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Who Are The Asperclickers?

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I stand to be corrected here but here goes: I assume the majority of Asperclickers seem to just about get by in life. Most seem to have a job. From former posts you can see problems arise with these jobs but, in most cases, people weather the storm. Dating seems to be a problem for the males and may be more of a concern than employment. A small percentage of us have severe loneliness and depression issues. I can't help but compare myself so will highlight some issues. First of all obsession is one of my strongest symptoms. Life revolves around these fixations and actually unsettles those who know me. I pretty much always talk about my interests. It fits with HFA as apparently with HFA the obsessions can number around four or five. Depression and anxiety is far less of a problem these days. Social interaction, however, is a huge problem. Recently I discovered the few NT friends I have seem to have a connection with AS. Such as a son or daughter on the spectrum.. Or they had unsettled childhoods. My friends all tend to be very socially capable but nice and likable. Employment is a total impossibility. I'm extremely clumsy and can't seem to function in mornings. Almost all the jobs I had, I was considered too slow. Even in some cases facial recognition caused issues. This has caused a big family rift and also puzzled a lot of people. My friends used to confront me about it but maybe they can now see there is some problem and they ceased lecturing. I work self employed but not doing so well in the current climate. I must admit so many aspies do well in employment I find it confusing.. I mean for me employment was as chaotic as school. Also relationships. I see zero prospect of a girlfriend. The only hope would be a Yoko Ono type. Also I feel the employment issues wouldn't be fair in a relationship. Understandably girls seek a partner who can hold a job and socialise. Fortunately dogs love me so I'm often quite happy reading a book with the dog by my side. To wind it up, based on what I researched I am swayed towards HFA as a diagnosis and not AS. Especially in light of the fact I was slow to read at school. Some of the more unusual symptoms I have are: Sensitivity to noise and fabrics. Sensitivity to light. Scrawly handwriting. Spatial and balance issues. Repetitive schedules. Difficulties with personal appearance and organization. Weak emotional empathy or awareness of emotions in others. Possibly a touch of narcissism. Level of severity of autism symptoms I'd say pretty severe although I've met people with more severe symptoms.

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antago

I run my own company because I harnessed skillsets young. I am not very happy because I built a multi-million dollar gaming empire and some men in Paris took it without a contract (hundreds of thousands of dollars), slandered me, stole credit, and are now living my life literally. It's annoying being a prodigy watching a market and game I spent two years building enriching another person's life. It would be different if it was done unethically or illegally on my part, but rather it was not. There is absolutely zero justice in the situation.

The only ounce of justice I've ever seen was that at one time I spoke with archangels through a spirit tool of mine and they gave me a divine name that through study of the symbology acknowledges what happened. Nonetheless it didn't fix the 15 years of social isolation and abuse while I dreamed every day of innovating and evolving my virtual kingdom. I went to school for it. I have received no power or support in any way shape or form for what happened. I went to school for video game design and never got to even use it; it's traumatic even thinking about rebuilding another game. That'd be like asking the creators of Mario to stop making Mario and do something different. So, no, there is no justice regardless of what anyone feels, thinks, hopes, or says, and I feel very solid murderous rage & blasphemous hatred from the incident. In broad daylight this happens and even though my case is worth millions I haven't found even so much as a probono lawyer or any of the thousands of members in the gaming community to give even a single s*** about it, nor any church or organization, only boohoos and move-ons.

So, in other words, if someone makes your life a living hell and you wind up broke, suicidal, and someone is living your stolen dreams without creative talent while your prodigious life purpose is oppressed by trauma—you're supposed to just keep waking up and living every stupid day like life is still worth living.

I'm gonna stop here. Needless to say, the marketing agency I built I did on my own with the help of my clients. I couldn't find even a single ass**** to join or help me in the process given all the amazing accomplishments, so I had to learn everything myself: Expert programming, expert graphics design, business management, legalities, branding, writing, marketing myself, publishing, professionalism—everything. I finally started making use of my friends in the business world and things are starting to make sense, but I've done pretty much everything on my own including manning 10 departments in my own marketing agency. I have good clients, good business friends, and lots of experience and knowledge. I find most people just want to date and screw around; I'm more than marriable and yet people treat relationships like a free ride at an amusement park with room for playing the devil's advocate.

