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  2. Myrtonos

    Are you really a capitalist?

    According to Adam Smith that won't happen if profits are used to increase productivity.
  3. Nallaa

    crisis period and school

    your* not you're tips
  4. Nallaa

    crisis period and school

    Thank you for all these tips, I will try them, but maybe I didn't explain correctly the reason why I'm tired. I'm in this period when I hate staying with people, talking to them, listening to them, even seeing their face, I don't know, I'm getting sick and tired of people in general, not because I dislike them but because it's too much for me and I can't handle it anymore. I just need to rest it's the only thing I would like to do : not beeing forced to stay and interact with people, just for a while. Only beeing free to choose if I want to stay with them or not. I am also tired because of the work and probably winter, so you're tips are going to be a good help for me, but there is still the biggest part of my problems which is I just feel like I want to isolate myself, and I really immediatly need this, because I'm saturated. It's really rare for me to be in that state so strongly, but to give an idea of how I'm feeling I'm starting to be angry and agressive with people (not a lot, I'm not dangerous), I'm having a bunch of nightmares, my periods are not coming anymore and I started again hitting the floor sometimes in my classes because of the noise people makes. I don't see any way out and this is making me even more hostile and frustrated. I really don't know what I should do because it's the first time I experience this so strongly and the first time I don't have the choice I hope I'm not doing my drama queen to much, I'm just trying to say how I'm feeling like to help you understand what's going on for me
  5. Today
  6. Dr-David-Banner

    New Info On Autism

    On my blog, I'm now doing a series on case histories. Basically, what I found is there are many accurately described cases of autism in the USSR, based around the 1980s. These cases totally correspond to those described by Hans Asperger in the 1940s. So, I'm now translating a lot of Russian psychiatric case histories and studies. Asperger included about five case histories. I will be adding more as time passes. https://teslapsychology.home.blog/
  7. Dr-David-Banner

    Differences: Autism/Schizoid Type

    "It's noticeable how many relationships (sometimes friendships) end or fade away when one or both of the people moves away from their place of work or education." This is always the case I find, certainly with female groups. People who worked together for years rarely keep in touch. What has come to my attention n a lot though is smiles. Maybe you recall the story when I was asked to pose for a publicity pic with two female friends in a shop. I was to be presented with a Christmas hamper (including wine!). A young girl appeared with a camera and then the two women sort of put their arms around me and broadly smiled. The younger girl then urged me to smile. At that point, I panicked. The bottom line is I can't smile on cue and rarely smile anyway. Even worse, I have ultra sensitive eyes to light which becomes a problem with cameras. The younger girl had no choice but to take the pic and later I was in the dog house. It showed two young women broadly smiling and a very miserable-looking me in between (with my eyes closed). After that, even my best friend told me off - "You could have smiled!!". So, the truth is I never ever realised in the past how seriously society takes "appropriate social reaction". Also, every time I see people I know smiling in photos, I am baffled as to how they can do it. I was totally blown-away by some pics (hung in the shop) of a charity bash where all my friends were posing with the children, looking at the camera and broadly smiling. Only one guy came out badly (with his eyes shut). To some this may seem trivial but, trust me, in employment such a small impairment as what I described can lead to subtle tensions. Throw in a lot of other awkward, unsynchronised behavioural issues and it can lead to "unpopularity". True, you have a point that kind of popularity is mostly social but it is still needed. Just to get back to the thread title, my own take on this is with HFA/AS - whatever you wish to call it - there is often a willingness to make basic contact, chat about your own interests, clumsily attempt to engage with others, but this is only half-successful. See below. With Schizoid Disorder my guess is the individual is more sullen and anti-social. Maybe more withdrawn in the literal sense. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VuMT3DPpq-A
  8. Max000

    Are you really a capitalist?

    No, I believe that the rich will always get richer, and the poor will always get poorer. It's like the game of Monopoly. One person wins, and everyone else loses. To make it worse, capitalism undermines democracy. Because the wealthy can buy political power, and basically become dictators. It's probably the single worst system that has ever been invented. I see no future for it.
  9. Max000

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    I had surgery to put pins into my wrist when I fractured it. The surgery was stressful, but no big deal because I was asleep. The worst part was several months later, when they pulled the pins out. I was awake for that. But it was no more painful than another fractured wrist that I had a couple of years before that I didn't require surgery for. It does kind of piss me off though. Because the first fracture was much more severe, but didn't require surgery, because that doctor took better care of it from the start. The doctor who operated on my wrist was not great.
  10. Rhys

