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  1. 3 points
    Hi. Canada seems pretty cool. Welcome to the site... It's not necessarily the most active place nowadays. Though sometimes there are "bursts" of activity. Some cool people here though.
  2. 2 points
    When a friendship ends it's of course painful when it's a betrayal. I've had this too a few years ago where two friendships went sour. But we need to be with the people we are supposed to be with and not the people we aren't supposed to be with. That's the way it is, I'm sure you'll agree. I'd say leave school altogether as it's a toxic environment. But if you continue to go, then just treat the girl in neutral way. Just move on... It isn't worth putting lots of energy into as it wouldn't be productive. Hope you feel better soon.
  3. 2 points
    As a teen on the spectrum I need help and support, one of the reasons why I’m here, but I can’t seem to find any help in person
  4. 2 points
    Hi @Isadoorian and welcome to the forum
  5. 2 points
    Welcome I like reading, cooking, baking also. Theres a post listing Aspie fiction if you are interested and read fiction
  6. 2 points
    Welcome.
  7. 1 point
    Hi Guys, so as you can tell from the title, my good friend from the past about one and a half years stopped hanging out with me and started hanging out with another girl after I trusted her with my diagnosis. I think this is because of my diagnosis but I am not really a person to trust with social skills anyway, what should I do? I am in a small school where I can’t really avoid her- How should I handle this? Please help!
  8. 1 point
    Hi! i'm Isadoorian. I discovered this site some time ago but forgot about it after trying to sign up and having to endure the long wait, then I remembered it about 10 minutes ago as of writing this and here I am. i'm 23 years old and hail from British Columbia, Canada and am Self diagnosed with a PDD-NOS. I like Reading, Cooking, Baking, Video/Tabletop/Card games, Listening to Music and watching TV/Netflix. I hope everyone here's as friendly and welcoming (and active) like a similar forum i enjoy using daily.
  9. 1 point
    I was watching this video on YouTube, where this girl with AS talks about how she acts Neurotypical to try and fit into society, and how much of a struggle it is trying to fit in with Neurotypical people and how tiring it is trying to act like someone else. It got me thinking, everyday of my life, I have to act 'Neurotypical' but ultimately fail at doing so, trying to understand jokes - sometimes pretending I do, trying to stay chatty and talk about uninteresting things, even trying to smile for extended periods of time sometimes, does anyone else try to act Neurotypical?
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  11. 1 point
    Hi, I am Iris. I just recently got my diagnosis and am looking for online support since I live in a rural area with limited support. I enjoy Art, Theater, Music, Fishing, Hunting, Trapping, and Animals (chickens)
  12. 1 point
    Hi @Alice Thank you for this article. It's interesting. As for me, I always had troubles to make friends. When I was a child, I used to begin my school year with one or two mates (girls) and to finish the year alone. Now, I've got a few friends with whom I feel good. I fear to give my trust to bad people, what I used to do when I was younger. That's why I've become more selective. The most frustating experiences are when I want to be friend with a girl but I don't know how to do and finally, I don't have any occasions to do it anymore. Otherwise, I find that it's easier to be friend with boys than girls.
  13. 1 point
    I will touch on this point of talent shows you raised Ben. I read not long ago children are scared to sing in public for fear of being ridiculed and humiliated. This is due to shows like X Factor. Kids associate the effort of trying to sing with possible humiliation and so-called experts on X Factor pulling faces. Little wonder! The process of learning to play guitar or do vocals means we "all" will sound like hell sometimes. Dwelling on it will clearly scare kids away from enjoying music and giving time to time. Speaking from experience I have sung tracks I wrote, recorded it and sounded awful (many times). Through further experience I learned to change key altogether or try a whole new approach. I researched the subject and found a helpful and positive musician on YouTube who explains we can all sing. If you can talk, you can sing. People have been singing for centuries, at schools, funerals and in the bath. So really, X Factor is on a negative agenda because, in truth, lots of successful rock and pop singers would sound pretty basic if you take away the backing music. John Lennon once stated George Harrison was a poor vocalist for some time and worked hard to improve. Pop singers were never expected to be either virtuosos or on a par with Pavorotti. Many times I noticed singers who left something to be desired just "go for it" on Top Of The Pops and nobody cared less - just danced. I would never pull faces or make fun out of someone singing or playing. I would suggest ways to bring out their range and key. I also prefer to hear an authentic voice than autotune which I see as an easy option. On sixties music - agreed. Check out The Californians, Fire and The Flowerpot Men. Great vocals and great sound.
  14. 1 point
    Sorry to hijack but this isn't just a female thing I don't do fake, superficial, deceit or play pretend games to manipulate or control people. I don't do office politics and don't play the social game. I also don't like people who play power games or do "one-upping", backstabbing, eager to "get one over" somebody else. I prefer honest, straightforward people with integrity and honesty
  15. 1 point
    Sometimes I feel like I am close to people, but then something will happen and I realise that maybe they've just been tolerating certain parts of me and I wonder how close I really am to them. And that can make me feel alone
  16. 1 point
    Yes, and I've always felt that way. I can't connect and tap into a friend group, and I don't fit in. It's like I'm behind a glass wall. People connect by sharing emotions. When they talk, they aren't just communicating in words, but also in emotions, and they use both verbal and non-verbal language to do so. I'm receptive only the the words and get little of this emotional to and fro, so for me, It's just like watching TV.
