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    This is something very personal and it is very sad to lose someone whom you thought was a friend and could confide and trust in Perhaps you friend felt "scared off" and doesn't know how to communicate with you any more...or trying to process what you said? Give it time and if nothing changes then yes, move on. That friend was merely superficial and not worthy of your friendship any more
  2. 3 points
    Hi. Canada seems pretty cool. Welcome to the site... It's not necessarily the most active place nowadays. Though sometimes there are "bursts" of activity. Some cool people here though.
  3. 2 points
    hello I'm a 31 year old female that lives in Georgia. I was diagnosed with autism back in 2014. I have difficulty making friends.im looking to meet some new people and make some friends.
  4. 2 points
    When a friendship ends it's of course painful when it's a betrayal. I've had this too a few years ago where two friendships went sour. But we need to be with the people we are supposed to be with and not the people we aren't supposed to be with. That's the way it is, I'm sure you'll agree. I'd say leave school altogether as it's a toxic environment. But if you continue to go, then just treat the girl in neutral way. Just move on... It isn't worth putting lots of energy into as it wouldn't be productive. Hope you feel better soon.
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    Hi! i'm Isadoorian. I discovered this site some time ago but forgot about it after trying to sign up and having to endure the long wait, then I remembered it about 10 minutes ago as of writing this and here I am. i'm 23 years old and hail from British Columbia, Canada and am Self diagnosed with a PDD-NOS. I like Reading, Cooking, Baking, Video/Tabletop/Card games, Listening to Music and watching TV/Netflix. I hope everyone here's as friendly and welcoming (and active) like a similar forum i enjoy using daily.
  6. 2 points
    As a teen on the spectrum I need help and support, one of the reasons why I’m here, but I can’t seem to find any help in person
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    Hi @Isadoorian and welcome to the forum
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    Welcome I like reading, cooking, baking also. Theres a post listing Aspie fiction if you are interested and read fiction
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    I will touch on this point of talent shows you raised Ben. I read not long ago children are scared to sing in public for fear of being ridiculed and humiliated. This is due to shows like X Factor. Kids associate the effort of trying to sing with possible humiliation and so-called experts on X Factor pulling faces. Little wonder! The process of learning to play guitar or do vocals means we "all" will sound like hell sometimes. Dwelling on it will clearly scare kids away from enjoying music and giving time to time. Speaking from experience I have sung tracks I wrote, recorded it and sounded awful (many times). Through further experience I learned to change key altogether or try a whole new approach. I researched the subject and found a helpful and positive musician on YouTube who explains we can all sing. If you can talk, you can sing. People have been singing for centuries, at schools, funerals and in the bath. So really, X Factor is on a negative agenda because, in truth, lots of successful rock and pop singers would sound pretty basic if you take away the backing music. John Lennon once stated George Harrison was a poor vocalist for some time and worked hard to improve. Pop singers were never expected to be either virtuosos or on a par with Pavorotti. Many times I noticed singers who left something to be desired just "go for it" on Top Of The Pops and nobody cared less - just danced. I would never pull faces or make fun out of someone singing or playing. I would suggest ways to bring out their range and key. I also prefer to hear an authentic voice than autotune which I see as an easy option. On sixties music - agreed. Check out The Californians, Fire and The Flowerpot Men. Great vocals and great sound.
