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I used to have a public and a private personality, but perhaps not to the same extent as Pinky and his brain. In my teenage and young adult years I tried to cultivate a persona in order to fit in with my peers. It was an act, and when I look back I realise that in spite of my best efforts I was completely socially awkward, nevertheless I did manage to make a few friends.

 

As I get older I don't make so much of an effort because I find it so trying, so exhausting. I truly don't have that much in common with other people and I get tired of being the one who has to try and fit in with the norm all the time, whatever that is. I seem to spend more and more time alone, but it is with relief because I can just be myself.

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coffeebean

I'm kind of torn. On one hand, I want to be me. On the other hand, I know how horrible it feels when it seems like someone doesn't care or value what I say, and I don't want to make other people feel that way. I guess what I'm looking for is a better version of me.

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King_oni

If I could act neurotypical, I guess I'd have a great career in the future as an actor.

 

But in general, I don't even know how aspie I act and how aspie I shouldn't act. Long before I got a diagnosis people thought I was weird, just for my interest, my disregard of social protocol and things like that and therapists even told me that, even though I might have developed some interests and a mindset through Asperger's, a lot of it isn't aspie exclusive with me... even if I got therapy for acting less aspie, I'd probably still freak a bunch of people out... that would probably end up with me acting more normal, still being the "weird" me and eventually end up a therapist and get a different label, much like what I almost got plastered with like a billboard a few years ago.

 

In another thread I wrote how I behave and how that might give some stuff away to being on the spectrum; though I'm not that sure if that's all just because I'm on the spectrum or if there are other factors as well.

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Nesf

If I could act neurotypical, I guess I'd have a great career in the future as an actor.

 

But in general, I don't even know how aspie I act and how aspie I shouldn't act. Long before I got a diagnosis people thought I was weird, just for my interest, my disregard of social protocol and things like that and therapists even told me that, even though I might have developed some interests and a mindset through Asperger's, a lot of it isn't aspie exclusive with me... even if I got therapy for acting less aspie, I'd probably still freak a bunch of people out... that would probably end up with me acting more normal, still being the "weird" me and eventually end up a therapist and get a different label, much like what I almost got plastered with like a billboard a few years ago.

 

In another thread I wrote how I behave and how that might give some stuff away to being on the spectrum; though I'm not that sure if that's all just because I'm on the spectrum or if there are other factors as well.

I find that since being aware of having AS i've been examining and analysing my behaviour a lot more to see how Aspie it is, and in the process made myself even more Aspie... not good, must stop.

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aspiesw

I think the main reason I 'act neurotypical' is because as soon as people realise I'm different, they start patronising me, treat me like I'm a baby, I hate it, and it makes me hate myself, my friends are the only people that treat me like a human being, I'm indebted to them

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Mike_GX101

Imagine if they did night classes for studying the ways of the neurotypical...we'd all become masters of the art!!

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Mike_GX101

One thing I notice is that while I can integrate quite well, there are times when I cannot join conversations because it's simply too overwhelming/too fast.  I can't think fast enough to join in - my replies are usually awkwardly late, or after the conversation has moved on.

 

Then there are the emotions.  While I feel the emotions, I would say that I am not a master of them; rather the reverse is true!  The emotion takes me along before I've recognised it and so while one can say it is good that one can learn to swim after they've survived the rapids (better late than never!) it would always be more productive to steer clear of the rapids in the first place and navigate the emotions intuitively at the time when they come up.  But I have been doing lots of reading on the emotions and am becoming increasingly more proficient at recognising them, albeit after the event!  At least that's something though. 

 

Autism is a prickly syndrome because we are often too wrapped up in our own world to see our world from the perspective of others.  This often creates some what of a blind spot and I know in my case, many of the traits were there, but I simply couldn't see them.  It took a lot of learning of the ways of the neurotypical to be able to see and acknowledge these traits in myself.  No one knows 360 degrees of themselves; often it takes others to show us that which we cannot see ourselves!  That's where some questionnaires are flawed because they often ask of the person what they may not know themselves!

 

I think one can do a lot to improve their reading on subjects in order to live more productive lives although I acknowledge there are always going to be key fixtures, or traits, that will always be there.  But at least one can take the edge of those and make life a bit more survivable in a largely neurotypical world!

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HenryVIII

I find that since being aware of having AS i've been examining and analysing my behaviour a lot more to see how Aspie it is, and in the process made myself even more Aspie... not good, must stop.

 

That has been my life for the last 18 months, constant examination of myself.

 

I know I must stop but I seem to be caught in a cycle.

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Saveyourscissors

Story of my life, I spend my whole time covering my AS up and attempting to act 'neurotypical'. I know I shouldn't but I hate being judged all the time and treated as if I'm dumb or don't understand anything. Main problem I guess is people don't really have enough understanding and presume that If you have a disability you can't be intelligent or have any of the same likes/dislikes as them and so on!

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Nesf

Story of my life, I spend my whole time covering my AS up and attempting to act 'neurotypical'. I know I shouldn't but I hate being judged all the time and treated as if I'm dumb or don't understand anything. Main problem I guess is people don't really have enough understanding and presume that If you have a disability you can't be intelligent or have any of the same likes/dislikes as them and so on!

Once I told someone I have Asperger's and explained that it is a mild form of autism, and his reply was "but you're intelligent!"

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