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  1. 2 points
    I think a professional diagnosis is always better but isn't available to everyone for reasons such as insurance issues.
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    I think that it's due to education. Girls grow up with stereotypes which are amplified depending on their culture, their families. For some, they don't live in an environment which enables them to open their mind and think by themselves. The behaviours you noticed below could be also due to being unwell (for instance, because of a lack of love in their childhoods). So (no offence) I find that it's too easy to conclude that "a lot of women are kind of...odd. And stupid".
  3. 2 points
    When people talk about self diagnosis what they usually mean is they suspect they have it and then they go see a professional to be assessed. I don't think anyone is saying that you can legally diagnose yourself, but you can have a suspicion that you have it and request assessment, or don't if you don't want a formal diagnosis, personally I never really sought out a diagnosis as I thought I was doing fine and it was only after I got diagnosed when I started researching it more and watching videos and visiting forums that I realised how much I had been getting wrong. I don't think you are only autistic when you leave the house... I think that is a weird thing to say, sure you might be more anxious when you leave the house but of course you are always autistic... saying otherwise would suggest it is something we chose/fake. I would agree that people don't always understand psychological jargon and they may have a tendency to 'look for the traits' and then find them... that is why we have a formal assessment process, but as I have said elsewhere I knew I was on the spectrum from around age 14 and just never bothered following it up (assuming I didn't need to), none the less I was right since I do now have a formal diagnosis. Self-diagnosis is a first step on the road to formal diagnosis for people who haven't been diagnosed in childhood. I would absolutely agree that people should get formally diagnosed but a lot of the time you have to ask your doctor to refer you so that you can be assessed and this means you need to know or at least suspect you are on the spectrum.
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    In this very important thread, I'm going to address difficulties with mandatory teaching of foreign languages, these difficulties do not apply to mandating teaching of other subjects. I've never heard of these being acknowledged, but I have long noticed them. As far as I know, even those opposed to this mandation don't acknowledge them. First of all, if someone is required to learn at least one foreign language at school, which language are they to learn? Also, this in fact means that schoolchildren are required to learn at least one officially licensed foreign language, whether or not they learn any other. If they attend a school in the public school system, they are required to learn one of the languages taught at that school, and usually this is one of the biggest Berlitz languages, most often French, German, Spanish or Italian. Chinese and Japanese are also commonly taught. There are also serious flaws in the reasoning given in favour of requiring all schoolchildren to learn at least one foreign language. One reason given is job opportunities; Learning different foreign languages opens up different job opportunities, there is no job opportunity that can be opened up simply by learning at least one foreign language. The worst one is that learning a second language improves one's communication skills or makes one smarter. First of all, does learning another languages really improve one's skills at communicating to other native speakers of one's own language. Also, the belief that learning a second language makes you smarter assumes that we think in language, but if that were the case, than anything that can't be said couldn't be thought. Indeed the more words one learns in one's native language, the more thoughts one can transcribe. And when is the last time you have heard of someone learning another language just to get smarter or improve one's skills at communicating with native speakers of one's own language. If so, which language?
  5. 1 point
    Macadamias are nice in a mix with pistachios and almonds. I buy that sometimes. Such a pleasing blend.
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    This weekend is going to be great on the weekend it's my mum and dads 40th anniversary in my mum and dad's backyard there's going too be a food truck and a band it's going too be awesome enjoy your weekend everybody 😊
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    I never thought it was a bad thing when French was made mandatory for Years 10 and 11 (ages 14-16) at the school I had left not long before. I was in one of the last years who only had to do it for 3 years and could then choose it as an option as I did. Needless to say that it increases the possibility of being able to communicate with a French customer in the workplace. In some schools, this could be German or Spanish. English is mandatory to age 16 or above in most Western European countries and many speak it fluently. I kind of feel like they should not be expected to make all the effort. At the same time making it optional for at least the final 2 years of High school might be the fairest way. Certainly its pointless making a subject requiring particular skills mandatory if the time could be put to better use using a different skill, but what we don't want is to rely entirely on the people we do trade with knowing English, as it may be a recipe for disaster.