  11. 2 points
    (Not written by me) ‘Nature became a support system’: How autism helped me campaign for wildlife A 15-year-old conservationist and activist from Northern Ireland writes about how it’s easier for him to connect with the natural world than other aspects of life By Dara McAnulty As a toddler, I crawled to observe, and sometimes catch, anything that moved: caterpillars, woodlice, ants. I intently observed birds, their behaviour and watched in wonder at their intricacy and how they interacted with everything around them. At this stage, I was unaware of my difference but as I grew, I knew the world was too noisy, too busy, too confusing and too overwhelming. I was diagnosed with Asperger's / autism aged five, at the insistence of my school – my parents had accepted and nurtured my eccentricities and even though I knew that I made life challenging for them. They always showed unconditional love and acceptance. Nature brought so much understanding to my life. It satiated my curiosity and then quenched my thirst for knowledge. My capacity to feel at one with the confusing aspects of our world grew when I was immersed in nature and learning all about it. My differently wired brain was at peace. By age seven I knew I was very different, I had gotten used to the isolation, my inability to break through into the world of talking about football or Minecraft was not tolerated. Then came the bullying. Nature became so much more than an escape; it became a life-support system – although I didn’t realise it then. By age 12, my mental health was in tatters, years of bullying and isolation had taken its toll. I decided that I would write, unlock all the feelings that were swirling in my head, I needed to express what I couldn’t in real time through conversation. I started writing a blog about nature, autism, species I was interested in, the habitats they lived in and the challenges they faced. It quickly gained popularity beyond my wildest dreams. I joined Twitter and three years later, my life is irrevocably changed. I was invited on to Springwatch, asked to write articles for the Wildlife Trusts and my local newspapers. The BBC wanted to film me, record me for radio – all of this was completely unnerving and at times overwhelming – but I pushed through because even though it was all so new, I was doing what I loved. I was being myself. During this time, realising the extent that nature was suffering, I quite accidentally became an activist. I started campaigning firstly against the illegal persecution of hen harriers – a protected raptor, endangered and increasingly rare. It hurt me so deeply, that the words on the page needed to be spoken out loud. I stood up and spoke that first time, aged 13, and all of a sudden I felt a great strength burn inside me. I realised I had potential to do good, to give back to nature – which has given me so much joy, wonder and healing. One of the qualities of being autistic is our determination and focus. Many people call our interests ‘obsessions’, I call them passions. My passion is the natural world, our planet, all life we share it with and the challenges it faces. I will never give up. Wherever my passion is willing to take me I am ready for it, it’s who I am. Read more from Dara at youngfermanaghnaturalist.com and follow on Twitter @NaturalistDara Source: The Big Issue
  12. 2 points
    My cat got a new bed today and she seems to like it.
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    Sorry to hijack but this isn't just a female thing I don't do fake, superficial, deceit or play pretend games to manipulate or control people. I don't do office politics and don't play the social game. I also don't like people who play power games or do "one-upping", backstabbing, eager to "get one over" somebody else. I prefer honest, straightforward people with integrity and honesty
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    I had to agree with George. Just it is now much worse than the time when he had a dig. I know it's easy to appear negative or stuck in the past, but modern pop simply all sounds the same. Most of it is dominated by rap where the performers rely on high tech mixing and audio software but can't play a lick. Not even an authentic drum roll. Contrast that with the New Orleans jazz bands even in the fifties who all played great sax, cool guitar and real percussion. What George started to point out was that, even 12 years ago, somehow the public became far less critical, less inclined to see new trends in the pop industry be it punk, flower power or new wave. To put it mildly I find 90 per cent of modern pop and rock boring, repetitive, fake and synthetic. Harrison went further calling modern pop "a pollution". Except to be truthful, modern pop no longer exists and I find DJs keep playing far older bands like The Bee Gees, The Police, M Jackson. Many theories abound and even a book written on the decline of pop. What emerges is (1) Digital I.T. allowed millions of people to produce popular music which sort of drowned out the former elite. You didn't need to be signed by a label and standards fell. Add to that, to the public ear, software streamed digital audio and autotune sounds good enough - no need to learn real lead guitar, piano or bass, sax or percussion. Of course this affected sales and the industry. Bands like Genesis were paid for sales of CD and vinyl but had to compete in terms of quality to sell albums. Now, all you have is free downloads. No paid performances on Top Of The Pops. No all girl dance groups like Pans People. No ranked top 40 topped by talented songwriters like Abba. The huge irony for me is that electronic music peaked and enhanced pop in the 80s with Roland synths being played skillfully. I guess when it finally got to software production, this attracted a larger pool of aspiring musicians who had never been exposed to authentic music. The easy option took over and record labels crashed out, as did the charts and the big rock bands. I wonder if real rock and pop will ever return or are we doomed to mediocrity and conformity for the coming decades.
