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Sofi

Thanks! Just talked with the support worker here & we are hoping to hear back from another agency, which specialises in Autism. I think that's about as well sorted out as it can be, for now - it all depends what the 'experts' have to say about it, when I meet them. I'll let you all know how it goes!  :)

 

Good luck, it sounds better if this agency specialise in autism, definitely more chance of them understanding. I hope it can be sorted for now anyway.  :)

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Willow

How social am I? Not very social at all. I don't have any friends in real life, so there's no opportunity for me to be social anyway. I get on okay with Chris' friend and brother but other than that I don't see or speak with anyone other than Chris and family. And even family can be an issue for me, especially because we rarely see most of them, so I don't feel like I 'know' them. I would hate to have to be going out to pubs and clubs and socializing that way, or out for meals all the time. The noises etc would just be too much. As it is, even when me and Chris go somewhere, we rarely stay long. We get there, sit in the car for a bit, get out for 10 minutes if we're lucky, and then leave. 

 

Whilst I was in school, there was more of a need to be social, and I did okay to an extent - though most of my friends were male, and, I suspect, not actual friends. And due to that attention, most females hated me. So it was really doomed, if I'm honest. 

 

I had a breakdown when I was around 15 or 16, which brought an end to my schooling, socializing and any independence when going out. I haven't recovered from it; it changed me permanently. 

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Bruce

Thanks, everybody! :P  I'll be sure to keep you updated on it.  ;)

Sorry  to hear that, Willow  :( I certainly wouldn't want to keep on making myself socialize until something like that happened.  :(

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Sofi

I had a breakdown when I was around 15 or 16, which brought an end to my schooling, socializing and any independence when going out. I haven't recovered from it; it changed me permanently. 

 

Me too. I have never been the same since that time. In some ways, it's good because now I know what things I can't cope with so I won't do them, but in other ways, it's not so good as it's made me so much more anxious about everything.

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Toran

How social am I? Not very social at all. I don't have any friends in real life, so there's no opportunity for me to be social anyway. I get on okay with Chris' friend and brother but other than that I don't see or speak with anyone other than Chris and family. And even family can be an issue for me, especially because we rarely see most of them, so I don't feel like I 'know' them. I would hate to have to be going out to pubs and clubs and socializing that way, or out for meals all the time. The noises etc would just be too much. As it is, even when me and Chris go somewhere, we rarely stay long. We get there, sit in the car for a bit, get out for 10 minutes if we're lucky, and then leave. 

 

Whilst I was in school, there was more of a need to be social, and I did okay to an extent - though most of my friends were male, and, I suspect, not actual friends. And due to that attention, most females hated me. So it was really doomed, if I'm honest. 

 

I had a breakdown when I was around 15 or 16, which brought an end to my schooling, socializing and any independence when going out. I haven't recovered from it; it changed me permanently.

Well even though it has changed you and it must have been a hortiffic time its made you what you are today and your doing great achieved a lot. Be interesting to see where you are in say five years time how the sites grown and where you are. I think your one of lifes achievers you have gotten this far think with determination your going to have a bright future you and chriss.

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Toran

Me too. I have never been the same since that time. In some ways, it's good because now I know what things I can't cope with so I won't do them, but in other ways, it's not so good as it's made me so much more anxious about everything.

How did your breakdown happen what did you feel and how did you cope. I was at work yesterday and came home in tears with a headache and shaking terrible i still dont feel right today . Im dreading tomorrow when im due back and how im going to cope with full time work i dont know.

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Bruce

Is there any chance of doing less hours for awhile, to ease back into work, Toran?

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Sofi

How did your breakdown happen what did you feel and how did you cope. I was at work yesterday and came home in tears with a headache and shaking terrible i still dont feel right today . Im dreading tomorrow when im due back and how im going to cope with full time work i dont know.

 

It was one day when I had been out in a kind of socialising capacity and I started to feel panicked on the way home but I kept trying to put it off and delay the inevitable panic attack - I did this a lot on my journey home a lot because I tried so hard not to have a panic attack on my own on public transport, then when I arrived home, I had a... panic attack/meltdown I don't know what you'd call it, it lasted all evening, I remember sitting on my bed crying with my head in a scrunched up pair of pyjama trousers. I went to bed, but I had this same sort of meltdown reaction every day for a good while  and I kept just resorting to my bed for days in the dark, but not actually sleeping. I remember losing my appetite completely and I couldn't eat anything without feeling so sick. When I eventually managed to stay out of bed for a while, I just played my games all the time not eating not washing. That sort of thing lasted the several months.

That's roughly what happened. 

Yes, that's horrible. How often are you working now? Bruce is right, can you ease into full time at all? You don't want it to make you feel any worse, it will be difficult for a while I guess though.

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Toran

It was one day when I had been out in a kind of socialising capacity and I started to feel panicked on the way home but I kept trying to put it off and delay the inevitable panic attack - I did this a lot on my journey home a lot because I tried so hard not to have a panic attack on my own on public transport, then when I arrived home, I had a... panic attack/meltdown I don't know what you'd call it, it lasted all evening, I remember sitting on my bed crying with my head in a scrunched up pair of pyjama trousers. I went to bed, but I had this same sort of meltdown reaction every day for a good while  and I kept just resorting to my bed for days in the dark, but not actually sleeping. I remember losing my appetite completely and I couldn't eat anything without feeling so sick. When I eventually managed to stay out of bed for a while, I just played my games all the time not eating not washing. That sort of thing lasted the several months.

That's roughly what happened. 

Yes, that's horrible. How often are you working now? Bruce is right, can you ease into full time at all? You don't want it to make you feel any worse, it will be difficult for a while I guess though.

Thats how i felt trying to hold it back until i got home but driving made it an awful lot worse but i got home safely. Ive had these things before but they seem a lot more and im taking longer to get over them and my tablets arnt helping and think i could be heading for a breakdown as its so often now.

Im back on reduced hours bruce im working three days a week for three weeks then four days for a week before going back to full time. I couldnt have started straight back i would never have coped but even the short time working is causing problems and im dredding full time im in a bit of a mess if im honest.

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Bruce

So, are you getting any help/ support/ treatment? Ideally, you'd be able to tell them your concerns?

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