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  1. 8 points
    This picture popped up on my social media feed this morning: All is nice and cool until we get to the "fight against" part. Fight against? How do you fight against? Or more importantly, WHY fight against it? Are we labeling it as something bad? I mean, if you fight against something is because it's bad. So this shirt create the "awareness" that "autism is bad" and we must "fight against it". There's already enough discrimination as it is and now we gonna make t-shirts to further make people believe autism is bad?
  2. 8 points
    He sounds horrible, if he cant accept you for who you are then he doesnt deserve you has a friend i know you may not believe this right now but you will find people to be your friend and that accept you for who you are
  3. 7 points
    Well I feel like moving to a mountain with no people around again. I haven't had the urge to run away and live in the woods in a while, but this last month sucked (actually all 2017). I won't start listing the sh*t that's been driving me crazy, since I decided a while ago to focus on the positive stuff in life. People are idiots and I'd rather spend time with the animals now. Don't know what else to say. Felt like telling everyone here.
  4. 6 points
    You're quite right. If it were somehow saying we should fight against the mistreatment and lack of support for people with autism that would make sense but it doesn't. Unfortunately this kind of shirt is just likely to reinforce stereotypes and discrimination.
  5. 6 points
    Call it "politically correct" if you want, but the view that any group of people is superior to the rest is wrong. Simply wrong. As people on the spectrum, we are in the minority when compared to people who are NT. If we want to be accepted by society, one way to guarantee that won't happen is having a superiority complex. We are not superior to people who are NT, we are different from them.
  6. 6 points
    Any NT person who thinks they are superior to those on the spectrum is wrong, but there are many people on the spectrum who think they are superior to people who are NT and that is equally wrong. Neither group is superior, and suggesting they are is divisive and wrong.
  7. 6 points
    Have you tried to meet others with ASD? You might find them more understanding and accommodating of your differences, as of course many find it harder to fit in. Though I get on with most people I know well, I feel much more of an affinity with others with ASD, and on the same wavelength. As it happens I only really have one friend without ASD, and that person has another disability. Posting here is a good start, as we're all on your side. Make the most of your hobbies, and immerse yourself in what you like doing. You have the right to be you, and make your own entertainment if it helps, but if you get fed up of your own company, come on here and chat with us.
  8. 6 points
    UPDATE!!! I have just had my final assessment this morning, and they told me there and then the results. I have finally been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome! I have mixed feelings but I guess atm I'm pretty glad as it means I am finally able to get the help I need. Thanks everyone for the replies and help
  9. 6 points
    When I was younger and before I was diagnosed, it really bothered me that I was excluded/rejected/ostracized, or that I was in some way singled out, mainly because I didn't understand why this was happening. Then, I coped by withdrawing into my shell and doing my own thing, or just talking to people who were 'safe.' Now, if this happens, I think to myself that I don't need these people anyway and if they are rejecting me, they are not my friends, and do I really want to hang out with a group of pseudo-friends with whom I probably won't feel at ease with and who don't really accept me for who I am? They are not worth troubling myself over.
  10. 5 points
    I think education may be a big portion of the robot thing. In most classes you learn to be passive. To learn passively, listen passively, work passively and think passively. Daydreaming is condemned time and time again, as this waste of time that indicates a bleak future for a lazy person. Yet studies show the brain is extraordinarily active during "daydreaming". It's when ideas are born. But we're not taught to have ideas, we're taught to sit still, be quiet and wait til it's over. And so that's what they do. They do it til it's over.
  11. 5 points
    I get frustrated very easily, and I sometimes it feels like life is a constant battle between me and my frustration. I get extremely frustrated when dealing with people, including my students, when trying to explain things to them, because they don't see something that's obvious to me, and then when I try to explain, they still don't get it. And then, they make the same mistakes over and over again, even though I have already corrected them, often several times. Or they don't listen and don't follow my instructions. I know that if I want to get on with people, I need to control and hide my frustration, but I'm not good at this. My frustration shows. It's a constant battle, me against my emotions. It's exhausting. When I was a child, I had huge problems with frustration, and as I had neither the social skills nor the emotional maturity to deal with it, I just used to melt down. Even as an adult, I still struggle with this and I still sometimes have frustration meltdowns. Do you have problems with frustration? How do you deal with it?
  12. 5 points
    i started a new med, and ive been told i seem so much happier and I feel happier too in all honesty
  13. 5 points
    ????? this made me laugh tbh
  14. 5 points
    First rule of April Fools - do it on April Fools Day. This is just ridiculous.
  15. 5 points
    I'm going to say one serious thing here. This thing needs to stop. It's too fucked up for words. (The irony in me saying that.) But seriously, the sh*t will hit the fan real quick, and you will end up in serious trouble. Anyone who agrees, like my post.
  16. 5 points
    Damn, that is just the kind of message autism doesn't need. The only fight regarding autism should be the fight for awareness and acceptance of autism, not the other way. Looking at it from a different angle, hopefully it is supposed to mean fighting against the struggles autism causes, though even so if true that is poorly worded and open to misunderstanding.
  17. 5 points
    i got to quit my job today and get to walk in with a new one with my father as he is a fedex contractor i am going in as a driver and maybe sometime down the road i may even be able to take over the business.