I ain't into it, and I'm not letting anyone use me ever again just to slam the door in my face and tell me I'm not worth keeping. I rebuke it, it's a lie, and I'm better than them and most people. If someone wants to "date me", they can prove their own damn self worth and if, being friends, we decide we are both attracted and want to marry to build a life together then we can—but I don't believe in dating. It's a fraud, full of lies, sluts, users, and people who belong in hell—and I mean that from the absolute essence of my soul in all my experience, divine wisdom, and understanding of the universe. NO ONE will EVER use me for their own comforts without a lifelong commitment. I've been "dumped" by dozens of some of the biggest most worthless pieces of garbage to have ever walked this planet, and each time they try to "educate me" on the matter. In truth they're just sociopathic sluts who could never feel love for anyone and are too damn stupid to realize what they had, how to appreciate or keep something, how to take responsibility, and how to keep their groins in their pants. I'm not a toy, and I am not on trial.

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Harrow

Sometimes I think I'm more NT then AS but I cant always appear that way or at least not for very long and it drains me and it hurts, its like I'm forcing myself to be more then myself or at least more then I'm capable. The rest of the time I feel very AS and everyone who knows me or interacts with me tells me I'm different or strange and eccentric. I often have trouble known what to say socially or when there's more then two or three people around, but saying that much I generally get invited out a lot and I've always had a fairly large group of acquaintances, but it goes both ways sometimes its really good and sometimes its really bad, e.g this weekend I went to a party and there where about 8 people there and I did really well I was mostly in charge the whole night and speaking to everyone and when I feel comfortable I'm generally good at holding a crowed so that's what happened. But I've also been to many parties there and sometimes when I go there, their could be maybe only four other people or a hundred it doesn't matter and I'll find myself having a meltdown and I have to leave. Same in social situations sometimes I wont be able to speak to one person at all I'll start sweating and struggle what to say it gets so bad and yet sometimes I can randomly start talking to a stranger in a public place and be fine.

As to dating, I've dated a few times, mostly because I had a friend in high school who dated a lot, e.g new girlfriend each weekend and he taught me a lot. But it only goes so far I know how to talk to a girl I know how to ask for her number take her on a date, e.g. mostly he taught me a way to talk to them, and its just make them feel important and happy make everything about them even if you don't like them do it to every girl kind of thing and all about the touch barrier in the first few minutes. But beyond that stage I'm really hopeless I can't read subtle clues I'm not a very intimate or sexual person so they don't last long, though a few of them did get past that hurdle because of getting to know her and her getting to know me and sadly to say I think some girls just went with me because they thought my family had a lot of money. 

As to jobs I was kind of forced too get one really young because my dad isn't really fit to be a parent (amazing person, just to far on the spectrum) and my mother well is my mother, I don't really want to say more about that here. But even though I got one it wasn't easy and I've had a few, someday's work got so stressful that I'd come home drained and petrified of going back the next day but I had to force myself too and I did and that takes a lot out of you. Now days I just work part time and more intellectual work so its easier, I'm also struggling to start a business which is a huge amount of challenge and most days I feel like I cant but I got to keep trying.

Sometimes I think I appear to cope better then others in certain situations because I didn't have a choice growing up. My dads house I've always been the adult there since I was really young, I had to go to the shops and do the shopping, take care of my sister cook the food, do all the socializing for the family when we went out, because for the most part my dad is incapable, so its not like I had a choice and for the most part me and my sister where there alone, because my dad worked really long hours.

As for my moms place it was the opposite, we where giving everything we needed but we where free besides that I could just leave home on a Friday night and appear back on a following Wednesday and nobody would of even noticed. Plus my mother was married to the most vile of humans who I've ever had the misfortune of known, a complete f*ck up of a man, so I would often have to step in when he tried to attack my mom or my sister, which he did a lot, it was common when I came home to hear him call my sister a fucking slut and a bitch or to hit and push my mom and sister down the stair so I often returned blows with him, it was a good thing he was a coward. 

 

 

   

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antago

Sex & romance is a pleasure more potent than heroin. If you sister was being a slut and your mother was using sex to get her way, I don't disagree with a woman being slapped around for abusing people with pleasure. Not that this is what was happening, but we have descended into a paradigm where people can use pleasure to their advantage without being penalized unless it's a street drug they bash in health class. On the other hand, pain is recognized as abuse.

You can be abusive with pleasure & pain. It's not a good idea to go around seducing women by "making it all about them and giving them what they want and pretending to be interested", either. That's really messed up. I hope you find a way to dig deeper and be yourself with women, and demand the same. It's easy to seduce anyone if all you do is sit there and hold back, listen, and pretend to be interested; you can then use this against them later, right? "I don't speak much so I'll be the one to criticize you for revealing too much and you have nothing against me". Your friend in high school was a real jerk and a pervert, and you shouldn't be mirroring his tricks, because that's what they are—tricks—not gifts.