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    @RiRi @Willow Willow was correct, I had my tonsils out in early 2015 after a few months of constant tonsillitis and throat infections. I’m going to be brutally honest, it was the worst pain and recovery I’ve ever experienced in my life , apparently having the operation when you’re younger (which is the case most of the time) is a lot better and easier to recover from than having it later in life, like I did.
  11. Nesf

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    Yes, I've had surgery. I had a lumpectomy, that is the removal of a malignant tumour from the breast. It was scary and took a lot of courage, but it was either that or the tumour would grow, spread and eventually lead to death. The whole thing took a couple of hours and I was put under general anaesthetic. It was like being asleep... except you are not asleep but in a lower level of consciousness. You kind of become spacey, dreamy, then wake up. When I woke up, I felt groggy and spacey still, it took about an hour for the affects of the anesthetic to wear off. I had no pain at all: I actually thought that they must have given me morphine, but that wasn't the case. The only time it hurt was when I wanted to lift my arm and the skin tugged at the stiches.
  12. Nesf

    Coffee Shops

    No, I wouldn't describe most coffee shops as relaxing places to be, and I most certainly couldn't read or have a meeting in them. I find them tiring and stressful - I can tolerate them, but not really relax. Here where I live, they are noisy, loud music and full of smoke, which I can't stand. In the UK, they are busy and noisy, especially round the tills and the area where the orders are being prepared. If I'm out anywhere with my mum in the UK, she gets tired so we inevitably end up in a coffee shop. She is aware of my sensory sensitivity, so we it somewhere away from the area where the orders are being prepared. And capuccino machines are my nemesis - see below.
  13. Sanctuary

    Differences: Autism/Schizoid Type

    It's an important point that it is quite possible to be liked and quite popular among people without that moving over into friendship. For me a friend is someone you have voluntary social contact outside of the place you normally (or originally met them) - that may be face-to-face contact but could be by phone, the internet or (less commonly these days) letter. It's tempting - especially for people with low self-esteem - to assume that lack of friends equals unpopularity but this is not the case. Relationships as you mention can be affable and even warm but there isn't enough there to turn it into friendship. Perhaps in some cases we feel a person is good company at work but are not sure they would be so engaging for longer periods as tends to happen in friendship. Often work or education is the "social glue" that connects us very well with certain people but away from that context the relationship comes apart - not in the sense of arguments or bad feeling but just simply lack of the thing that connects us. It's noticeable how many relationships (sometimes friendships) end or fade away when one or both of the people moves away from their place of work or education. It's also worth bearing in mind that none of us - even the most social people - has the time to form friendships with everyone we like. In some instances - and I think this does often link to autism - a potential friend doesn't pursue a friendship because they sense the other person doesn't want one. Autistic individuals (and maybe those with social anxiety) may be more likely to project an impression that they prefer to be self-contained and want to keep a certain distance. This is sometimes deliberate but often unintended and occasionally against their real preferences but they still seem to erect a barrier of sorts. It's still possible despite this to be well-liked. Perhaps a good way of putting it is that we can be liked - but not too much.
  14. Alice

    Coffee Shops

    I find coffee shops stressful but I still like to go once in a while under certain conditions. I have to feel up to it on the day, only go alone, with a book, to a quiet one on a weekday and it has to have a wall-facing/corner seat. Like this, I can enjoy them, it feels like getting human contact. Other than the supermarket once a week/fortnight, and library trips, this is basically my only social interaction (no family, partner, friends etc.. in my life), which sounds abnormal but its really fine - I just do need to be around humans once in a while - and I have to interact to place an order anyway. I cant hold a proper/longer/unplanned conversation with that noise but I can focus it out, while enjoying a decaf soy latte, and the change in scenery can be nice. It makes me feel more normal.
  15. Heather

