of books and equipment to school because they are worried of forgetting something. Perhaps a jigsaw analogy may be helpful. Someone with ASD may have all the pieces of the jigsaw but be unsure how to best assemble them to create a coherent picture. While a few individuals may have no idea at all and just assemble the pieces randomly many others will have some success and complete some parts of the picture but leave others missing or confused. It must be stressed these are generalisations. Neurotypical people can also have problems with organisation and some on the spectrum are excellent planners in general, or very organised in certain areas. I certainly recognise that I have some difficulties with aspects of planning and organisation but do these affect other members?
  22. Myrtonos

    I dislike explaining things

    Has anyone found themself, say, having to explain that a equals c to someone who knows that a equals b and knows that b equals c?
  23. That's one cultured kitty. Thula seems to appreciate her owner's art and music too, judging by the way she is gazing intently at the violin and bow. It reminds me of how my great-aunt's black Labrador would sit under the grand piano when my dad was playing, invisible in the shadow apart from her soulful brown eyes - she must have enjoyed feeling the vibrations. ❤️
  24. The only thing I don't like about this story is the design of the children's certificates - Tyler's had a ker-pow whizz theme while Annabella's was My Little Unicorn. Why does heroism have to be gendered?
  25. Tylermc


    good morring everybody and have a great day today 

  26. Thanks for highlighting the story Aeolienne. I also read about Iris Grace and her cat Thula recently and it is a remarkable story and there are other examples of animals being a great help to people on the spectrum. Iris Grace's paintings are stunning. There are quite a few videos about her and Thula on YouTube and they are well-worth watching: Iris Grace and Thula
  27. Aeolienne

    Tony Attwood on Asperger's & Depression

    The talk took place in Exeter. Tony Attwood said: "There's the Met Office just up the road from here - now that would be Aspie heaven." I called out: "They've just fired me - that's how Aspie-friendly they are!" (More about my work history here)
  28. (Not written by me) Remember when we wrote about Iris Grace, the incredibly talented 5-year-old girl with autism who paints beautiful pictures? It turns out that she has a behind-the-scenes helper who’s also worthy of praise – that’s Thula, her therapeutic cat. Thula, who is almost 1 year old, is a Maine Coon. This breed is known as the intelligent and gentle giant of the cat world and though she’s still small and young, Thula does not disappoint. Her gentle and compassionate character is especially important for Iris, a young girl growing up with autism; “Thula has lowered [Iris’] daily anxieties in life and keeps Iris calm,” Iris’ mother, Arabella Carter-Johnson, told Bored Panda, “but equally has the effect of encouraging her to be more social. She will talk more to Thula, saying little phrases like ‘sit cat.’” Carter-Johnson, had almost given up on the search for a therapeutic animal companion for her daughter. When Iris happened to connect with a Siberian cat that her family would up cat-sitting for Christmas, however, she realized that she “just hadn’t found the right animal yet.” Read more and view lots of adorable pictures here. Although the web source is American, Iris Grace is actually British - from Leicestershire. Read more about her artwork here.
  29. Just because they care about physical disabilities, colour vision deficiency, intellectual impairments, etc, doesn't mean they care about autism.
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