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    I did once notice that lots of deranged serial killers were married. I mean, these were human beings who had no conception of the value of life. This is where I sense serious misunderstandings of empathy. There's a difference between the autistic whose dependency upon feelings is low and a criminal psychopath who has no regard for life. Anyway, back in the sixties the producers of Star Trek had the idea of creating Mr Spock out of an autistic extreme. Spock's morals are based on pure logic and feelings are irrelevant. Although crew Doctor McCoy is often horrified by Spock's lack of empathy, Spock is no monster or danger to others. The other week I was reading Asperger's essays and he stated he was shocked to have witnessed autistic children use other children as if they were objects. This was basically leaning on someone like a prop and not being aware of personal space, instinctive limits and social norms. From that, Asperger often started to deduce all that behaviour represented a latent threat. Personally I think with severe autism you just can't copy and interpret social rules, more so in childhood. Funnily enough too, I once recall while on a coach trip to France, there were two girls sat behind me. Without any explanation or even a word spoken, they decided to use my shoulders and neck to rest their feet. Given both girls were pretty attractive I just let them carry on. Later on in life I discovered I am really too closely wired to females to represent a gender based attraction. What I have now is female friends who keep in touch and like to talk. Most of these have light autistic traits but their own families.
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    And this requires more dedication and enthusiasm than doing the same with subjects like reading, writing and numeracy skills, and even some academic subjects. Suppose there were a point system where students earn points from incidental use of the language in question and had to earn a certain number of points at a minimum to continue beyond the mandatory years. Note I am referring to the difficulties with government mandation. If a school requires all students to learn at least one foreign language, that's a different matter. In that case, learning a second language is a condition for attending the school and does not apply to students of other schools. If learning Latin were a condition for attending Catholic schools, parents who don't want their children mandated that they learn it against their will could just send their children to other schools. If learning Hebrew were a condition for attending Jewish schools, a similar thing would apply, don't send children to a Jewish school if you don't want them mandated to learning it against their will. That's the best I could do with responding to both the posts above.
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    I'm no linguistic expert, but I do have some relatively recent personal experience that I feel is relevant. French was by far my least favourite subject at school, not because of any predisposition against learning a language, but because mandating that everybody learn against their will something that requires so much dedication and enthusiasm is plainly a recipe for disaster. The combination of boredom and the inevitable lack of progress meant that disruptive behaviour got out of control in every single mandatory class. My teacher was a very nice woman who clearly loved her subject, but genuinely seemed to have become a shadow of her former self on the verge of a nervous breakdown by the end of the year because the situation was so dire. I remember absolutely no one who chose to carry on after the mandatory language years were over, because everyone was just so glad to be free of the abject misery that those classes always were. If the subject had stopped being mandatory after the first year and people didn't end up scarred by those bad experiences, there would undoubtedly have been many more enthusiasts willing to carry on. I have a qualification on paper, but I can honestly say I've retained nothing from those four years. The whole thing was a total shambolic disaster.
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    TallStick is an early stage social enterprise creating digital solutions that support autistic children, their parents and teachers. They have a long-term goal of open sourcing data in order to model the cognitive function of those with autism and improve their lives, and are looking for feedback from parents of autistic children (up to age 16) Link to survey
  12. 1 point
    It's a tough subject and I feel that no one really knows what we should be eating. Scientists can't grab a bunch of humans and do whatever they want with them, and that makes the whole process very slow. Ethics, eh? You can find studies that support almost any claim in nutrition, and it's going to take scientists a long time to figure out what's good or bad. Let's say we have some studies that say sausages are bad for us, but it's not conclusive. So the scientists go "Great, let's tell 200 humans to eat sausages everyday and see if it's true... oh wait". You see the problem? xD And then there's studies that you might want to take with a grain of salt... "Cheese lowers your bad cholesterol by 30%, according to study, funded by the WeLoveCheese foundation" It's a mess, really. There's only a few dietary-recommendations that have solid evidence behind them, such as avoiding trans-fats. There's a book called "The Bad Food Bible" by Aaron Carroll (a researcher), and he covers some controversial subjects (butter, MSG, eggs, salt and diet-soda), and gives some solid rules for healthy-eating. He also goes into the problems of studies in nutrition. The general "eat a varied diet" recommendation is kinda like: "we don't really know what you should be eating, so eat different foods and hope for the best". It doesn't sit well with me, but I guess it's not a bad recommendation given the problems in nutrition. You can lose weight on any diet where you consume less calories than you burn, but as for what's "healthy", that's a much more difficult problem. I don't think carbs are a problem; some people do well without them, some people do well on them. It's something you need to experiment with and see how you respond, but that can have problems too (placebo). I would personally stick to whole or minimally processed foods, exercise, and roughly follow the recommended carb/protein/fat/fibre intakes. Cronometer is a useful tool for this, and even shows what micronutrients are covered by the foods you eat. It's a great way to create a balanced diet: https://cronometer.com/
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    So Nesf and Riri both like to drink beer? Google Translate really does give away peoples secrets, or likes to have fun making things up
  14. 1 point
    No worries I think that it was a good idea to say these random positive things about the people on the forum. And you could be sure that in my case, there won't have any backfire
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    I just distract myself by keeping myself busy. Browsing reddit, watching YouTube videos, posting on here, etc. I have a friend I can talk to when I'm lonely, but she's often busy.
