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Clockwork Crow

i want to descuss the difficulty in 'lazyness', fear or fatige. and not leaving the house - wether it be for work or school - does anyone else have this problem? and if they do how do they cope?
 

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myphoria

I have difficulty with this. I will often go without things if it means not having to leave the house, and it's why I do a lot of shopping online. 

School, I can't escape, so I try to be as efficient about it as possible. I find that if I set myself a schedule with a series of alarms and reminders, it helps things run more smoothly and reduces my stress levels/disorganisation.

 

My schedule will usually have points like this:

1.) 3 individual wake-up alarms. #1 is to rouse me from deep sleep, #2 is my intended wake up alarm and #3 is there incase I accidentally fall back asleep.

2.) Allow 1.5-2hrs to shower, have a coffee, get ready and leave. It's a lot of time, but provides flexibility incase I get distracted, or am having a "slow" day.

3.) Set an alarm for 15-mins before I'm supposed to leave: this reminds me to speed up if I'm falling behind schedule. I have another alarm set for departure time.

4.) Allow myself a considerable amount of travel time on top of what Google Maps estimates (anywhere from 30-mins extra, to an hour+). This helps keep my stress levels down if traffic is bad, I get lost, parking is difficult, etc.

 

So, the things I find helpful are leaving lots of extra time for things other people might be able to accomplish in shorter periods, and writing lists and schedules. 

 

Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of advice for other day-to-day tasks (i.e. supermarket, getting petrol, going to the post office). I still find them to be pretty challenging, but if I schedule them in at a certain time of my day (usually early-mid afternoon) and set an alarm to remind me to get ready, it gives me lots of time for practical and mental preparation. 

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King_oni

I'm not sure if it's fear or fatigue as such why I avoid things. I guess I just want to avoid overall annoyance.

 

One way to avoid said annoyance is by going out for groceries early. I hate to deal with lines and crowded supermarkets, so I'll be there at 8 in the morning (and as a result I'm often the first and only person in).

 

Though on the other hand the city I live in, isn't that crowded/busy. Something that does get me through the day when it comes to chores and such is by going during business hours (between 9 and 5), since the majority of people are at work and places are less crowded.

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aspiesw

I do, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't. There are some days I don't wanna see anyone, but the truth is, life doesn't stop for anyone, we all have things we have to do, and it's our responsibility to make sure we do those things, otherwise, the only person we're letting down are ourselves. Most times when I don't wanna leave the house to go to work or Uni, I have to force myself to leave, I would be lying if I said I went to every lecture

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Xenolith

I do have issues with this, but ultimately my will to succeed takes over. I know perfectly well what the consequences of me, for instance, skipping school for a day are and they're not consequences I want to face. I've got big procrastination problems - I spent something like 10 hours on the internet yesterday - but again, I always get stuff done in the end because of the consequences. It's a mental battle and fortunately, for now at least, the right side tends to win.

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Miss Chief

This is a huge issue for me. I have mentioned elsewhere that I wrote a kind of report for my Psychiatrist and here is a quote from the section I wrote about this specific issue:

 

These days I do not socialise at all if at all avoidable. Attending things like appointments are especially difficult for me. For some things like an important appointment or a holiday or going away to visit family my anxiety will begin weeks in advance and gradually increase as it approaches. For more day to day appointments like an appointment with the doctor my anxiety begins as soon as I wake up on the day in question. Initially it is in the back of my mind, I am aware of it but I can function around it. As the time to get ready and leave approaches I make an active effort to ignore it; for example I will play game on the computer and make rules like I can’t move away from the PC even to make a cup of tea or use the toilet until I get out or win. Then I use avoidance or delaying tactics like I will just have another cup of tea before I get ready. All this time I am losing time and the moment when I need to get ready is approaching closer and closer. I am aware of this and getting more anxious, panicky, I get butterflies in my stomach, I get physical symptoms such as diarrhoea or even vomiting. Eventually when it is too late I will be so panicky it will kind of drown out the actual issue and I am able to rush around getting ready and rush out of the house. Other times it doesn't go so well and I end up pacing back and fore, completely unable to leave the house, feeling sicker than ever.

 

I think a large part of the problem for me is my tendency to avoid/escape it makes it difficult to address the issue. It isn't that I don't know what I need to do and when to do it it is the fact I can't face the end goal so I avoid all the little steps on the route towards it.

 

 

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221BTardisMockingJay

This is a big problem for me as well. It was easier when I was working (thankfully, I'm going to start working again soon.) What I used to/do is I would look at my Schedule the night before, and see what time I needed to be in for work, I would get my food ready (snacks, drinks, lunch or dinner) and set out all of my clothes (including shoes) for the next day. Then I'd set my alarms ( It's on my phone, and I don't have a snooze button) I had about five or six alarms, set 5 minutes apart ( I read somewhere that it takes a person 7 or 10 minutes to fall asleep) I would set them about 30 minutes earlier then I needed so I that I would have time to slowly wake up, I would then have an hour to get ready, eat breakfast, brush my teeth and then drive to work. I never allowed myself to read or to go on the internet before work. On my days off I would do my laundry, go get groceries and gas up my car if it needed.

 

So basically writing out several lists and schedules and giving myself a lot of time helped/Helps a lot.

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Nesf

I have a big problem with going to get my hair cut, and will only go when it becomes really necessary and can't be put off any longer. I know that next week will be busy, so I decided to go this morning, and worked up the motivation to go. However, when I arrived, there was a new assistant there who I had never seen before, and the lady who usually cuts my hair said that she would prepare me. I don't know what came over me, somehow the presence of the other girl unnerved me completely. I just started to panic, unable to think clearly and started wrapping and unwrapping the wire of my heaphones round my mp3 player, and I started to get really hot and flushed, then managed to compose myself and said "I can't now" and left the shop.

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Miss Chief

Everyone has mentioned multiple alarms, is that for a sense of security or is it cause you struggle to get up in the morning?

 

I really struggle to get up in the morning cause I don't sleep well in addition to anxiety over going out, just wondering if that is common?

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King_oni

I can't even get up with an alarm most of the time. If I'm woken up with a loud noise I feel like my body will go some kind of shock for the next few hours.My speech will be unintelligible and chances are I'll fall down the stairs is significantly increased cause my body just tells me "no, you need to sleep and wake up more gently". My motorskills suffer too much when I'm woken up in a loud/rude way. It's why I can't settle for a small nap. I'll sleep and wake up when my body decides my sleep is over, not when an alarm tells me I should get up. Perhaps I should invest in a different type of alarm like a wake-up light or so... though I don't do well with lights at all in the morning. When I wake up I usually sit upright in bed in total darkness for at least 5 minutes and often go on autopilot to grab some clothes from there on.Guess that's the convenience of knowing where everything is in the bedroom.

 

I do have a personal convenience though; I don't need to set an alarm in most cases and I can pretty much get up on my own without any alarms. I know I need about 6,5 hours of sleep so if I need to get up at 7 in the morning I should be in bed before 12:30 at night. I don't have a lot of problems getting up on time if I know I have to, I guess in that sense I have some discipline to just go to bed on time and get up on time. I'm not fond of laying in bed anyway.

 

It's funny though, when I was in my teens I had a newspaper route. And usually I could pick up the papers for my route at between 4:30 and 5 in the morning. I think that's where I became a serious nightowl in that I didn't even bother going t bed before I had my route done. Obviously to much dismay and skipping lots of school cause I needed some sleep at some point and that point usually was 8 in the morning where I dozed off till the early afternoon.

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