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aspiesw

I was watching this video on YouTube, where this girl with AS talks about how she acts Neurotypical to try and fit into society, and how much of a struggle it is trying to fit in with Neurotypical people and how tiring it is trying to act like someone else. It got me thinking, everyday of my life, I have to act 'Neurotypical' but ultimately fail at doing so, trying to understand jokes - sometimes pretending I do, trying to stay chatty and talk about uninteresting things, even trying to smile for extended periods of time sometimes, does anyone else try to act Neurotypical?

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Sofi

I can't try to act Neurotypical. I honestly don't know how some people do it. My brain is too overcome by just being... Autistic, I can't pretend. I used to try a bit and tried to copy how other girls stood like and what they said in conversations, but it was still far too hard and I still stood out as being awkward because it wasn't natural. It must be difficult to act like that every day. Also, I don't want to act Neurotypical, I just want to be me even if it is Autistic, but just not in bad ways and causing problem. 

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Bruce

I certainly don't try to 'act Neurotypical' as I can't see how they act any differently, in a social setting!

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Dakohi

Tried/failed. Idc anymore ^__^



I think I know the girl whose videos you were on about too. She was soooo mad!

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Nesf

Could you post the link to the YT video? Yes, I try to fit in, be social, be friendly, smiley and join in conversations but it doesn't come naturally to me, I'm acting and I'm no good as an actress.  Socialising is a lot more subtle than just talking and being friendly, and I think I don't seem quite right to other people, so they instinctively avoid me. No matter how hard I try it always shows. And after an hour or so of it I'm exhausted.

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aspiesw

Could you post the link to the YT video? Yes, I try to fit in, be social, be friendly, smiley and join in conversations but it doesn't come naturally to me, I'm acting and I'm no good as an actress. Socialising is a lot more subtle than just talking and being friendly, and I think I don't seem quite right to other people, so they instinctively avoid me. No matter how hard I try it always shows. And after an hour or so of it I'm exhausted.

It's called 'Aspies don't have emotions' :)

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Ben

There's nothing wrong with any of you. It's society dogma that is drumming it into your heads that you are somehow not fitting a certain mould or criteria, that is expected of you to be an adult in 2013. 

 

Take out the word 'neuro' and just call it acting typical. Acting and conforming to the typical standard set by those who see as as nothing more than sheep. 

 

Make a stand. 

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HenryVIII

does anyone else try to act Neurotypical?

 

I try but fail most of the time.

 

Just when I think I am making progress someone comes along and says "why are you acting so weird ?".

 

The more I try, the more I fail it seems.

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Kuribo [old account]

I can't act like a Neurotypical, and even if I could, I wouldn't want to.

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Pinky and his brain

I did it a lot when I was younger. Between the age of 16 and 25, I was actually having a private and a public personality. As soon as somebody came close, I would automatically switch to my public "me".

 

Sometimes the barrier between those personallyties was so strong, that I could not remember information that was belonging to the private personality, when somebody was near me. That sometimes created some trouble.

I could not answer questions about my favorite music, or any other personal opinion, because the public personality did not have any specific taste. The public personality was made to reflect everything the person next to me felt, meant or said. That way I thought I was able to avoid any conflict. And it did work most of the time, because most people really just want to be confirmed in their taste and beliefs. But it only works if they started by telling what they thought or liked etc. If I was asked to tell something about myself, I just went mute. I didn't know what to say.

 

In present time I don't do it so much anymore, because I don't want to spent my life pleasing everybody. Including those people I don't like.

 

So now I try to be myself most of the time. That also means I don't go to parties, bars and that stuff. If i'm not comfortable with it, screw it. If people can't accept me the way I am, then why should I try to fit in. They will not like me when they figure out who I really am. So it's just a waste of time. Better to look out for some real friends, who are cool with people being people. Even if they are hard to find these days.

 

Sorry for the essay, but I have wasted too much time acting like an NT. :)

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