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How To Tell If A Shy Guy Likes You - By A Shy Guy

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It's not always easy to tell if a shy guy likes you. Often, shyness and uninterest are mixed up and a shy guy often comes off as uninterested when in fact he really likes this one girl. The best way to talk to a shy guy is to be the one who initiates the conversation and be the one who shows interest in him because shy guys have difficulty starting conversations with women they like. If you're the one who starts the conversation, then you may find that he isn't so shy once a conversation is started. It is every shy guys dream for the girl he likes to start a conversation with him even if he never admits to it.

 

Here are some tips to tell if a shy guy likes you. Most of these come from personal experience and i'm sure other shy guys can relate.

 

1. He has trouble looking at you in the eyes. He has no problem looking at others but can't look at you. A good test is to catch him looking at you and if he immediately looks away then he probably likes you but he's shy. He's trying to steal glances at you because he likes you. What you should do is smile at him if you catch him looking at you as this will give him hope.

 

2. He acts more friendly and socialable around people but closes off when you're around. This probably means he is really nervous around you and is more careful what he says and does. Watch his body language as well as he is trying to hide that he really likes you. The good news is that the more you're around him, the more he will open up and he will become less and less shy.

 

3. When a guy likes you he will try to impress you. But for shy guys, he tries doing this indirectly. For instance if you two are in the same class, watch when he says something funny or something interesting about himself and then he looks at you. He's trying to see how you reacted. He does this because he's trying to get you to like him indirectly because he's too scared of actually talking to you. I think the goal of this is to get a girl to like him so either he knows she likes him then he can make a move or she will initiate the conversation which is every shy guys dream. Shy guys can be surprisingly not so shy when you get them to talk.

 

 

4. Pay attention to the way he talks to you. Everybody gets nervous when chatting with the person they like, but for shy guys, it’s even worse; usually, they will give you either short, quiet, possibly even snappy answers or they’ll speak very quickly and ramble on out of sheer panic. Again, note whether or not his speaking is extra awkward around you compared to around other people. He may give you short "yes" or "no" answers and refuse to elaborate. It's not that he's not interested in the conversation; it's that he's too interested in the conversation and doesn't want to say anything that might reveal his affection for you.

 

 

5. When a guy likes a girl, he wants to be around her. He's always glad when the girl he likes shows up and is disappointed when the girl doesn't. For instance, class, youth group, work etc... This is pretty much a universal trait to see if someone likes you because if someone isn't interested in you, they don't really care if you show up or not. Be aware though that a shy guy may try to not make this so obvious. He's scared about finding out that you like him as he is afraid you don't like him back.

 

 

 

 

Like I said above, the best thing to do with a shy guy is to be the one who initiates the conversations. Communicate openness by smiling, taking off your headphones, talking to people around you, smiling at strangers, and laughing when you feel like it. This subconsciously tells him — It's okay, I don't bite. If you're stooped over your laptop in a corner, with your headphones on, and ignore other people, he's going to be petrified about approaching you. Avoid "closed off" body language at all costs.  Also shy guys tend to be better at talking online so you should ask for his number or email address. 

 

 

If all else fails, ask him out yourself. You can send him as many notes in class as you want, or lick your lips so often that it tastes like you're eating lip gloss. But sometimes a guy is just so shy or plain oblivious that the only thing to do is ask him out. Don't worry — it's not the end of the world, and plenty of beautiful, smart, and eligible women have done it. If you like him, it doesn't really matter who asks out whom, as long as you can share the sunlight together at the end of the day.

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As a shy guy i approve of this message.

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This is a great guide, but doesn't apply to all shy guys :P Some shy guys, like me, try to hide the shyness as much as possible

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Bruce

Huh, used to get girls coming to me at university to talk about bf problems..... Probably irrelevant!

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Huh, used to get girls coming to me at university to talk about bf problems..... Probably irrelevant!

I wish I could like this more than once. This used to happen to me all the time

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Shy guys tend to not do as well in dating because how can you ever get to know someone if you never talk to them? Plus if you're a shy guy, then you have to rely on the girl being friendly to you first.    I think two shy people don't match well together because neither the guy nor the girl can strike up a conversation with one another.  Shy guys tend to get with girls who are more friendly and outgoing. 

 

If you're a shy girl who likes a shy guy, then one of you will have to step it up and strike a conversation as relationships can never blossom if no one talks to each other. Easier said then done. 

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Bruce

By now, at least, I certainly wouldn't have any problems approaching any girl to initiate a chat. Don't think it likely I'd have difficulty asking her out, if wanted too. But certainly helps if girl shows some interest before that!

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Shy guys tend to not do as well in dating because how can you ever get to know someone if you never talk to them? Plus if you're a shy guy, then you have to rely on the girl being friendly to you first.    I think two shy people don't match well together because neither the guy nor the girl can strike up a conversation with one another.  Shy guys tend to get with girls who are more friendly and outgoing. At least that's my opinion.

Hmmm, not too sure about this. A girl is unlikely to be interested in a guy if he doesn't make the effort for her and lets her do all the initiation. Some girls do find shy guys cute but I'd say that confidence is always going to be an attractive trait. In my personal experience too, it's always been the shy girls who I get on with rather than the outgoing ones

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There's girls that are more likely to make some moves,at least but....

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BlackxBlade

A girl is unlikely to be interested in a guy if he doesn't make the effort for her and lets her do all the initiation. Some girls do find shy guys cute but I'd say that confidence is always going to be an attractive trait.

 

Which is why shy guys almost always finish last. If you can't talk or carry on a conversation with a girl because you're scared, then you don't stand a chance. Eventually a shy guy is going to have to break out of his shell and talk to girls.  The good news is that a shy guy can learn to be confident around women. Anyone can. 

 

I think the reason why many guys are shy and more reserved is because they're scared of how the women will react. Maybe the shy guy had some bad experiences when he tried talking to women in the past like he got rejected or was accused of being a stalker or too needy and as a result, he closed himself off because he is afraid making himself vulnerable again and getting rejected.  The shy guys greatest fear with women is vulnerability, so therefore he closes himself off to girls. He believes that he will just mess everything up if he tries talking to the girl he likes and that she will reject him just like girls rejected him in the past. Unfortunately the girls who do actually like him will either think he's uninterested or will be quickly move on because he's too shy to approach her.  

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