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  1. 2 points
    I'm happy ๐Ÿ˜Š France is in World Cup final !!
  2. 2 points
    I came so close to reporting this thread, Elliot Rodger was a nasty, narsacistic, person who doesn't deserve to even be remembered let alone pitied. But I thought perhaps it would better to explain why this kind of rhetoric is so awful... Utter rubbish. You couldn't pay me go go out with (1), (2) & (4) in your example and (3) isn't important either, it's not a bad thing but it sure as hell isn't essential. Women are attracted to you if you have confidence (not arrogance though). That's it! Also that is most women. Of course you don't just want women to be attracted to you, you have to actually talk to them and ask them out and then you have to be able to keep them once you've got them but that comes down to personality and compatibility, if you get that far it's just a number game until you find someone you like and can put up with who likes and can put up with you. Elliot Rogers was still a virgin because he was an arrogant, entitled, prick, he thought women owed him sex. Well no one owes anyone anything in this life, least of all sex. I am getting really fed up with people talking about him like he is someone to be pitied... he is a murderer and if he hadn't done that, I imagine he would be a rapist by now. Incels always blame everyone else for why they aren't getting laid, when really it's their fault, they need to man up, grow a pair of balls and fake some confidence, do that for a while and it won't be fake anymore, every person on the planet had to go through that phase when we were young, for some reason Incels just never took the chance, of course they aren't going to get laid if they never so much as speak to women! So to answer your question, yes he could have been cured but not by a woman... only by him admitting that he needed to make some self improvement. Also he did not have an ASD diagnosis and didn't really exhibit the symptoms of it: https://www.forbes.com/sites/emilywillingham/2014/05/30/elliot-rodger-didnt-have-autism-he-had-anger/#1df6b6b4b916 https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/05/the-isla-vista-shooter-suffered-from-pathological-narcissism-not-autism/371768/ He did have a Narcissistic personality though so Psychopathy (or Anti-Social Personality Disorder as it is properly called now) was on the table. Why on earth you would want to be associated with such an infamous and nasty person I really don't know but I don't want to be. Please stop using that phrase these condition are not linked in any way and while Asperger may have thought they were 70+ years ago fortunately for us psychiatry, neurology, medicine and science in general has come a long way since then, (can you imagine if we still followed all the crap Freud came out with about wanting to sleep with your parents) here is an article explaining why these two conditions have nothing in common with each other: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/shadow-boxing/201402/aspergers-disorder-vs-psychopathy
  3. 1 point
    How often do you hear: "People with A.S. lack empathy." A great example how confusion and stereotyping spreads. What Asperger spelled out is autistic psychopaths either over empathise or under empathise. In the movie on Hans Christian Anderson his extreme empathy was shown in scenes where he cries at the opera and so on. So really we need to state that people with A.P. show extremes of empathy. By simply repeating the mantra that they "lack empathy" we just add to ever more misunderstanding. Another common misconception: People with A.P. simply collect large amounts of information on favourite topics such as "train spotting" but show no "deep understanding" of the subject. And yet Asperger distinguishes between 2 groups of autistic psychopaths. (1) Collectors of facts, figures and numbers. (2) Actual scientists or chemists or anatomists. The latter Asperger places in the minority. Yet for ages psychologists have adhered to the train spotting stereotype. At the moment I am attempting to clarify all Asperger discovered through quotes of his work. My hope is to build a solid framework to clearly outline what we do know before jumping ahead and aimlessly quoting stereotypes (or old wives tails). I confess much of it has had me confused just the same. Above all we need to define what autism actually is. I don't want to knock Baron Cohen but his famous test was too generalised and loose to be effective. If switchboards were jammed by people who passed the test with flying colours, that is a problem. For example, if you ask: Do you prefer to go out with friends or stay home and read?, any die-hard book worm will tip the scales closer to autism. So maybe better: Does being in the company of other people make you tense and wish to retreat by yourself? Not perfect but detail helps. Some then may respond, "I just prefer to read as I love a good book."