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    Hi @renee87 and welcome. I hope you will meet new friends here
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    Please be warned its a very intense survey. It was upsetting for me - I didnt realise how much it would be so based on the disclaimer. I wouldnt have done it in hindsight. Everyone is different, just have to further forewarn @StarlessEclipse the info says it is for any adult with a normal IQ It does seem very bias towards more stereotypical and male autism traits though
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    Well, a declining ability to empathize would be odd to me because I think that if you are autistic this inability would have been a constant. I think the opposite where the empathy increases over time would be more probable in the case of autism. But that's just what I think. I am not an expert. I think a diagnosis might be helpful as it may e.g. show your wife the root cause (in the case you are autistic) which would provide clarity. Anyway, welcome on here and I hope either the problems in your marriage get fixed or, in the case it ends, that you are able to cope emotionally during the divorce and eventually are able to move on.
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    Hi Guys, so as you can tell from the title, my good friend from the past about one and a half years stopped hanging out with me and started hanging out with another girl after I trusted her with my diagnosis. I think this is because of my diagnosis but I am not really a person to trust with social skills anyway, what should I do? I am in a small school where I can’t really avoid her- How should I handle this? Please help!
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    I was watching this video on YouTube, where this girl with AS talks about how she acts Neurotypical to try and fit into society, and how much of a struggle it is trying to fit in with Neurotypical people and how tiring it is trying to act like someone else. It got me thinking, everyday of my life, I have to act 'Neurotypical' but ultimately fail at doing so, trying to understand jokes - sometimes pretending I do, trying to stay chatty and talk about uninteresting things, even trying to smile for extended periods of time sometimes, does anyone else try to act Neurotypical?
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    Welcome, Iris.
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    Hi, I am Iris. I just recently got my diagnosis and am looking for online support since I live in a rural area with limited support. I enjoy Art, Theater, Music, Fishing, Hunting, Trapping, and Animals (chickens)
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    Psychologists ought to consider how music can be used to evaluate social development. Plus the effect it may have on us. What modern pop tells me at a quick glance is (1) it is not changing or evolving and (2) the mass population is playing basically the same material. So it points to conservatism and conformity. I am sure there will be musicians around today with creative talent but they cannot be in any way popular as society is too "stuck in one groove". Would Jimmy Hendrix make it on X Factor or get huge downloads from public mobile phones? I very much doubt it. Speaking of Jimmy, he was typical of the sixties music scene, doing stuff differently and "feeling" his guitar. Setting new trends and pushing the boundaries. So the sixties generation appreciated change and new experiences. They protested policies, searched for deeper meaning and followed music as a form of expression and shaking off conservatism. I'm really not afraid to bash modern music. I don't care if people accuse me of being somehow "out of touch". I think George Harrison as an ex Beatle had every right to react critically. Had John Lennon survived to this modern era I think he'd have been saddened. Lennon did predict rock and roll would die out. He hated it when the early Beatles had to wear suits and ties. Seeing music turned into a quick sales global market simply removed grass root art from the working classes or social outsiders. The only positive is there's lots of great music to dig back to. From Louisiana jazz to progressive there are some great bands of bygone years.
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    Hi @Alice Thank you for this article. It's interesting. As for me, I always had troubles to make friends. When I was a child, I used to begin my school year with one or two mates (girls) and to finish the year alone. Now, I've got a few friends with whom I feel good. I fear to give my trust to bad people, what I used to do when I was younger. That's why I've become more selective. The most frustating experiences are when I want to be friend with a girl but I don't know how to do and finally, I don't have any occasions to do it anymore. Otherwise, I find that it's easier to be friend with boys than girls.
