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Well I suppose that this is more of a rant than a debate but I don't really know where else to put this. But anyway I just wanted to say that I don't think that supermarkets are very aspie-friendly given this morning's experiance with doing the grocery shopping. I went first to the one shop but when I got to the checkouts they had changed that whole area! All of the self-service checkouts were nowhere to be seen and so I had to use the manned checkout which I hate using because they damage all of your groceries (and of course there's the whole social things as well but for me I don't like the way that they handle all of your groceries). (And they did damage all of my groceries as well . I spend so long carefully choosing undamaged items and then they go and crush them all at the checkout???) But that wasn't the worst because then I went to the other shop and they had discontinued my favourite ready-meal and the one that I routinely buy! It really insults me how they can just do that. I mean, they know that I buy that meal often because I always get coupons for that meal but they don't even bother to ask me if I would mind if they discontinued it! How on earth can they do that? That is absolutely disgusting! I mean, surely other aspies have this problem as well, and clearly it didn't even cross their mind that maybe just maybe I was an aspie and I would be very upset if they discontinued that meal. What that means is that I'm going to either have to get a different meal or a different brand of the same meal - neither of which is a very acceptable solution as far as I'm concerned. And I doubt that if I went to the customer service desk and said that I was an aspie (assuming that I had a proper diagnoses as well of course...) that they would bring that meal back either. I just don't think that that is acceptable behaviour, as I need the kind of security that comes from having a weekly meal plan and for me it's bad enough when they're out of stock on something but to just discontinue it with absolutely no warning is totaly unbearable!!! Especially seeing as it was my favourite meal as well . I just don't think that that is very aspie friendly and the least that they could do is to offer a service for aspies where they can have the security of knowing that they will always be able to get the same meals. That was a really bad day at the shops!!! Why can't people just be a little more understanding of us??? :angry: Thanks, invisible
So I just read something on the news about animal cruelty. I'm not putting it up because I don't want to talk about it. My point is that I am VERY sensitive to stories of animals being hurt/abused. I know people get upset about it, but I literally can't forget them. I immediately start crying. It actually physically hurts me like that painful empty feeling you get when you've lost someone and I want to throw up. I can't watch movies of animals being hurt or abused either. I actually can't forget them once I've read/seen them. It's like the thoughts literally bore into my mind and my heart and it's such an overwhelming feeling. I still remember a story I was told when I was a child and I remember every word that was said about it 20 years later. When I worked with animals I thankfully never saw many cases of actual animal abuse. I think I put on this work attitude and I am able to distance myself from my sensitive feelings so I can actually help the animals when it was a job. It just seems to be when someone tells me or when I read/see it that I'm worse. Maybe my imagination just runs a bit wild? Please, PLEASE DON'T put up any actual stories as examples or anything because it will really upset me. I considered not putting up this thread for that reason but I wondered if anyone else felt this way and if sensitivity to things like this are an Aspie trait or not. Please be vague, I don't want to know actual stories, just if people feel the same way as me... Thanks in advance for respecting my feelings (I don't mean to be a pain! lol)
So I've posted a lot in "The Dumb Cyclists and Pedestrians thread..." and the poster are attacking other road users, in this case (other) cyclists and pedestrians. The thread is about observation incidents where road users (in particular cyclists and pedestrians) are not acting sensibly and according to the rules. First of all, the very title of the thread seems to imply that those cyclists and pedestrians are less intelligent, when this sort of thig is not a function of intelligence. I began encouranging the assumition of good faith and discouraging use of perjorative terms just after this post, instead ecouraging being polite to other road users and assuming good faith, and they don't seem to understand what assuming good faith means, and they presist on calling them "idiots" and claming that they are "stupid." Futhermore things like the unfairness of red lights and "rights" are (unfairly) considered "off-topic." I am mentioning it here, because I think a lot more people on this forum (mostly AS women) have a lot more empathy for others and are more likely to understand what I am trying to tell them. I also sent a PM to a poster on that forum, which he seriously misread, and he won't let me correct him or tell him that I didn't mean to offend him, that is he told me not to contact him again (in all caps), I tried very hard to exlpain why other road users wich act as if they hate him, that maybe some actions of his own,which may not occur to him as "inappropriate" but which would be widely disliked by many aspie damsels who have mastered NT social skills. He also misinterpeted something of mine as suggesting that he had a mental defficency. I did ask him if he sees a psychaitrist, and I did mention Tony Attwood and asperger's syndrome, but I never mentioned any metal defficiencies, he obviously doesn't understand that AS is not a mental defficency.