  4. 1 point
    None of what I'm going to say is helpful to the issues you're facing, but to at least give something like an answer to the core systemic problems: a.) The medical knowledge is lacking. I mean, all of the money that gets thrown into autism largely seems to be chasing after this well-intentioned idea that we're close to a "cure" for something that people can't even define. And that last bit is basically the problem. Hundreds of millions have gone into autism research, but not much has gone into understanding it broadly. I mean, look at how many people think autism is a condition that only affects children. And like, it's incredible how recently researchers have actually understood even the most basic things about how the symptoms appear in women, that sensory issues are typically a major part of ASD, etc, etc. Like, because there's like zero people with ASD actually studying ASD and contributing to the research, it means many medical professionals can keep on repeating mantras regarding from the 1950's without real resistance within the medical community. So yeah, because parents fund ASD research and they are obsessed with "fixing" their children and making them "normal", effectively zero money goes into understanding how ASD appears in adults. I'd be willing to bet that the medical community would be fucking stunned past recognition if they could sample the full range of adults with ASD, at what they can do, what they have accomplished, etc. b.) It's also partially our faults. I don't mean you and me as individuals; I mean the group of people who can pass well enough that we sort of get a choice to hide or to not. Because 99% of the time, it's easier to pass and just deal with all of the negatives that that entails. Every time an autistic person acquiesce, beats themselves up for being different, reacts to most situations making sure to seem normal --it implicitly complies with the notion that autistic people act a "certain" way, and if you don't then you aren't autistic. It's also due to the relative nascence of psychology and psychiatry; so little is known about human psychology, what affects it, how it works, etc. So when people chose to hide in plain sight, doctors don't know anything about them and their lives. c.) Politicians defunding medical care. It's extremely frustrating though. Realistically, I don't know how these issues get fixed without organizing and a serious effort at activism. That's particularly hard if you don't have an official diagnosis (then you can be freely ignored, and are potentially putting your livelihood/friendships on the line if you have a job), but still just as hard with the diagnosis because now you're publicly identifying yourself. It'd be great if there was some better, not child-associated things (like flags, symbols, public figures) for people with ASD to at least push some level of acceptance. At least to contrast with the child-centric picture of ASD.
  5. 1 point
    Learning a language is only a social activity in a social context - one can learn alone by listening to recordings, learn vocabulary and translate, or write, or even communicate with others, without it being social. Having poor or impaired social awareness doesn't mean that one is not able to learn a language, although it can mean that the motivation is lacking. Autistic people are often very good at learning languages because they have a good long term memory and pattern recognition. Also, being autisitic doesn't automatically mean that one doesn't want to be social or communicate with others - forums and chat rooms for people on the spectrum are evidence of this.
  6. 1 point
    Isn't what you have described just Autism? It doesn't need to be called Autistic Psychopathy. I think that's a very old fashioned way to describing Autism. Psychopathy is a whole separate condition.
  7. 1 point
    The problem with your evidence is that in the US it's common for people to 'exaggerate' medical reports to help with court cases and child/spousal support claims. The fact is that there is no diagnosis on record for him as stated in the articles I linked originally.
  8. 1 point
    I guess I consider official diagnosis not so reliable either. Too many psychologists offering different views. No solid 2+2 =4 and a lot of opinion or even speculation.
  9. 1 point
    Happy 4th of July!
  10. 1 point
    I just watched Willows video on empity and lost this year has been really rough after putting my dog down around Christmas time and a couple years ago it was a sad time for me when my gran passed away it's really sad too hear about willows grandfather sending hugs too Willow and her family right now
  11. 1 point
    Japanese seems like a cool one to learn. I've been learning French off and on for a few years though it's not necessarily exotic.
  12. 1 point
    I'm loveing the 2018 FIFA World Cup ๐Ÿ˜Šโšฝ๏ธ
  13. 1 point
    Macadamias are nice in a mix with pistachios and almonds. I buy that sometimes. Such a pleasing blend.