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    Yeah, you've made a brilliant point actually - hadn't thought of it myself until now. X Factor is oppressive and YET ANOTHER one of life's box ticking exercises - which of course, has absolutely no place within the confines of creativity. I honestly hate what it stands for and promotes, and to be honest, I hate most modern day music. The indies has the odd diamond in the rough, but they'll never be aloud to come to fruition. George really came on leaps and bounds by the White Album/Abbey Road era - and I liked this first album even more than John's first in some ways - let's not forget that John IS about as good as they'll ever come, so what I say is a huge credit to George. I actually loved how unassuming and peaceful George was, he was ALL about the craft. He hated fame. Cheers for the recommendations
  27. 1 point
    For quality pop music to even exist there has to be a certain level of culture. The music being "popular" will then reflect that culture. I truly believe pop music is a useful measuring tool of culture as it is. The less advanced it becomes, the more we will hear 85 per cent drum (boom boom, boom boom, and plenty of swearing and lyrics to do with crack cocaine. Nothing new - you hear it all the time. It may possibly vary geographically but in my area there is simply no interest. I meet people all the time in shops or supermarkets and there is no way to discuss music. People are totally fixated on work, family and (very definitely) mobile phone videos and so on. Without a shadow of a doubt, I maintain if I had a time machine and zapped back to 1968, I could chat to lots of people locally about music. In fact, The Rolling Stones did a local gig here in the early sixties to a packed audience. Girls would scream wildly. There were small psychedelic bars where kids just listened to rock bands and toyed with the odd "upper". It went so far that the guys had rock star haircuts or posters on bedroom walls. Most towns had huge record stores and full of people leafing through them. Why then has music today become so unimportant to the population? Part of it is probably economics. Most people are more occupied by work and bogged down in family life. Unemployment is high. I would go so far as to say The Tories have prioritised labour over arts while further education and arts have wilted. Mobile phone and social media is also quite addictive and generally people go out and mix less. And finally this is currently neither a musical or militant population. Not only is music unimportant to them but also militant issues like social justice or even old concerns such as fox hunting. This leaves the would-be rock or pop musician in an awful fix. Like trying to plant a tree in a desert.
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    I once saw this 16 year old girl dance to this Top 40 type hip-hop "gangsta" or "playa" music as if she was in some ecstatic state. It was like seeing a beautiful girl enjoy a shower while there's toxic sludge coming out of the showerhead.
  29. 1 point
    Just an anecdote about George Harrison: Late in the sixties he decided to go to San Francisco to meet head on the hippy and flower children who had San Francisco as their capital. George was pretty stoned as he arrived but full of expectation. San Francisco was the base of big psychedelic bands such as Jefferson Airplane or Janis Joplin. George was to be bitterly disappointed. The Beatle fans in S.F. struck Harrison as bums and drug addicts and not particularly inspiring people. Harrison was so disappointed he soon decided to quit LSD and turn to transcendental meditation instead. My bet is George suddenly got a whole new insight into music. Probably he realised a lot of Beatle fans were simply following a trend mainly due to "popularity". When you really do love creativity through music, you follow a band for the way it moves you personally. So often the masses will just follow the herd and want to be seen to be "in" on the fashion. Once The Beatles truly split, it seems both George and John got wiser and more cynical. George did a few solo albums but became very private and quiet. None of The Beatles offspring have really managed to make any impact, except Julian Lennon in the eighties. Sean Lennon did the odd non mainstream album.
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    I only really listen to 60's music. I don't care what anyone says, The Beatles, Small Faces, Manfred Mann, Jimi Hendrix and Janis just aren't going to be matched by anything that has been produced since 1975 onwards, besides Paul Weller and Amy - of course. John Lennon's voice when The Beatles performed Twist and Shout at the 1963 Royal Variety Performance is without doubt the best voice I'll ever hear. Vocals will NEVER get better than that. I wonder what George would make of talent shows and the rubbish on Radio 1? "I paved the way for this load of shite?"
