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For my future, I want to migrate out of the United Kingdom. I aim to go to Japan for cultural difference but a road block is learning the language and having the information sunk into my mind like my normal language. I do enjoy the aspect of trying a new language (as i tried to learn french at school but I wasn't passionate about the country or culture) but for the information to sink in and to pile more of the language in my head to make it fluent, it seems difficult. Now, my aspergers is also another road block as I am very shy and nervous. Meaning, trying to communicate with someone while having the fear of messing up the words and so on make me somewhat scared. Even trying to remember and say the words to a family member to test myself and get the words to sink in is difficult. Have any of you tried to learn a new language and if so, was it a success? And any tips for me to advance forward and to get more confidence?
I moved this to a new thread because chit-chat is supposed to be a more light-hearted thread which I didn't want to fill with a debate. I agree that early exposure to social situations is important, and being exposed to the negative side of human nature is important too. However, when it comes to learning how to socialise, I really don't think the social dynamic of mainstream high school is a good thing to try and emulate. Simply put, it's just horrible. When I look at what goes on in my school, I see: Conformity being valued above all else, including moralityRejection of anyone who doesn't conform to the behaviour of the masses, no matter how immoral or illogical said behaviour isMockery of anyone who is different, even when different in a positive wayBoth intelligence and enthusiasm for learning being strongly disapproved of by the majority Perfectly intelligent people going out of their way to appear to be stupid, just to "fit in" with the massesUtterly insane and totally unnecessary psychological games being played by girls rather than attempts to find true friendshipBroken friendships, where banter goes on to the extent that no support is given and people only know each other's personas, not their true personalitiesAggression and violence being viewed as the only way to solve conflictsPeople being unable to take anything at all seriouslyThe "elite" having a good time at other people's expense, and this being viewed as both acceptable and necessaryPeople being consistently rude and two-faced towards anyone who isn't in their "friendship group" who so much as asks them a qustionPeople making assumptions about people based on utterly irrelevant factors such as body languageConsistent prejudice against people with disabilitiesNow, my question is this: In what way would emulating this behaviour be good for an Autistic person, particularly one with a desire to become a better human being? All of the above are terrible things in my book, and if I were to use any of that as a basis for self-improvement, that'd make me a bad person. As I said, I agree with the idea that exposure to social situations is important, but to attempt to learn anything other than just how ... shit people can be from the behaviour of people in a high school is not a good idea. Over the next few months, I look forward to trying out new social situations, such as college and a new ASD social group. I look forward to communicating with people who are actually worthy of my acknowledgement in a sincere and meaningful way. Other than providing a dose of reality by showing just how awful people can be, there are no social benefits to being in a high school environment. Getting used to social situations is important, but not in such a negative, uncivilised environment.