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What would you do in this kind of situation? I have an Aspie friend, not sure that I should call him that anymore, (aquanintence would be more appropriate now maybe?) who has said quite upsetting things to me recently. He, although I don't think he knows he does this, is very manipulating, controlling and opinionated. It doesn't matter to me either way whether this is intentional or not because even when he's joking, he tends to base these on the way he sees the world, his opinions, his truth; skewed. There's nothing I can say to change his mind, not that I want to or can change anybody. He goes to the same places as I do, shares some of the same friends and tries to contact me every day. At the moment I'm distancing myself from this person, avoiding as much contact as I can. The things that he does/says, sticks in my mind and I can't metaphorically "shake" or "brush off" his comments (whether said as a joke or seriously) as they are demeaning/belittling and are taking a detrimental effect on my mental health. I have observed that he does this more often to me when in the company of others...in hopes of making himself look more appealing to others by comparison? Why? IDK. He has done this to another friend of mine too, she has stopped contact and he has since moved his focus on to me. When we are alone he talks about himself constantly and how much of a victim he is...how bad things are for him, dismissing any advice given to rectify his problems etc...a repetitive loop of the same thing over and over again and although I spend a massive amount of time listening to him, he disregards my attempts to confide in him. It's never reciprocal. He turns everything back to himself in seconds and of course, his problems are worse and achievements are better etc... I'm trying to keep this as general as possible and haven't really included half of what I really want to say here, but there is a little more to it than this, maybe I will disclose more in the near future.
AspieFox posted a topic in Introduce YourselfHello everyone, I am a 34 year old professional composer and also a pianist. I have a provisional diagnosis, in that - I have completed the detailed paperwork and questions from a specialist clinic, following a doctor referal, and I am awaiting the face to face assessment date. I have spent my whole life feeling different and never fitting in, whilst trying my best to fit in (hence a late diagnosis, because I have learnt how to adapt and can appear on the surface like everyone else, but this doesn't take away the fact it feels unnatural to me). People don't understand how certain noises, light and other senses are too much for me or that I have difficulty expressing myself, understanding others and take most things literally. I am happy that I found others like me and feel less alone, but still quiet lonely and isolated. I also feel a bit confused as I must accept my new self as an Aspie (and wish I had the official diagnosis done already, although deep down, and logically, nothing even comes close to matching my difficulties and talents compared to an Aspie profile). I rarely communicate online (because I'm worried that I will not express myself properly, and also people tend to not see the logic or truth in situations and get upset when I point them out). The Aspies I have met globally online seem to make the most sense to me and seem more 'normal' in thinking, than neurotypicals to me, and it seems easier to communicate with fellow AS people. Thank you for reading.
so I don't know if anyone else gets this but there is a war that rips through my mind. I am confused in this world (as obviously we all kinda are) but trying to understand everything and everyone it gets overbearing, trying to fit in and act normal taking in everything wanting to do something or ever be someone but it is so hard to do that. You just get kinda lost and it turns into a war between society (the world to sum it up) and me and who I am. what do you think? dose anyone else get this or ever feel it?