  31. 1 point
    "when they complain or are nostalgic when it comes to the past which was somehow better than the present...." We have eras in music. The 1940s is a bit distant for me so I don't know much about that period. The 1950s saw the arrival of rock and roll. To be honest, I wasn't keen on Elvis /or even Jerry Lee Lewis but have sometimes seen jazz bands of the 1950s and was impressed. Most were black jazz musicians in the USA. The sixties, I see as the most creative era of all - starting from 1966 perhaps. Pop and rock at that time was huge in cultural terms and this is a point I'd like to stress. It also went beyond music to the "counter culture" phenomenon. The 1970s to my mind was essentially O.K. but did lack the imagination of the sixties. You had the advent of disco and funk. The 1980s I view as odd somehow since I find the song-writing ability of many groups was really good and there were some great synth sounds that emerged. However, eighties music was just good music with no real cultural message or deeper meaning. There was talent however. What happened in 2000 and onwards and why single it out as "barren"? Well, as you can see above, my opinion varies from era to era. It is only "this" era that I come down on hard. Plus one big point I'd like to stress is when I try to chat to everyday people on the street about rock or pop, there is no response or interest. It doesn't trigger any reaction. People will talk about DIY or their work but, at least where I live, never music. And that's not the end of it.... Go to any large supermarket and the music being played is just awful in the sense it has no guts or authenticity or anything inspired. Go into the street, and all you get is rap which is all doing the same thing to the same auto drum beat and overkilled bass. To my mind, pop music when done well includes the following: (1) Melody, harmony, harmony and melody (I think it was Brian Wilson who stressed that. (2) Authenticity. The whole magic of pop and rock and roll was that the people who created it were genuinely expressing their own talents. They were never virtuosos or classically trained or brilliantly trained vocalists. They tended to learn various instruments at a basic, but acceptable level. It was grass roots music. Modern pop is not grass roots music but establishment music churned out purely to make a little cash. Purely "commercial". (3) Message. The very best pop tended to have a social message. In the late sixties, this was the hippy movement where people tried to be more at harmony and think more about deeper issues. Music can be a really powerful cultural force - a far cry from the shallow, synthetic, background mass reproduction of the modern era. I dislike 90 per cent of modern music so much I just download all much older material. Below, a band from the eighties I used to go and see perform in a pub full of about 15 spectators. The lead singer was really talented, did the vocals and lead guitar. Fire Clown.
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    What do you think of Greta Thunberg?
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    What are you looking forward during the summer im looking forward to going golfing and going paddel boarding on the open water and also a family BBQ with my girlfriend and my birthday And also seeing some summer blockbusters movies at the movie theatre
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    That's cool that you are online acquaintances/buddies. I like her accent. How the word but is pronounced "boh" lol. There's someone else called Delicate ASMR who has the same accent. I don't know much about FrivolousFox but I have heard of her.
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    I love Miss Synchronicity! She's so cool... I've been binge watching her videos the past couple of weeks or so. But I don't think she's an aspie. She's an introvert but NT it seems to me. Tenderloving I saw in a video where she was drawing and the way she spoke in that video e.g. just screams AS to me. lol It hasn't been stated though. Was just about to watch this Miss Synchronicity video: She's so nice and awesome!
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    I saw part of it years ago but found it all a bit too loud for me. Think there was a lot of swearing too which would have put me off.
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    It's all about a aspergers comedy troop there from the USA and there really funny and there a another documentary about there USA comedy tour it's on hbo and hbo Canada
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    (Not written by me) Understanding the benefits and challenges of neurodiversity in tech Neurodiversity is severely lacking in the tech sector. In light of the skills gap and the moral value of diversity, it's time organisations create more welcoming and productive work environments for neurodivergent employees According to a 2018 report from Tech Nation, 83% of the tech community in the UK believe their biggest challenge is accessing skilled workers. While some employers are quick to argue it’s a simple case of demand outstripping supply, some claim it’s because too many talented people are going unnoticed by recruiters. This realisation has spurred many businesses to become more diverse and inclusive. As such, in recent times, there’s been a lot of discussion around how to effectively attract staff of all ethnicities and genders. However, there’s a growing view emerging that more needs to be done in the area of neurodiversity. Research from the National Autistic Society found that just 16% of autistic adults are in full-time work and of those who weren’t, 77% wanted to be. Autism affects more than one in 100 people, which means over 700,000 people