  18. 5 points
    It's better to focus on what's being said rather than on making eye contact. Conversations are more productive that way.
  19. 5 points
    Also, if you can learn to be very confident in "doing YOU", the most judgmental, gossipy alienating NT's will sometimes fall in line with you, quite loyally. Those kinds of people are the weakest ones in whatever territory you're roaming. That's why they act the way they act, because they know they're weak, and that they need an alpha to protect them. So if someone who is not only confident, but confident in all of their whimsies and "abnormalities", that will translate to strength, and they will be loyal subjects. It's really not about who acts the most normal. It's about whoever is the most confident in whatever way they act. So jst own it, and if you can be a level-headed, good person on top of that, almost zero people will mess with you.
  20. 5 points
    So true. And I'm the same way with eye-contact. There's two things I've tried. One, is what I call "the dance". Okay, she's talking so look at her eyes for one, two, three, look away as though considering to the left, two, three, okay back to the eyes, two, three, four, five, nod, look away, this time to the right, sure I've seen people do that, wait what has she been talking about? Yes, I've gotten better at "the dance", but also, I have found it's better if I just do things my way so that I get the information. I find that if you're kind, helpful and easy-going, nobody really gives a sh*t what you're looking at, doing with your hands or face. And they may think you're a little off, but just keep in mind that NT's kind of instinctively look for abnormal behavior even in one another and themselves because they are instinctively driven to be a part of the pack, because there's safety in numbers. One easy hack for feeling like you're a part of the group is by simply alienating another. It's kind of like a backward self-compliment. Nt's do this, even good people who may not realize and are for the most part, not cruel ( or at least don't mean to be). I wouldn't lose sleep over it. You will be seen as weird by someone, sometime, no matter how perfectly NT you act. That's just the world of socializing. The harder I've tried to "act NT", the weirder I think I come across, and also the more uncomfortable I am. So at some point I just decided to try out "acting like me". For the most part, it's worked out much better.
  21. 5 points
    I was reading David's Banner post about suffering really badly when he was young and been excluded and I'm not exactly opposite I was excluded a fair bit too. But sometimes I can be more NT then AS (at times) for me it more feels wrong like everyone says been sociable to that degree but I think where I differ is at I can do it, especially amongst people no one would guess I have Asperger's until they really know me. Not that I fully understand it, maybe I'm just good at imitating to a degree. But the point I'm trying to make is I've flirted with both sides of the spectrum. And it's not right to say one is better or worse, smarter or dumber or anything along those lines to one another. A condition doesn't automatically make you a good smart person, been a good person and working hard makes you good and smart. But from observations I'd say NTs have larger fields of knowledge because they're exposed to more but AS specialise much, much more because they're comfortable with what they choose. Anycase even that's wrong it's just a thought PS. Another observation I have sometimes noticed is people on the spectrum seem to care more about others following there opinions and ideas then an NT does. So just because they don't always respond to you in a way you'd expect doesn't mean they don't follow or understand as much as you
  22. 5 points
    They do this, yes. Claiming that they're always right even when they're clearly wrong. Or that they're better at something even when they're clearly worse.
  23. 5 points
    Yep - i get this... We see things MUCH more clearly than the foggy NT sight. I am always being ignored and then when I'm proved right, they deny that I said it in the first place. Partly because from what I can make out - NTs can't remember much beyond their working memory. So if I said something a few weeks ago and then what I predicted happens - the NT will deny all knowledge that I had already told them. Not that they do it on purpose but they really do seem to have less ability to remember things.
  24. 5 points
    I feel like I have felt like that before. I think it is not uncommon for people to go through stages where they are unsure of what they are doing with their life and feel like things are wrong. I have often found myself comparing myself to other people. I think social media like facebook make this worse because people can selectively post so their life looks better than it is. I know that I have seen other people and felt sad because I should be more like them. I know I have gone through times when I was unhappy with myself. Though as I have gotten older, I have gotten confidence with who I am and my identity and it is easier to stop myself comparing myself to others. Although I still do it!! I see my friends from school or see classmates from university and maybe hear or overhear plans that make me think maybe I should have done things a different way or maybe I am doing things wrong. I try to remind myself that my life will be different from other people's lives because I am different from other people. And sometimes when I catch myself comparing my life to someone else's, I try to remember that I am only seeing a fraction of their picture and to try and focus on my own. I feel often that I am way behind a lot of other people because it has taken me so long to figure out what I wanted to do as a career and it still is a bit foggy, and I feel behind when I see friends who are married and starting their families and I am just trying to start a career and life. But I have to remind myself that my life is different from others and that doesn't make it wrong...... maybe that can help you too, that just because your life might feel wrong or different or not right, doesn't mean it is, and that there is probably a bigger plan out there and it just doesn't make sense yet. Anyway, I will stop rambling for now, but I hope you can take some kind of peace from this, just know that it might not seem right now, but that doesn't make it wrong, just that you can't see the full picture yet! Don't stop being you because you were born to be you.
  25. 5 points
    Sounds like you have empathy or you wouldn't be nice and care about hurting people. Perhaps you just don't express it? I too want to be kind, but when I hurt someone's feelings I don't automatically apologise or comfort them and have to make a conscious effort to do so. It's taken a long time but it's slowly becoming a habit. I hope this helps.

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