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    I also had my wisdom teeth taken out, over a year ago now (November 2017). I had been having tooth pain off and on for a while. Initially, it was only when food got stuck but in summer 2017 I got a more severe episode of pain and about a month before my surgery was scheduled, I also had another incident, where I had pain and couldn't eat very well. It's kind of funny because one day it dawned on me that it was likely my wisdom teeth that were causing the issues. I had not been to the dentist for a few years before I went for a cleaning and they recommended I get all 4 wisdom teeth removed. I got put to sleep for the surgery. It was scary but since I had the pain before, I knew that even if there was any pain due to the surgery, the likelihood was that the pain would eventually go away as my mouth healed and then hopefully it would be good. I haven't had any major tooth pain since. I know I have other teeth issues but I haven't gone to the dentist since because I'm trying to delay the additional cost of the appointments and procedures. And I don't have pain anymore so I feel okay not going right now even though the dentist keeps calling and emailing to get me to make an appointment for a checkup. My partner came with me to the appointment and he called a taxi for us to take home from the dentist office. They prescribed me some medications which my partner picked up for me while I was getting my wisdom teeth out. I had made sure to stock up on soup and soft foods prior to the surgery. I remember initially, I couldn't eat anything and had to keep changing cotton in my mouth until the bleeding stopped. I had done the procedure on a Friday and taken the Monday off in addition to the weekend so that I didn't have to worry about going to work. I would have taken off more time off if I needed to but I was fortunate and didn't have too much pain. I did take some pain medication somewhat preventatively at first because I worried if I didn't take it that I would feel really bad pain but as I healed I didn't take it unless I needed it but I seemed to be okay. I had soups for the next week or so and then softer foods until eventually, I ate regular foods without worry.
  16. Heather

    Coffee Shops

    I don't mind coffee shops sometimes but depends on how busy they are. In the past, I have met friends at coffee shops and I think it is a nice place to meet people because having a cup of coffee (or other beverage) while talking takes off the pressure to talk and can make it less awkward. Though I do find it hard to fully relax in coffee shops or restaurants or anywhere there are people that are not close like my immediate family and partner. The noise can make it difficult to hear someone else or think properly or speak because I feel like I have to talk loud to be heard. On the flip side, if it is a very quiet coffee shop, then I feel awkward like all the attention would be on me if I talk. So in my opinion coffee shops have their benefits for certain situations, in particular, they are a good neutral meeting place to meet people but I most days I prefer making a cup of coffee at home and drinking it in my own space where I feel most comfortable of course.
  17. Dr-David-Banner

    Why Are These People Waving at Me?

    You may have prosopagnosia. Of this there are different types.
  18. Yesterday
  19. Ben

    Coffee Shops

    I tend to go to coffee shops late at night (usually in London) with my laptop to write and tap into free Wifi - so, for me, they're relaxing by association. Although I prefer my cigar lounges. I just limit those visits to once a fortnight. For obvious reasons. I need to post a thread on befriending meditations - I think it'll help some of you.
  20. Primeape

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    @RiRi my Wisdom teeth still hasn't come through I'm not sure if I will get any to be honest with you
  21. RiRi

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    @Primeape I don't know how much it counts as surgery but what about your wisdom teeth? Do you still have those? Did it hurt when they came out? Or were you naturally wisdom teeth free?
  22. Primeape

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    Luckily I've never had surgery neither has my dad or my sister I guess we are lucky in that area of life
  23. Willow

    Coffee Shops

    I'm a little bit anxious yeah, mostly because it's my first meeting with wedding photography clients. I used to get more anxious about things, I guess the more I went to events and met people, the easier things got. Plus, I just stopped caring what people thought about me, and just walk around in my own little world, mostly oblivious of the other people.
  24. RiRi

    Coffee Shops

    @Willow Are you anxious about the meeting? Do you get much sleep when you have meetings like this? If you don't feel anxious, did you used to? How did you get better?
  25. Primeape

    Coffee Shops

    Good luck with the meeting Willow For me coffee shops can be loud, I tend to always pick a corner table I don't like to be right in the middle of everyone, if there's no tables available in the corner I tend to just leave
  26. Willow

    Brexit Meltdown

    I mean, I voted remain, as I feel the negatives of staying outweighed the negatives of leaving, but at this point I just want a decision to be made, for it to happen and for us all to never have to hear about it again haha.
  27. Willow

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    I have a rapid and sometimes irregular heart rate, but not a high blood pressure. His original kidney failed when he was 19. I myself have never had surgery, my ex did, and he didn't cope very well with it at all. One of the few times I actually felt sorry for him.
  28. RiRi

    Have you ever gotten surgery?

    Actually, I have had surgery before. It was to take out all of my wisdom teeth and it took weeks to recover. I had to drink liquids and I remember not eating much solids during the first days. The pain was really bad and my cheeks got very swollen. But I recovered. I actually was going to say the closest I've come to a surgery was the removal of a mole but then I remembered the teeth extraction. I was not put to sleep in either one.
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