in the UK are autistic. That’s a huge pool of underutilised people that could be contributing to workplaces in many sectors that are currently being overlooked. What is neurodiversity and how can it help tech? Proponents of neurodiversity argue that in the same way we acknowledge a diverse range of sexualities, philosophies and cultures, we should accept a range of different modes of thinking as part of the human condition. At the same time, we should not pathologise those who experience the world in a different way but learn to embrace and include these different perspectives and modes of thought. Speaking with Information Age, Catherine Leggett, an employment consultant with the National Autistic Society, argued the problem is that autistic people tend not to be diagnosed on their strengths; they’re diagnosed on their difficulties. According to her, there is now also a growing body of academic research that suggests neurodiversity has tangible benefits for businesses. While no two people on the autistic spectrum are the same, people with autism often have desirable qualities for employers, particularly in tech, such as having high levels of concentration, strong mathematical abilities and excellent memories. As such, there’s a growing number of big firms who are keen on accessing neurodiverse talent; such as SAP, Hewlett Packard Enterprise (HPE), Microsoft, Willis Towers Watson, Ford, EY and DXC Technology. How enterprises can be neurodiverse One of the most challenging things about becoming neurodiverse is that there is no one size fits all approach to hiring people with autism. As the esteemed professor and autism advocate Dr Stephen Shore put it: “If you’ve met one individual with autism, you’ve met one individual with autism.” However, according to Leggett, it’s essential to recognise that certain recruitment procedures often inadvertently create barriers for autistic people. The good news: there are numerous minor adjustments that businesses can make to their hiring process that will help autistic candidates demonstrate their skills. First of all, Leggett suggested organisations use clear and concise job descriptions when hiring. According to her, job descriptions often include skills that are not essential for the job to be carried out effectively. Qualities such as ‘excellent communication skills’ or ‘good team player’ are often included as default skills, even if they are not necessary – and many autistic people will not apply for jobs demanding these attributes. Organisations should also adapt their candidate selection process. “Many autistic applicants may not have achieved the kind of minimum educational qualifications or standards that are required, and this can be for a number of reasons,” said Leggett. “Perhaps they’ve got a later diagnosis and have been unsupported, or they might have conditions like dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia, which all affect academic performance too. So be flexible about your criteria for education and particular skills and experience. “A lot of autistic graduates start their careers much later in life than non-autistic people and may have patches or gaps in their employment records.” Where neurodivergent people struggle is obtaining a job in the first place, added Leggett, since they can fall short on the requirements for strong verbal and nonverbal communication skills typically needed in a traditional job interview. Autistic candidates often struggle to ‘sell themselves’ in an interview, even if they have all the right skills. As such, organisations should offer job trials instead. If you would like to take this approach, NAS’s Employment Training Service can offer support and advice. Maintaining your neurodiverse workforce According to the BIMA Tech Inclusion and Diversity Report, neurodivergent employees are more likely to be impacted by poor mental health, 84% vs 49% for neurotypical workers. This suggests that beyond attracting neurodivergent talent, businesses need to be paying better attention to the quality of their working conditions. “Businesses need to be looking for what could be causing anxiety and working with their employees to put an adjustment in place for them,” said Leggett. “Often with younger people, it’s travel training and things like that. With older people, it could just be overwhelming sensory inputs, and that’s exhausting. “It could also be that they’re working in a highly social workplace; without adjustments in place they’re going to really struggle to meet those kinds of social expectations.” Is tech accepting of neurodiversity? According to Leggett, while a lot of work needs to be done, there is a lot to be optimistic about. She said: “We are now being approached by employers who want to do autistic intern programmes, apprenticeships and work experience. They know that’s where the talent is. “However, while it might be business needs driven at the moment, the actual motivation we would hope would be that it’s a moral and a social one. Everybody needs a chance at work, it’s so important for your identity, your independence, even just to make basic choices in life. “Neurodiversity produces this really positive kind of workplace cultural shift in how people are valued. Your clients and your service users are also neurodiverse so it can only be a good thing really. The more diversity you have, the more creativity and innovation you have, but also you’re demonstrating to your customers that you’re reflecting the world as it is.” Source: Information Age
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    Interesting. I'll try watching the Aspergers are Us documentary when I get a chance. I haven't seen it and not sure if I will like it but will add it to my list of things to watch when I have a bit more time!
