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Hello everybody, I was wondering if anyone had any advise on how to go about telling new friends or supervisors about your asperger's or autism spectrum disorder when it is not severe. By not severe I am referring to it interfering with your life, but not to the point of you being unable to live alone or ticking any of the other boxes that people on the far more severe side of the spectrum deal with, so basically the people who might receive the response "Oh you're just imagining this/ Everyone has their issues, you're just not trying hard enough etc." To us asperger's is no stranger, we know about it, we understand it, we are willing to accommodate tics, but how does the general public in your experience stand to it? Are they even familiar with the word? Are they considerate? What have been successful techniques you have experienced in the past that have helped you show your superior that you have this "something", that makes it he/she has to watch out for certain things, yet you are still a valuable employee? What has been unsuccessful in your experience? There is a thin line between employees accommodating a few tics yet not treating you as disabled, how do you get to the right point?
I had already told two of my friends because I needed someone to talk to (rant to even) about my assessments and such. So my two best friends already knew and they have both been really lovely and supportive. I sent a very generic, private Facebook message out to my other friends the other day because I think it's important that those close to you do know. I linked the page from the NAS website on Aspergers and said that they could give it a quick scan if they wanted so that they understood what I was all about. I received some really lovely messages back. One of my friends sent me a really nice txt and then two other sent me messaged asking if there was anything they could do to make things easier for me, which I thought was amazing So that was all good. One of my friends, I haven't really been speaking to her recently. Without writing an essay on the things she's done, she basically has this habit of making everything about her. I sent her the message because I didn't want to be petty and not tell her, as she is a part of my close group of friends, despite some differences we've had. I haven't heard anything from her. Literally nothing. I can't believe it after getting the really nice messages from the others and then her not bothering. I want to believe that she's not doing it out of spite but because of the way she's been recently I wouldn't be surprised! Would you say that this is the make or break of our friendship after months and months of her being really selfish? I'm not sure how to go from here now. I know that I will have a few things to say if she tries to get funny with me, but while the other stuff made me angry, this actually upset me I don't know what to do.