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    I spent a lot of years being very lonely, and I found it hard to overcome that. I posted online a lot and interacted where I could with people, but I was always very shy and lacked any kind of self confidence. Then a couple of years ago I just got bored of myself being so scared of everything and I just started going places and meeting new people and not caring what they thought of me - if we got along, great, if not, I didn't mind. But as I said, I was incredibly lonely for along time, and it's really hard, I sympathise with you greatly.
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    I'm sorry about your experience, but as @HalfFull said, most people wouldn't react this way - this is a minority response and not a majority response. I can understand the point of view when people get annoyed that they have to work tirelessly to make ends meet and they see people who don't work, who don't look physically disabled, getting money 'for free'. But it's still not a fair judgement to make, especially when they know you. I actually have benefited a lot in the past from telling people about my mental health difficulties. I was open about things at one of the schools I went to (still a normal, run of the mill secondary school), and everyone - teachers and students, were all very accommodating and thoughtful. Though it did end badly, that was again, a minority not majority situation. I've found that, after many years of struggling socially, I just no longer care what people think - and if they're toxic and bringing me down, I just don't include them in my life anymore, I don't have time or energy for drama or bulls**t.
  18. 1 point
    I know it seems discouraging that the very first person you told said something like this but honestly in the UK most people wouldn't react like that. His reaction was unreasonable and its his problem if he is this ignorant. Disclosure helped me a lot in the workplace and I stayed with the same organisation for 12 years. I've never really had a bad experience from anyone knowing. Before that job, I did have one manager accuse me of being 'unwell', but he was a very militaristic thinker, and during a period of unemployment I disclosed to an acquaintance and she said "well when my friend gets back don't tell her that because she'll moan that we have to pay your taxes". Frankly, people who react in those ways are just brainwashed. They assume that people are 'playing the system' and do not see how cruel and heartless their responses sound. I truly believe that the media needs to get its act together and support neurological disorders instead of sensationalising it the same way as everything else! I think in jobs and relationships its strongly advised to disclose but otherwise I'd say choose very wisely and if someone reacts badly, its because they are clueless!
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    I agree with @Going home, that it might be more useful to explain specific difficulties rather than using a label such as Asperger's. I've been in and out of hospital a lot during the last couple of months, and can relate to what you experienced. At the hospital, my doctors noticed that I was very anxious and that I was rubbing my hands or running my hands through my hair repeatedly, and things like that. I also kept worrying and fretting over small details, and asking the same question again and again to be sure. One of the doctors seemed to realize that I might have Asperger's or maybe an anxiety disorder, because she asked me if I normally feel my hair or rub my hands a lot, or was it just today? And wanted to know if I had any other diagnoses, so i told her that I had Asperger's, and she said that she thought it might be something like that. I talked about the issue with my husband, and he thought that I should tell the doctors at the hospital that I have Asperger's, that they are doctors and won't judge me. But the truth is that doctors don't necessary know what Asperger's is, their field of specialty is elsewhere and they may not know much more about autism than the average member of the public. I would advise anyone visiting hospital to tell their doctor or hospital staff if necessary, on a need to know basis, but also mention the specific difficulties that you have due to your autism. @AspieFox It's nothing to feel ashamed or guilty about. Your difficulty is real and not imagined, and you should do what is necessary to help you cope in the hospital environment. I advise taking a pen and notebook with you and noting things down, earplugs/ear defenders, sunglasses if you have difficulty with lighting. Also, it might be a good idea to take an autism awareness card with you, or perhaps a note from your GP explaining your condition and how it affects you, just in case of difficulty.
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    Hi everyone, I haven’t been on here for a while as I have had a lot to cope with. I have recently got married and that was hard enough. Myself and my partner have been invited to a family birthday bbq which is in a couple of weeks. There will be all my partners family there (parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents, aunties and uncles) it is about an hour away. The problems I am facing are that I have really bad stomach issues (suspected IBS) and really bad social anxiety. My partner isn’t putting any pressure on me but I know that my OH would love me to go, I know I would feel so uncomfortable and worry I will have an accident (Bowel issues) I also cannot eat around other people. If anyone has any experiences with this please tell me how you cope... Many thanks :)
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    How do you deal with loneliness??
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    To help with my loneliness, I listen to music, I draw, I watch YouTube videos, I work in Photoshop, InDesign, etc. I also work on my computer hobbies as well. I get lonely all the time.



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