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    This event (on 3 July) may be of interest. It's hosted by IBM at their Client Centre in London - which, incidentally, is not their UK HQ (that's in Portsmouth). A day of workshops and networking focused on ensuring careers in cyber security are made accessible to everyone. The workshops will educate and offer constructive advice and guidance for both employees and employers. The workshops: Exploring the gender gap in cyber security – has anything made a difference yet? Combatting stress and burnout in cyber security .. from surviving to thriving How to tap into the neurodiverse workforce to plug the skills gap Physical disability: addressing the accessibility challenges faced in a technical security career Book on Eventbrite
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    Some girls would find it hard, others wouldn't. Some boys would find it hard too, some wouldn't. It's a cultural phenomenon, not a genetic one. If girls are brought up in a culture that is telling them that they can't do things, then they won't try, won't learn and develop that skill. It has nothing to do with innate ability, or lack of it.
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    That sounds real nice Its autumn here, turning to winter - my favourite season. Im looking forward to cosy nights with a book. My cat sleeping under the covers. Scarves, boots, winter coats. Rain on the roof top. Hot chocolates. The feeling of coming in from the cold and warming with a hot tea or hot shower. Sigh. Im not a fan of summer except for my flower garden and butterflies, and little bits of sun. I dont like being too warm. Its too hard to cool down, I dont like summer clothes, and dont like exercising in the heat or getting too sweaty. You guys enjoy it though !
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    Sometimes I feel like I am close to people, but then something will happen and I realise that maybe they've just been tolerating certain parts of me and I wonder how close I really am to them. And that can make me feel alone
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    Yes, and I've always felt that way. I can't connect and tap into a friend group, and I don't fit in. It's like I'm behind a glass wall. People connect by sharing emotions. When they talk, they aren't just communicating in words, but also in emotions, and they use both verbal and non-verbal language to do so. I'm receptive only the the words and get little of this emotional to and fro, so for me, It's just like watching TV.
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    I don't think there's a real escape from it. It's just the way life is. I think a lot of people are kind of "mindless" and they make a lot of noise and to them life "just makes sense" and everything is to be taken for granted. If you're like that then you're going to be acting a certain way but if you're an actual person with feelings and thoughts and opinions then life tends to be a certain way where you feel and think all sorts of things and it's not necessarily easy. I don't have any "friends" at the moment meaning I have zero companions. I work alone and I live alone but I don't feel isolated. If I were to spend time with people I'm not supposed to be with I would feel lost and alone like in a desert far from home. If I was to spend time with people I am supposed to spend time with I'd be more balanced but that "being alone" would still be there. Life works a certain way and it's just the way it is. Here's a good song... Nevermind the ultra long, 20+ second intro and gaming footage.
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    I'm not sure what to do, I really need some advice. I've come to care for someone a lot. Someone that always gets me though dark places and has giving me their everything these last few months. Now its not romantic or even a relationship, I think if I really wanted it can be and and a part of my would like to try. But she's not like anyone else and I know in myself I'm not good enough. And I'm fine with that. But she's going away possibly to start her new life and where she's going I'm scared for her, I want everything to workout for her more then anything. But a part of me also feels heartbroken that we won't be there for each other everyday anymore. Is that selfish, because my only goal is for her to find her happiness. How do I accept this chapter of my life with her will end now possibly? When it hurts so much?
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    Just woke up feeling super lonely.
  48. 1 point
    I can't try to act Neurotypical. I honestly don't know how some people do it. My brain is too overcome by just being... Autistic, I can't pretend. I used to try a bit and tried to copy how other girls stood like and what they said in conversations, but it was still far too hard and I still stood out as being awkward because it wasn't natural. It must be difficult to act like that every day. Also, I don't want to act Neurotypical, I just want to be me even if it is Autistic, but just not in bad ways and causing problem.
  49. 1 point
    I have this feeling that I'll always be lonely, without friends or a partner. I know my social skills have improved, but I still don't know how to make friends. I don't have any friends whatsoever outside of the internet and it's starting to get to me. Normally when I mention these things to people, they just tell me to get over it or tell me to leave the house and meet people. I've tried to get out, but it's hard to find any kind of help or even a place to go to when you always live in small towns.
  50. 1 point
    Same here! No real friends apart from online. I feel lonely most days mainly when I read about people I use to go to school with always doing things with there friends. I to live in a small village and half of it is taken over my older people. You are not alone!

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