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Dr-David-Banner

Goodbye Vanilla

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Dr-David-Banner

I never before mentioned I got into D/S about the same time Madonna made her Body Of Evidence movie and published her book. I am no longer into D/S but I have no issue over it - it was just a phase. I need to point out proper D/S is not in any way dirty or sick. When I was on a newslist years ago, it was all very normal people, teachers, office workers or married couples. So, what is D/S? It is simply role-play that makes vanilla sex seem a bit boring and routine. You act out a fantasy and you use costumes to play out a chosen scenario. Mine was the unruly student meets Headmistress role-play and it was all very convincing so you had a safety password to turn off the game if it felt too intense. For people on the spectrum D/S may allow you to confront your fears through staged control. There are lots of very normal and artistic people into D/S and I met dominatrixes who were terrific actresses. I got to know one American Domme who told me she learned so much from convent school and the nuns. Back then we used the term "Domme" to signify a dominatrix. Sadly today the artistic and erotic theatre of D/S has been swallowed up by crude porn except maybe in Japan where erotic writing is still going strong. Oh, and yes I have role played but these days just grew out of it and tend to have outgrown D/S.

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Peridot

Madonna was beautiful in that movie!

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Dr-David-Banner
20 hours ago, Peridot said:

Madonna was beautiful in that movie!

The film bombed and got awful reviews although I thought it was a good movie. The best one is Roman Polanski's Bitter Moon which is about a couple who have a DS relationship. Madonna's brother claimed she was never into DS personally but she uses it a lot on stage. As for me I grew out of it but I still think acting out adult role-play may have therapeutic value. The fantasies are often based on fears of authority situations but the role-play allows the whole thing to be turned into a game. I once saw a terrific documentary where a few people shared what they liked to act out. They were totally normal people and had a sense of humour. Part of it too is a release of pressure. 

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