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  2. collectingrocks

    Bullying in the workplace

    I am too old to jack my job in and there are no jobs in my specialist line of work at my grade - I've checked for a year. 20 years ago I might have done but much of the job market is ageist. In my line of work, employers want young people at basic grade so they can stay on lower wages. There is also too much at stake for me to walk out, including the reputation I have built up over the years. And if I walk out (like others have done), the bully wins and picks his next target No, I've had enough and I now have some courage to speak up and fight back
  3. Dr-David-Banner

    Neuroatypical vs autistic/aspie

    I started to get quite good at analysing subtle expression and interaction. For years I just imagined superficially I appeared like other people but gradually I noticed more. Eyes alone can tell you a lot. Neurotypical people tend to reach out communicatively via expression and their eyes. They smile easily or express emotion. They don't have to think how to react or smile. You can watch someone in a conversation and you can see the "click" of connecting, the tone of voice, body posture, reaction of others. It's really similar to a resonant frequency. The really fascinating thing is noting how the same people react to me in similar conversations. I notice we talk or joke but that "click" just doesn't happen. The easy way to describe what I mean is to imagine 3 adults and one child together. The adults you notice all communicate to the child as "outside". One thing that fascinates me is the women I know will chat with me but their face and mood is kind of guarded or a bit strained. Should another neurotypical appear with a shopping bag, instantly this changes. The person totally relaxes, smiles broadly and suddenly I disappear off their radar. I repeat again: the movie Carnival Of Souls 1960s totally fascinated me mainly due to this. It described being unable to be seen by others for periods or partly seen. To me the connection happens but some deeper communication or recognition is missing. I see it like an invisible wall or like a frequency that is off resonance somehow. These autism/asperger symptoms I have very strong due to non acceptance and trauma during childhood. So, should children be on the autism spectrum yet be treated with intolerance at early age, the effect is you "withdraw" much more. You can become so cut off from reality outside that a whole lot of your psychological development can be "locked down". The only plus I can pull out of the hat is that AS is easier to fathom when the symptoms are stronger and kind of stare you in the face. Yes, neurotypicals act very differently. Many were accepted as normal from early childhood and through school where they often made friends, dated and were admired. All their life they share with others as part of a group yet have less identity left to enhance their own ego. Personally despite many miserable, harrowing experiences wrapped up in autism, I think being HFA can lead to clear advantages over neurotypicals (if you can conquer those feelings of isolation and anxiety). That took me many years and after a prolonged breakdown in the 1980s. Now I see knowledge, awareness and self therapy as the key.
  4. Introduction: Hello, I'm Elly and I'm a Psychology student at University of East London. I also have a sibling with autism. I'm looking for participants to take part in an online survey about social media use in adults with autism. About the research: - I'm investigating the relationship between social media use and quality of life in adults with autism. - Social media is a widely debated topic but its use among adults with autism is less understood. - I want to find out how adults with autism use social media and whether it has the capacity to impact positively on their lives. - Any adult (autism diagnosis or not) can take part in the study as I require a range of responses. - The study is an online questionnaire which is completely anonymous. The questionnaire should take about 15 minutes to complete (please see link below). - The questionnaire has fixed responses so if you have any other additional comments about the topic then I would love to hear them below. - The research has been ethically approved by the supervisory board at UEL. Contact details: If you have any questions or would like more information, don't hesitate to comment below or get in touch at u1725912@uel.ac.uk Survey Link: https://uelpsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eYcaO2gqaZXmZ3T Many thanks in advance Elly
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  6. Ben

    Bullying in the workplace

    Always have an up to date CV - because you never know when you might want to upload it onto Indeed or Jobsite . You will strip the bully of their power as soon as you let go of the concept that your CURRENT job is the be all end all to your existence. My advice? Go above and beyond within your role. Then the SECOND your 'superior' steps out of line, you say "HR can keep this months pay for all I care. If you condescend to me one more time I'm walking off the job" - this'll be sweeter if other potential employers have seen your CV online and are leaving you voicemails (yes, these job sites DO work.) Always have the deck stacked in your favour. Not just for situations like these, but also for when companies announce cut backs. Don't wait to be laid off, think ahead. *Side note, I'm not saying jack your job in. Just give yourself some power by creating the option.
  7. This is something very personal and it is very sad to lose someone whom you thought was a friend and could confide and trust in Perhaps you friend felt "scared off" and doesn't know how to communicate with you any more...or trying to process what you said? Give it time and if nothing changes then yes, move on. That friend was merely superficial and not worthy of your friendship any more
  8. collectingrocks

