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    Just to clarify in case anyone is confused, this is me, the original Kuribo (aka StarlessEclipse). I recently came to the conclusion that I despise my second account almost as much as my original one, so I'm having one last fresh start. No more self-indulgent angst - constructive contributions only from now on. That's a promise.
  2. 2 points
    One thing I heard (and I think it's true) is that there are many beautiful people who's insecurity level is directly proportional to their beauty. So the more beautiful, the more insecure. There's one girl in my local supermarket who is very pretty. She must be amongst the most beautiful women in my hometown and I think she's had a breast enhancement. Totally unneccesary but apparently she didn't feel pretty enough... But then other people don't seem to be insecure like e.g. Kate Beckinsale. It's like she's hot and she knows it. lmao Nothing wrong with that.
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    @RiRi Its valid to want to "just to feel appreciated or liked and in turn, allowed to be nice and interact with other." but you shouldnt have to change your body to do that - there are whole movements fighting this idea: the way society is that we have to be beautiful, thin white or neurotypical to be treated respectfully and like a human being (body positivity, neurodiversity movements and those fighting ableism/disability discrimination, feminism etc..). With Megan Fox, I dont keep up with her - I dont really remember seeing anything from her since the first transformers - but this style of interview I find interesting, and it popped up on my feed. I do think that if she wanted botox, its her right and its no less 'superficial' than wanting to loose weight to look better (no offense meant, but they are the same thing). Her body is none of my business - I was interested in what she had to say as a person I have no idea what its like to be continuously judged, photographed and have all sorts of expectations on your appearance when its continually in front of people - and a lot of people are really malicious, esp on the net. I could understand that pressure affecting someone - to either get botox, or not be feeling like being 'nice and polite', maybe some people on set were awful to her - I dont know the movie incident you are talking about, but regardless - we have no idea how she was treated that created that response from her. Even then, people are allowed to have character flaws, to have bad days, or make choices, or be in the process of growth, without being hated. I'm glad I dont have to have all my bad choices aired in front of the world - they would be much worse! I used to be very overweight. I think weight loss can be very difficult for people on the spectrum - or was for me, with sensory stuff, not feeling hunger or fullness, excess stress and using food or drink to stim when around others or overwhelmed.If its something you want to do, then wonderful - I hope you succeed and I genuinely wish you the best but I will say - though people/strangers may smile more, attempt to flirt, be polite, chat etc.. when you conform a bit more to socially accepted appearance/'beauty" standards - at the start, but as soon as I open my mouth, or dont make the required response, correct facial expression, the attitude changes completely, and people become hostile, rude etc.. unless im having a good masking success moment lol so for me its also an autism thing (and I am not as disadvantaged as you are in regards to belonging to the dominant skin tone). My point is - its society that is the problem. Its great you are "working on not letting people treat me bad affect me and that's the ultimate goal to no affect me" - its hard, but this is something I agree with: being true to yourself no matter the response. Buddha said something about: If you always care about what people think, you become a slave to them" - a slave to whatever they want from you. People are still going to dislike you if you are thin - I certainly dont have friends. I mean look at how Greta Thurnberg is being treated in the media, and she is doing amazing things. But because she doesnt come across "normal" esp in facial expression, she gets hate, and people assume all sorts of things about her based on something about her body face expression that she cant or has-difficulty controlling. https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/#search/greta/FMfcgxwDrbsbHCfDHfcpqVtVnzFnbQSL I'm actually pretty strong minded about body positivity: which is just the movement that says that: all bodies deserve to respectfully regardless of what they look like. Its just about trying to re-educate society to treat all people with human dignity - which includes everyday encounters in our lives, and the things you are wanting. Although you probably wont be interested, theres a great book "The Beauty Myth" which I listened to which changed my whole perspective, I even shaved my head bald (after having years of lovely long hair) to help me to stop caring about what people think of me - its was painful, people even yelled at me driving by, or laughed etc.. but I really dont care anymore, if people want to be that superficial, I dont want them in my life. I look how I want for me, just like I decorate my home how I want, for me. There are women on Instagram celebrating the bodies - large, coloured, disabled etc.. (like https://www.instagram.com/bodyposipanda/ or https://www.instagram.com/tessholliday/) which werent around when I was bigger. You dont actually have to change your body to be happy and accept yourself - or course you still can, but some people cant: it comes down to genes, gut bacteria, hormones and a whole lot of other things. Oh and there was this BRILLIANT short TV series called Naked Beach - if you are in the UK it would be easy to watch it on BBC iPlayer (I highly recommend it - its only 3 episodes, even just out of interest, its so good). So even if you still want to loose weight, better to also work on your mind and attitude to yourself - because like you say, youth doesnt last long, but you are with you for your whole life, so it might as well be a happy, self-approving relationship as much as possible which will make you much happier all the time rather than just when other people are descent to you (which is still so important and valid) but yeah.. Sorry for the long one (special interests..)