  14. 1 point
    It's a tough subject and I feel that no one really knows what we should be eating. Scientists can't grab a bunch of humans and do whatever they want with them, and that makes the whole process very slow. Ethics, eh? You can find studies that support almost any claim in nutrition, and it's going to take scientists a long time to figure out what's good or bad. Let's say we have some studies that say sausages are bad for us, but it's not conclusive. So the scientists go "Great, let's tell 200 humans to eat sausages everyday and see if it's true... oh wait". You see the problem? xD And then there's studies that you might want to take with a grain of salt... "Cheese lowers your bad cholesterol by 30%, according to study, funded by the WeLoveCheese foundation" It's a mess, really. There's only a few dietary-recommendations that have solid evidence behind them, such as avoiding trans-fats. There's a book called "The Bad Food Bible" by Aaron Carroll (a researcher), and he covers some controversial subjects (butter, MSG, eggs, salt and diet-soda), and gives some solid rules for healthy-eating. He also goes into the problems of studies in nutrition. The general "eat a varied diet" recommendation is kinda like: "we don't really know what you should be eating, so eat different foods and hope for the best". It doesn't sit well with me, but I guess it's not a bad recommendation given the problems in nutrition. You can lose weight on any diet where you consume less calories than you burn, but as for what's "healthy", that's a much more difficult problem. I don't think carbs are a problem; some people do well without them, some people do well on them. It's something you need to experiment with and see how you respond, but that can have problems too (placebo). I would personally stick to whole or minimally processed foods, exercise, and roughly follow the recommended carb/protein/fat/fibre intakes. Cronometer is a useful tool for this, and even shows what micronutrients are covered by the foods you eat. It's a great way to create a balanced diet: https://cronometer.com/
  15. 1 point
    I just distract myself by keeping myself busy. Browsing reddit, watching YouTube videos, posting on here, etc. I have a friend I can talk to when I'm lonely, but she's often busy.
  16. 1 point
    I spent a lot of years being very lonely, and I found it hard to overcome that. I posted online a lot and interacted where I could with people, but I was always very shy and lacked any kind of self confidence. Then a couple of years ago I just got bored of myself being so scared of everything and I just started going places and meeting new people and not caring what they thought of me - if we got along, great, if not, I didn't mind. But as I said, I was incredibly lonely for along time, and it's really hard, I sympathise with you greatly.
  17. 1 point
    I'm sorry about your experience, but as @HalfFull said, most people wouldn't react this way - this is a minority response and not a majority response. I can understand the point of view when people get annoyed that they have to work tirelessly to make ends meet and they see people who don't work, who don't look physically disabled, getting money 'for free'. But it's still not a fair judgement to make, especially when they know you. I actually have benefited a lot in the past from telling people about my mental health difficulties. I was open about things at one of the schools I went to (still a normal, run of the mill secondary school), and everyone - teachers and students, were all very accommodating and thoughtful. Though it did end badly, that was again, a minority not majority situation. I've found that, after many years of struggling socially, I just no longer care what people think - and if they're toxic and bringing me down, I just don't include them in my life anymore, I don't have time or energy for drama or bulls**t.
  18. 1 point
    I know it seems discouraging that the very first person you told said something like this but honestly in the UK most people wouldn't react like that. His reaction was unreasonable and its his problem if he is this ignorant. Disclosure helped me a lot in the workplace and I stayed with the same organisation for 12 years. I've never really had a bad experience from anyone knowing. Before that job, I did have one manager accuse me of being 'unwell', but he was a very militaristic thinker, and during a period of unemployment I disclosed to an acquaintance and she said "well when my friend gets back don't tell her that because she'll moan that we have to pay your taxes". Frankly, people who react in those ways are just brainwashed. They assume that people are 'playing the system' and do not see how cruel and heartless their responses sound. I truly believe that the media needs to get its act together and support neurological disorders instead of sensationalising it the same way as everything else! I think in jobs and relationships its strongly advised to disclose but otherwise I'd say choose very wisely and if someone reacts badly, its because they are clueless!
  19. 1 point
    I had ONE attempt at having a relationship with an aspie girl. In between my aspieness not being able to read her emotions and her aspiness sending the wrong signals, it ended up in disaster. Feelings were hurt, drama ensued. Years long friendships were lost because they side up with one or the other. It was bad. I guess relationships doesn't get any easier just because both people have the same syndrome.
  20. 1 point
    Thats the exact advice my friends give to me....... Im still 50/50 as to whether it will help. I reckon If Id had a diagnoses in the early days I may well have become a 'Victim' of my own sorrow.
  21. 0 points
    How do you deal with loneliness??
  22. 0 points
    To help with my loneliness, I listen to music, I draw, I watch YouTube videos, I work in Photoshop, InDesign, etc. I also work on my computer hobbies as well. I get lonely all the time.

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