Search the Community

What would you do in this kind of situation? I have an Aspie friend, not sure that I should call him that anymore, (aquanintence would be more appropriate now maybe?) who has said quite upsetting things to me recently. He, although I don't think he knows he does this, is very manipulating, controlling and opinionated. It doesn't matter to me either way whether this is intentional or not because even when he's joking, he tends to base these on the way he sees the world, his opinions, his truth; skewed. There's nothing I can say to change his mind, not that I want to or can change anybody. He goes to the same places as I do, shares some of the same friends and tries to contact me every day. At the moment I'm distancing myself from this person, avoiding as much contact as I can. The things that he does/says, sticks in my mind and I can't metaphorically "shake" or "brush off" his comments (whether said as a joke or seriously) as they are demeaning/belittling and are taking a detrimental effect on my mental health. I have observed that he does this more often to me when in the company of others...in hopes of making himself look more appealing to others by comparison? Why? IDK. He has done this to another friend of mine too, she has stopped contact and he has since moved his focus on to me. When we are alone he talks about himself constantly and how much of a victim he is...how bad things are for him, dismissing any advice given to rectify his problems etc...a repetitive loop of the same thing over and over again and although I spend a massive amount of time listening to him, he disregards my attempts to confide in him. It's never reciprocal. He turns everything back to himself in seconds and of course, his problems are worse and achievements are better etc... I'm trying to keep this as general as possible and haven't really included half of what I really want to say here, but there is a little more to it than this, maybe I will disclose more in the near future.