  17. 1 point
    I don't think there's a real escape from it. It's just the way life is. I think a lot of people are kind of "mindless" and they make a lot of noise and to them life "just makes sense" and everything is to be taken for granted. If you're like that then you're going to be acting a certain way but if you're an actual person with feelings and thoughts and opinions then life tends to be a certain way where you feel and think all sorts of things and it's not necessarily easy. I don't have any "friends" at the moment meaning I have zero companions. I work alone and I live alone but I don't feel isolated. If I were to spend time with people I'm not supposed to be with I would feel lost and alone like in a desert far from home. If I was to spend time with people I am supposed to spend time with I'd be more balanced but that "being alone" would still be there. Life works a certain way and it's just the way it is. Here's a good song... Nevermind the ultra long, 20+ second intro and gaming footage.
  18. 1 point
    I'm not sure what to do, I really need some advice. I've come to care for someone a lot. Someone that always gets me though dark places and has giving me their everything these last few months. Now its not romantic or even a relationship, I think if I really wanted it can be and and a part of my would like to try. But she's not like anyone else and I know in myself I'm not good enough. And I'm fine with that. But she's going away possibly to start her new life and where she's going I'm scared for her, I want everything to workout for her more then anything. But a part of me also feels heartbroken that we won't be there for each other everyday anymore. Is that selfish, because my only goal is for her to find her happiness. How do I accept this chapter of my life with her will end now possibly? When it hurts so much?
  19. 1 point
    Just woke up feeling super lonely.
  20. 1 point
    I can't try to act Neurotypical. I honestly don't know how some people do it. My brain is too overcome by just being... Autistic, I can't pretend. I used to try a bit and tried to copy how other girls stood like and what they said in conversations, but it was still far too hard and I still stood out as being awkward because it wasn't natural. It must be difficult to act like that every day. Also, I don't want to act Neurotypical, I just want to be me even if it is Autistic, but just not in bad ways and causing problem.
  21. 1 point
    I have this feeling that I'll always be lonely, without friends or a partner. I know my social skills have improved, but I still don't know how to make friends. I don't have any friends whatsoever outside of the internet and it's starting to get to me. Normally when I mention these things to people, they just tell me to get over it or tell me to leave the house and meet people. I've tried to get out, but it's hard to find any kind of help or even a place to go to when you always live in small towns.
  22. 1 point
    Same here! No real friends apart from online. I feel lonely most days mainly when I read about people I use to go to school with always doing things with there friends. I to live in a small village and half of it is taken over my older people. You are not alone!
  23. 1 point
    I understand. You sound very similar to me in this way, and I know it can be really upsetting. I don't have any friends at all outside of the internet either - all the friendships I have had outside of the internet have been mainly with neurotypical girls and they have ended badly, due to the way I am and my lack of social skills in a friendship, I guess. They have often said I am domineering and they can't deal with my 'mood swings' as they put it. I felt as if my autism caused the friendships to fail and I have felt anger towards having autism. I know it is extremely difficult to try to get out, to meet people. The thought of that scares me senseless! So, I definitely can't give you a magic solution to this. I don't believe there is one. These things take a lot of time. But, please, don't give up. I know it feels like that and I, too, feel as if I have given up recently too. I lost the last 'real life' friend I had in January and I just felt horrible. I knew she was the last one and I was kind of waiting for her to ditch me and, yes, she did! In no uncertain terms. However, internet friends is no bad thing. For people like us on the spectrum, it is definitely a positive thing, it is so much easier to talk online and communicate things you'd otherwise not be able to say out loud. Internet friends are also not limited to the internet. If you get to know someone well enough, you can meet them in person and it'll probably be easier even then because you know a lot about them. I don't know if you've met friends off the internet before? I have met a few friends I made online, in person and it's definitely easier. Please don't give up. You are in a good place here, on this forum, where I'm sure you will meet like-minded friends. You did the right thing by posting here
  24. 0 points
    It's been a while, but here we go... I've just returned from a school trip where I've got a lot closer to many people on it. Leant more about them, really. Anyway, I didn't even know this, but there's this one person in my class who is Autistic. Let's call him Mike. Anyway, he has a bit of an obsession for My Little Pony (admittedly, I did know this, but would never have made any links like some people do because that would be stupid - you can like My Little Pony if you are NT!). Long story short, people are so supportive of him (they know that he has Autism), which is nice, to be honest. They make him feel no different to anyone else in the class. Now focus on my other friend (although I'm not really friends with Mike, to be honest). Let's call this friend Tom. He is Autistic, and I know this. So does everyone else. Anyway, people bully him really bad. And I've only really noticed this recently. He loves books, but people just mock him about this. He fell down the stairs at school a while back and broke his leg. People just laughed and spread a rumour that he was reading at the time and slipped. Let me tell you, I was there and this was not the case. Anyway, I just find it infuriating that people claim to be supportive of Autism, saying "we support Mike, don't we?" And then go onto bullying Tom. Is this common or has anyone ever experienced anything like this? Tom doesn't really seem to bothered in the slightest about anything anyone says (which is good) but I can't help feeling bad for him.


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