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  1. 1 point
    I don't think it's weird that they still work together, jobs are hard to come by especially secure ones or if you've been there a while and worked your way up, or even just learned the rules and who's who and where you fit in. The surname thing is unusual but if she really didn't like her maiden name so what, my mum kept my dad's surname after they divorced, mainly so she would have the same surname as me when I was growing up in school etc. but I even know someone who changed her surname to the same as her boyfriends (without getting married) and having now split up she kept the new surname. Personally if I got married I would keep my own surname, not that I have any intention of getting married but I don't hate my surname. You should also note it's a pain in the arse changing your name, you have to fill in a form and send it to a court plus you have to pay for it, once that's all gone through (which can take ages) you have to get passports, driving licences and a bunch of other stuff updated... like bank account, bills, work/HR, sometimes even things like tenancy agreements, hire purchase/leases/loans etc. not to mention if you have any qualifications under your married name you then need to have proof that you were that person, your girlfriend probably knows all this having already had to go through all this shit once when she got married, then a measly 36 months later she has to go through it all again just to put it back the way it was, and get a name she doesn't particularly like back in the bargain. Perhaps she might be willing to change it to something new altogether, but it's still a shit pile of crap she has to deal with. What I do think is weird is that you feel like she should be so committed as to be changing names etc. having only be dating a 'few months'. A few generally means 2 or 3. I generally don't even talk about feelings and stuff until at least 6 months in, and you expect someone you have been dating half that time to change their name to stop you feeling jealous/paranoid? I got to be honest if someone I was seeing for 3 months pulled something like that... I would split up with them, I would be convinced they were possessive/jealous, possibly controlling and probably paranoid and I would get out of there quick as I could. Especially if I already had to deal with one ex who was so crap the marriage didn't even get as far as a fourth anniversary on a daily basis cause we work at the same place and there aren't any better options.
  2. 1 point
    That's just too weird. Definately time to call it quits! You deserve better. This is just all sorts of weird and wrong.
  3. 0 points
    Hi, I've been in a relationship with this person for a few months.. they have been single for 1 and half years.. they split from their ex they was married to for 3 years.. they kept their ex's last name and I was fine with it when we first started dating but I feel like after a few months it's surely right now you are moving on with someone else to change your last name back to your maiden name? Bare in mind this person works at the same place as their ex, and apparently their work colleagues are saying to the ex that it's weird they kept the ex's last name 1 and half years later The ex spoke to the person's mum in the shop the other day to ask them to change it as it's weird etc and work colleagues are saying it's weird they are not over them etc.. which triggered off my Aspergers meltdown and made me ask them to change it as I was paranoid I was an idiot everyone was laughing thinking that it's weird they kept their ex's last name and they are not over their ex.. The person I'm in a relationship with says they want to keep their ex's surname because they prefer it better to their maiden name.. and I'm being childish/silly as it's just a surname etc.. but my argument is if "it's just a surname" like they said, and you are truly over your ex and love the person you are with that you would do it to prove to them and everyone else you are over your ex? it's bad enough they work at the same place still (which is weird in itself) and they constantly text me about their ex coming on the same unit as them kissing another person etc and listening to the person's mum keep praising the ex and on friendly terms when I'm at their house.. What should I do? I find it a lot of baggage and frankly too much hassle.. it's causing me to have major meltdowns and not helping my AS Is it time to call it quits? maybe other people people could cope with the situation above but I find it too much especially when they work at the same place and mum sees the person's ex at shop and speaks of the ex infront of me.. You should be more sensitive and considerate infront of me surely I don't need that!? it's like they are not over them.. and just using me for a person to do things with etc. thanks for advice
  4. 0 points
    I wonder what happens when paper Mario picks up a fire flower. Seems kinda dangerous. Anyway, the new LP is fun. Looking forward to the next episodes!

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