    Bullying in the workplace

    A question for the workers amongst us... If you are bullied or intimidated at work by your immediate supervisor/manager: How do you cope? Does your place of work have support systems in place to tackle such behaviour? Have you ever stood up to your perpetrator?
  9. collectingrocks

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    Don't let the medical field hold you back. I have worked in hospitals for over 25 years
  10. Hi @Aspie.Iris I experienced a quite similar situation, when I was a teenager. My "best friend" knew my Asperger's from the beginning of our friendship, but one day, in an argument, he said to me that he didn't invited me to a party because he could feel ashamed of me, and that my autism is really a big problem... So I can completely understand your pain. What did I do afterwards ? I just stopped talking to him. Fortunately, we weren't in the same highschool. I agree with @Peridot. Move on ! I know it's hard to think it when you're surrounded by people who don't accept your difference and when you're all alone but you will see, when you will grow up, you will find people who truly accept who you are, with your Asperger's. To tell you, I've really found true friends after highschool. So be brave ! Time will be your friend. I hope you will feel better soon
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  12. When a friendship ends it's of course painful when it's a betrayal. I've had this too a few years ago where two friendships went sour. But we need to be with the people we are supposed to be with and not the people we aren't supposed to be with. That's the way it is, I'm sure you'll agree. I'd say leave school altogether as it's a toxic environment. But if you continue to go, then just treat the girl in neutral way. Just move on... It isn't worth putting lots of energy into as it wouldn't be productive. Hope you feel better soon.
  13. Hi Guys, so as you can tell from the title, my good friend from the past about one and a half years stopped hanging out with me and started hanging out with another girl after I trusted her with my diagnosis. I think this is because of my diagnosis but I am not really a person to trust with social skills anyway, what should I do? I am in a small school where I can’t really avoid her- How should I handle this? Please help!
  14. Whoknows

    Do you have a supportive family?

    Let me see... I was diagnosed quite early in my life, but my parents kept it secret from me, until high school. I think, in both time periods, they did what they thought was best for me. On my side, I'm not sure all of their choices were good. If it's food and shelter, everything's covered (even my gaming habits). On education, I don't really know what to make of it. The best choice I've ever made there was hated by my entire family, but I kept going anyway (and it helped me a lot). On psychology, there's only one thing I have against my parents, but it's been almost 9 years, since then. Well, put simply, my family is not fully aware of my diagnosis, but they've been quite supportive, anyway.
  15. Aspie.Iris

    Acting Neurotypical

    I definitely act neurotypical at school all day and then end up coming home and melting down. It is really rough for my family and I am not getting the support I need at school because no one believes I have ASD.
  16. Aspie.Iris

    Feeling Alone

    I feel exactly the Same way.
  17. As a teen on the spectrum I need help and support, one of the reasons why I’m here, but I can’t seem to find any help in person
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  19. Hi @Alice Thank you for this article. It's interesting. As for me, I always had troubles to make friends. When I was a child, I used to begin my school year with one or two mates (girls) and to finish the year alone. Now, I've got a few friends with whom I feel good. I fear to give my trust to bad people, what I used to do when I was younger. That's why I've become more selective. The most frustating experiences are when I want to be friend with a girl but I don't know how to do and finally, I don't have any occasions to do it anymore. Otherwise, I find that it's easier to be friend with boys than girls.
  20. Aeolienne