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Neither my sister or my mother are like that he was just a really horrible person, especially my sister she's one of the most decent people you'll ever meet.

And I do agree with you my friend in high school was a huge jerk and mostly a pervert but I was rebelling at that time and that's why we became friends but yet that's also why we stopped been friend in the end he didn't know how to treat girls.

And you miss understand me pretending to be kind and listening to actually been kind and listening are to different things. I more meant it in a way with everything, you see someone upset you go ask them if you can help or if there's anything you can do male or female. You see someone trying really hard to do something and maybe they aren't that good, still go over and encourage them say there drawing looks good or what not that will encourage them to keep trying. Why because its the right thing too do. I try really hard to be nice to people regardless if I want to date them or like them or not. There was this girl in school who really struggled at maths I used to do the two hour walk to her house everyday to tutor her, everyone though I did it because I wanted to "get with her" but that wasn't true I just wanted to help.

Now I'm not saying I didn't use his tricks in the past and didn't dated for the wrong reasons because I did, though I'd never force anyone or use anything against them ever. I generally did listen and care every single time.

But its not also fair to say they are just tricks, some of them are very useful, say I'm out and I see a girl that I think looks attractive known how to talk to her and approach her makes it easier, but it doesn't mean I'm tricking her or anything its just an easy way to get to speak to her and get to know her, how can you then know if you will grow to fall in love or like someone in the first place if you don't originally approach them.

And I know you'll say that's not me, but it is me, I may be doing things a certain way but that's romance in a way everything I do I fully mean and I fully care.

But one thing I do disagree with you massively is you never hit somebody else especially a girl, if what you said was the case then he could of been a man and left sex is two sides how can a women use pleasure against you, how can anyone I don't understand.

 

   

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Sex is a basic human need & desire, and the historical context of never abusing sex is not some old-fashioned trick of a bunch of male pigs & shriveled up shrew witches. That is a huge misnomer. Pain & pleasure are two sides of the same coin; you can abuse someone with pain and convince them they deserve to be treated roughly and guilted, shamed, etc. This will mess up the course of their lives and teach them to self-sabotage.

Pleasure, on the other hand, is supremely addictive; when the government cracks down on restaurants abusing MSG or other addictive drugs, it is not because the drug is always destructive. There are many pleasures that can be abused, because pleasure is a driving force of attraction & desire, meaning you can manipulate people. We are born into a society obsessed with movies and television, and they basically teach us that we can indulge in whatever we want and should, and that that's okay because it's a capitalistic culture.

When someone is broken hearted or having their emotions & mind toyed with and sabotaged, we are told, "Forget it. Move on. It's your fault." That is part of a rape culture that teaches us to give ourselves away. However, pleasure is addicting, meaning you can suck a person dry, using them for comfort, pleasure, amusement, dates, money, a place to live, someone to kill the stress of loneliness or masturbation, someone to criticize, someone to watch and using for arousal, someone to scapegoat your problems onto to feel better about yourself. Yet, if the other person is attached because of pleasure, they are called "creeps", "stalkers", "psychos", "losers", and told to suck it up and move on ... many cut their wrists, blow their brains out, write about the atrocity in darkness for years and years. They age quicker, their heart breaks; internally they disintegrate and told "never use violence just move on".

But that is not actually how society works. When a man is molesting children you don't just "suck it up and move on"; when a child is molested, they are often seduced and manipulated. It is the same for adults who are seduced and manipulated. Our society is supremely fallen. Rape by force isn't just bad because it can give diseases or pregnancy; it's the violation of one's pleasure center & free will. Love is not what America claims it is today, and most of these notions that everything is just a big romance fest of fornication and that everyone is consensually knowing what they are doing is untrue. Much of the world today is a horrible, horrible realm of unrequited narcissistic abuse running around using people for sexual drugs and running away, severing ties, breaking hearts.

But our reproductive organs and emotional selves are very sacred, and the withdrawal from love is devastating. In a world where one can abuse you to the very core on the inside and we are left thinking that slapping a person is worse than breaking up—you are living in total hell, because it isn't true. It's a culture of sexual revolution and witchcraft parading as "personal power, choices, and freedom". Nobody has the right to use their sex for power over another person to make their lives easier just because they hate chastity and being alone. Those kinds of people, truly, in my opinion, should be put in prison for the rest of their lives because they cannot be trusted to use their sexual power for good rather than their own personal advantage. And yet the media and the American culture is permeating with essentially the witches of pleasure (man and woman) seducing and using to get by in life. They hurt when they feel like, move on when they feel like, take what they want, spread their legs, feel little or no connection, scapegoat to cover their tracks and never or rarely ever repent or come clean. Instead they use good people's love and pleasure against them to lure them in for comfort.