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    @RiRi I'm not saying im right, its just another way to look at it. I can be a bit too idealistic for practical reality, I cant even live up to all my ideals all the time. Autistic people are socially disempowered so I can understand wanting to increase that in some way. Flowers give joy and pleasure to those that look at them, just by being beautiful. But I do think you wouldnt want to grow up relying on that - and have your personality form around that. If you dont naturally give people joy - you have to work for it - it forces you to either build character/be descent (or a people pleaser), hard working or find something else to give joy/value by/ or be socially needed (not that I ever figured that one out, I just make people uncomfortable). Though plenty of unattractive people are jerks and vise versa. But - I think thats why we like ugly -> beautiful transformations, because the persons personality has already formed - theyre generally already a really intelligent, interesting, humble or kind person - and then that gets added to them and they just enjoy it as a bonus. - And they actually get to choose it, rather than a genetic lottery. Unlike a flower, a human is allowed to be shy about it, or not like attention, hate it, or use it for their gain, let it go to their head or just simply appreciate it - depends on the type of attention it brings - the type of beauty, and type of responses. Megan Fox gave a really good interview I randomly watched the other day and she talks about her experience in a very self-aware and intelligent way about her experience as the "sexy girl" The main parts are at 6.25 and 11.40, but the whole thing is pretty interesting, as it shows aspects of her relationship to herself as she is looking at her own old interviews
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    @RiRi I dont know personally, but I honestly dont think it would be as great as you think it would be I wrote this answer in Quora in response to the Question "How do I accept that i'm not pretty?" if you're interested: Unconditional human value. Everyone has it regardless of their constellation of qualities. Also, attractiveness is like a commodity or a currency, which, in regards to physical attractiveness by a purely idealised standard, people received for free. Those who are highly attractive are sought out for this alone, which has nothing to do with them as a person. People want to get next to that attractiveness, get something from it, be associated with it. They also want to praise it, praise you for something you didnt do - what a sure way to distort a healthy sense of self? Would you be seen for who you are? Would you be able to accept your faults if they are always glossed over, and people assume you are perfect? If you are highly attractive, you run the risk of that superficiality seeping into you. Thinking you are more special, more deserving, more capable (because things seem to come easier to you, and people assume the best of you - this is a cognitive bias even babies commit). You probably run a greater risk of developing narcissistic traits or even the full blown personality disorder if the other precursors are there. Maybe some of this is exaggerated, and there are some people who are both very attractive and genuinely humble and balanced (not just an act of humility as part of their persona as is far more common). Either way, having a body, and interacting with the world through this interface which doesnt accurately represent who we are on the inside (the good, the bad, the distorted, the hidden), will always pose challenges, whichever way you are blessed - or not. If I had to pick, I would rather be ugly, but beautiful on the inside - genuinely a beautiful soul, and my face would be a filter to all the superficial people of the world, so I only meet or keep in my life the very best of people who can look beyond the limitations of my body Also, I think as a female we get a hint at both sides perhaps? I'm naturally smack in the middle, appearance wise, but when I put on makeup to leave the house, people treat me a bit differently: smile more, hold doors, give certain looks at you, are less awful/rude - and assume better of you somehow etc.. but if I dont wear makeup - but still otherwise am dressed fine/the same, it doesnt occur - the reverse does. Neither are particularly ideal. I would rather be invisible actually, if that were an option. But I think for beautiful people, it must be this in the extreme and its really disingenuous, it must be awful
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    Ugly or Beautiful, it's more often than not the same thing. I mean, some would consider me handsome, but I don't take it as a compliment. In some cases it actually irritates me. It's my soul that I want people to recognise.