    LiveStream - Ask Me Anything

    What do you think of Greta Thunberg?
  21. (Not written by me) ‘Nature became a support system’: How autism helped me campaign for wildlife A 15-year-old conservationist and activist from Northern Ireland writes about how it’s easier for him to connect with the natural world than other aspects of life By Dara McAnulty As a toddler, I crawled to observe, and sometimes catch, anything that moved: caterpillars, woodlice, ants. I intently observed birds, their behaviour and watched in wonder at their intricacy and how they interacted with everything around them. At this stage, I was unaware of my difference but as I grew, I knew the world was too noisy, too busy, too confusing and too overwhelming. I was diagnosed with Asperger's / autism aged five, at the insistence of my school – my parents had accepted and nurtured my eccentricities and even though I knew that I made life challenging for them. They always showed unconditional love and acceptance. Nature brought so much understanding to my life. It satiated my curiosity and then quenched my thirst for knowledge. My capacity to feel at one with the confusing aspects of our world grew when I was immersed in nature and learning all about it. My differently wired brain was at peace. By age seven I knew I was very different, I had gotten used to the isolation, my inability to break through into the world of talking about football or Minecraft was not tolerated. Then came the bullying. Nature became so much more than an escape; it became a life-support system – although I didn’t realise it then. By age 12, my mental health was in tatters, years of bullying and isolation had taken its toll. I decided that I would write, unlock all the feelings that were swirling in my head, I needed to express what I couldn’t in real time through conversation. I started writing a blog about nature, autism, species I was interested in, the habitats they lived in and the challenges they faced. It quickly gained popularity beyond my wildest dreams. I joined Twitter and three years later, my life is irrevocably changed. I was invited on to Springwatch, asked to write articles for the Wildlife Trusts and my local newspapers. The BBC wanted to film me, record me for radio – all of this was completely unnerving and at times overwhelming – but I pushed through because even though it was all so new, I was doing what I loved. I was being myself. During this time, realising the extent that nature was suffering, I quite accidentally became an activist. I started campaigning firstly against the illegal persecution of hen harriers – a protected raptor, endangered and increasingly rare. It hurt me so deeply, that the words on the page needed to be spoken out loud. I stood up and spoke that first time, aged 13, and all of a sudden I felt a great strength burn inside me. I realised I had potential to do good, to give back to nature – which has given me so much joy, wonder and healing. One of the qualities of being autistic is our determination and focus. Many people call our interests ‘obsessions’, I call them passions. My passion is the natural world, our planet, all life we share it with and the challenges it faces. I will never give up. Wherever my passion is willing to take me I am ready for it, it’s who I am. Read more from Dara at youngfermanaghnaturalist.com and follow on Twitter @NaturalistDara Source: The Big Issue
  22. Peridot

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    That's cool that you are online acquaintances/buddies. I like her accent. How the word but is pronounced "boh" lol. There's someone else called Delicate ASMR who has the same accent. I don't know much about FrivolousFox but I have heard of her.
  23. HalfFull

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    @Peridot Wow, I can't believe someone else in the AS world knows her. I'm actually one of her closest supporters and she knows me online. It was her Lancashire accent video that drew me to her since its where I live and I ended up being one of her closest supporters hence she knows me online. I've not engaged with any others but briefly encountered FrivolousFox not knowing she was quite as big as she was.
  24. Peridot

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    I love Miss Synchronicity! She's so cool... I've been binge watching her videos the past couple of weeks or so. But I don't think she's an aspie. She's an introvert but NT it seems to me. Tenderloving I saw in a video where she was drawing and the way she spoke in that video e.g. just screams AS to me. lol It hasn't been stated though. Was just about to watch this Miss Synchronicity video: She's so nice and awesome!
  25. HalfFull

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    I did ponder if she was an aspie, but is this just your opinion or has it been stated? I did wonder about Miss Synchronicity for a while but perhaps not.
  26. Peridot

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    There is an ASMR person (even though she doesn't upload anymore) called Tenderloving ASMR who I think is an aspie and she's a nurse.
  27. HalfFull

    Can an aspie succeed in the medical field?

    I'm sure they can. I know Aspies who have been doctors and nurses. Chance are that a specialism would be quite good, but I imagine that most would make good GPs because people come to you with their symptoms and you diagnose them, with just a little bit of physical contact at times.
  28. If we assume a U.K. population of 70,000000 and, as in the article above, we take one in every hundred as autistic, well, at least the maths quoted adds (0.01 X 70,000000. That adds to 700,000 people. Just out of interest, I compared the figures with other stated "disorders". Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, for example, was rated about the same as "autism" but schizophrenia was rated at 14.5 per 1000 people (far less that the 1/100 for autism. I must admit to being a bit wary that political correctness could make a complex situation even more complicated. For example, I simply could never understand why jobseekers have been asked to tick boxes to label themselves as non-heterosexual or transgender. Overall, it gives me the impression that rather than practise real tolerance, the whole idea is for the companies or institutions to wave their flag of tolerance and inclusion as a political statement. It shouldn't matter what anyone's sexuality is or be anybody else's business. Alternatives? I think it boils down to training in schools and awareness there. I think children suffering with HFA should be given the opportunity to go to specialised schools with trained staff rather than struggle in mainstream school. I think the idea in the USSR where adults with HFA were employed in specialised centres was actually a good idea.
  29. Hello everyone, I've been volunteering in my local A&E department as a way to get experience and keep busy. I've been thinking about returning to university, perhaps learning about medicine since I'm having zero luck finding anything in my field of study. But generally speaking, there aren't a lot of autistics in medicine or at least none that I know about in public life. I think that other people tend to generalize and think that an autistic doctor should be like Shaun Murphy from The Good Doctor, but I think that he's a bad example because his strength comes from his savantism rather than his autistic traits.
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