That is not okay, and a slap in the face in my opinion for using your reproductive and charm skills to your advantage rather than mutual lifelong intimacy is barely what these kinds of people deserve. They deserve more than an effing slap. I hold them to the same level of contempt as a child molester.

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Harrow

I'm sorry I honestly don't follow you and expecially what your trying to say about me? 

Have you ever really been in love or even slept with someone, two very different things by the way. 

Been in love is an amazing feeling and it not oh I'm going sleep with you tonight it's your going come home from work and I'm going ask you about your day and maybe have supper ready because you generally care about the other person and then maybe watch a movie together or something. It's about been generally happy and caring for another person immensely. 

But on the other hand say you decide to hook up with someone for the night, basically have a one night stand your a man shes a women you both agree then move on.  So what is that sexual abuse? No. 

And yes pain and pleasure is the same in some regards but so what? 

Yes there is sexual abuse in the word and a huge amount of it but that doesn't mean in every single relationship people are together because it benifits one of them and the other is adused. 

And the withdrawn from love is heartbreak every single person goes through it, it's human nature Ive mentioned it before else where but there was once a girl I was going marry but she ended it with me and it broke my heart. Sometimes when I drink or I'm down or something I still tell people about her because I truly loved her she was amazing but now she's married to someone else and you  know what I'm happy  because she's happy and yeah I'm sad it wasnt me but I'm truly happy she's happy that's love. 

Oh and one last point you said in some cases it said oh it's your fault move on, when does that ever happen. Yeah moving on is difficult but once again it's part of been human. 

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antago

Dude I don't tolerate heartbreak and I don't tolerate fornication. You trying to make this about you is beside the point. My viewpoints are my points and I'm not going to compromise or get into compromising conversations about how it relates to you. I condemn the practice, and I condemn people using each other's reproductive organs and orgasmic ecstasy for fun and playing house. Grow up, and yes like I said I think it's as bad as child molestation. The end.

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Harrow

You where commenting on my post so naturally I got a little offensive. But I do apologies, I wasn't sure if it was about me or not. Nor did I wish to make it. 

And I do not expect you to compromise at all those are you points and I absolutely fully respect that. My believes are my believes and yours are yours. 

So I hope you accept my humble apology. I didn't mean anything negatively towards you in the slightest. 

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Hollywood has destroyed love, and the only people who will survive the system are those who feel nothing—and they will benefit hugely from it. Love is like heroin; those individuals who are born immune to love will not feel it. They can walk away at any time and complicate the process using movies and culture to perpetuate the idea of "falling in love" and "trying it before you buy it". But love, to those who are not sociopaths, is simple; you open yourself up and commit, building together. Instead we are collectively being taught that this is stupid and unhealthy, and that we should date and use each other, adopt labels, rip them away, fire our partners for little reasons, and move on like it's healthy. This level of pain is unbearable to the good man, and only sociopaths and the emotional dead inside benefit from the practice, and do they ever. They looooove it; they loooove laughing at their victims, drama, and getting pity every time "their relationship didn't work out", being promiscuous but calling it "serial monogamy", trying out someone shiny & new to get more experiences, and "looking to fall in love". They feel no stress when they leave relationships; very little burden. They come out looking sparkly clean and new while all the good people are going through heartache that never leaves them simply because they were born healthy into a culture obsessed with theatrical love stories that were designed for the cinema but have no place in society.

We should be being taught to guard our hearts, be clean, not to use one another, not to open up addictions. People are often naive and never taught the science behind it, and they enter into the culture of dating and breaking up never knowing they're about to be severely addicted to a person who a lot of times feels no attachment to others. This isn't about YOU, it's about a society that just came out of all kinds of horrible practices and still has a ways to go. Your comment provoked me to deliver a wake-up call and a warning. Being a slut is wrong, and trying to redefine promiscuity to normalize it as "serial monogamy" will oppress all the people who have the sensitivity to make this world a better place—including liberating the autistic individual with love and acceptance.

Instead, superficial prostitutes who have sex for short-term benefits are killing and oppressing all the good people. It is not unhealthy to be addicted to another person for the rest of your life; that is called having a heart. It is destructive to empower a world where these individuals are wounded by traumas that never get rectified because "it's normal and okay to break-up" as if it isn't a form of prostitution. The infinite myriad of accusations and demonizations, discards, and more are silencing everyone who has the ability to love another human-being more than, say, weed, parties, capitalism, and things.

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