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    We had no closer & the number of players hit 140. It was the busiest regular-play day we've had since I've been at Maywood. That's been 12 years!
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    I think there are actually sites that look like chat sites but they are actually just a robot/AI trying to be human. This is actually a technique (that they are supposed to disclose I think) to help train AIs quickly. As for any real chat site, I imagine its full of people just trying to be weird or make a meme because they are anonymous
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    My dad spends significant part of his income on non-prescription drugs and I thought I could help him to save a little on his bills. I'm looking for a cheaper alternative to regular CVS stores since some of his medication isn't covered by health insurance. Yes, those are non-prescription drugs and I've been thinking about some sort of an online drug store. I've heard that Canadian ones are a lot cheaper than US-based. And judging by the news about their health system I don't think this theory is far fetched. Anyway, I need any feedback regarding real life experience of dealing with online drug stores. Any pitfalls etc. Will appreciate any kind of info regarding this issue. For instance: delivery times, payment methods, customs office issues and scammers. Anyway, I would appreciate any kind of feedback on your online medication sellers. Which are more reliable, which ones deal with prescription drugs (if it's legal to do so). I have never tried it online, so I'd like to get as much info as possible. Thanks.
  11. 1 point
    I firmly believe that if the Democrats pick another middle-of-the-road, corporate-backed candidate like Biden, O'Rourke or Harris, it's highly probable that Trump will win a second term. I think Bernie Sanders has the widest potential appeal, as he'd be guaranteed the young, left-leaning activist base and the centrist crowd who'd vote for anyone but Trump, but there are also a lot of desperate voters in the Rust Belt who were seduced by the GOP in 2016, but could be won over by Bernie's economic policies now that Trump has failed to deliver. When it comes to policy, Sanders' healthcare plan alone makes electing him a humanitarian necessity. Failing that, Tulsi Gabbard, Elizabeth Warren, and Andrew Yang are all decent candidates. Not as good as Bernie, but certainly good enough to vote for.
  12. 1 point
    You're looking for nice white people to chat with? lmao I've been on "E-chat" which I think it was called and a few exceptions aside all people I spoke to (or tried to speak to) were so weird it was like they weren't even people at all.
  13. 1 point
    @Ben I like the first one. Mine: 1. Songs for Zula - Phosphorescent (the live version). This is the only melancholy toned one in my top 5, but its worth it. 2. Jack Johnson - Anything at all - Ive listened to all his albums shuffled (apart from the kids songs) for over a decade and I never tire of it. Its heartfelt, soulful, uplifting and insightful. Favourite artist of all time. 3. Dancing in the moonlight - Thin Lizzy 4. Barenaked Ladies - Pinch Me Also if you need cheering, Lookin Up (Accoustic version) by them never fails 5. Name - Goo goo Dolls (But Marinade by Dope Lemon.. and The KIllers really wrestle for this spot)
  14. 1 point
    After what I saw it's capable of doing to people in pain, I'm positive it should be legalized. People will still use it regardless.
  15. 1 point
    As most of them, could be better.
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    https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=fe4EK4HSPkI&list=RDAMVMfe4EK4HSPkI
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    They're pritty good I must admit.
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    I travel to the Netherlands frequently, and hang out in Amsterdam a lot. And honestly? Next to Japan, I'm yet to visit a more civilised country. In fact, I think all drugs bar heroin should be legal. Alcohol is worse than all of them.


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