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Boobookittyfrag

Everyone is welcome here.

 

I don't think following someone to a thread where they are talking about something personal that they need advice or support about, and starting a confrontation is a nice thing to do even if you feel justified.

 

I've seen two confrontations in one day on here which is making me extremely uncomfortable as we're all supposed to be talking to each other with a bit of respect.

 

This is supposed to be one of the few places where we are all supposed to be welcome and safe.

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Ben

What happens on a thread, stays on a thread. I've always been a believer in that. 

 

I wouldn't worry. The hardcore asperclikers usually pull together, and sort most people out who stir trouble. Very tight bunch here. 

 

And yes everyone is welcome here, even if a moderator from another forum decided to come here and post, that's fine too..... *Looks innocently from side to side*

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Kaygee

Everyone is welcome here.

 

I don't think following someone to a thread where they are talking about something personal that they need advice or support about, and starting a confrontation is a nice thing to do even if you feel justified.

 

I've seen two confrontations in one day on here which is making me extremely uncomfortable as we're all supposed to be talking to each other with a bit of respect.

 

This is supposed to be one of the few places where we are all supposed to be welcome and safe.

You're right! And I was out of line for "chasing" Andy here, but I had fire in my eyes from his insults to me in my other thread.

 

What Andy did to me was wrong, but  It was completely immature of me to do such a thing, and my comments were out of line, and I apologize for that!

 

 

What happens on a thread, stays on a thread. I've always been a believer in that. 

 

I wouldn't worry. The hardcore asperclikers usually pull together, and sort most people out who stir trouble. Very tight bunch here. 

 

And yes everyone is welcome here, even if a moderator from another forum decided to come here and post, that's fine too..... *Looks innocently from side to side*

I'll sort myself out, my friend. Not feeling really welcome here after the recent turn of events anyway. Again, I apologize for my actions in this thread!

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Ben

I've had my moments here too. I left for three months. It's easy to misinterpret a posters intentions. I like to imagine that I'm at the dinner table while I'm here, I try and talk like I would in real life, and if I'm misunderstood, I try and clean up.  

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Andy

You're right! And I was out of line for "chasing" Andy here, but I had fire in my eyes from his insults to me in my other thread.

 

What Andy did to me was wrong, but  It was completely immature of me to do such a thing, and my comments were out of line, and I apologize for that!

 

 

I'll sort myself out, my friend. Not feeling really welcome here after the recent turn of events anyway. Again, I apologize for my actions in this thread!

I still wish to understand where I insulted you when it was my belief I was giving what was asked, where I am sorry my belief does not back up your belief but that is my opinion of which you asked for.

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Andy

Okay I have some feed back on what occurred and it seems the subject was the problem what I considered as matter of fact others did not think so, so I guess this is yet another autistic problem rearing it's head but I found although my friends knew I had an AS diagnosis they did not understand what constituted an AS diagnosis, what problems we can suffer where being misunderstood, ridiculed and being bullied is a very touchy area where we will react when we perceive such.

 

As it was the one I argued with got educated in what constitutes AS by another friend who had wondered why I was not present and asked to be told where he said the problem is classic autism he being a mental health nurse knew and told them communication is difficult enough for autistic people without having friends ridicule them as that is very confusing to the autistic because of the way they think which is logically mostly.

 

But with me it will take a long time to trust those people again because my understanding of them has changed and it is with me my understanding is based upon constant input that being nothing good follows questionable and my sense of another remains diminished, where basically, it is up to them whether they know it or not they are being monitored by me all the time as to whether I can trust them or not.

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spiderwoman0_2

Andy did your friends turn up to the Wednesday pub?

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JakeTrv

There is always going to be those types of people who claim to be you friends, only to have you stabbed in the back. I should know, because I had the same sort of problems in high school. I thought I had some good friends, but things didn't end up quite well. Boy did I ever make a mistake thinking that they were my friends. So I stepped above them and found some new friends. Friends that I can connect better with. People like you, me, and everyone else on this site, connect well with each other because we know what it's like. You will definitely find better people to be with. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but it will be destined to happen in the future.

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Nesf

There is always going to be those types of people who claim to be you friends, only to have you stabbed in the back. I should know, because I had the same sort of problems in high school. I thought I had some good friends, but things didn't end up quite well. Boy did I ever make a mistake thinking that they were my friends. So I stepped above them and found some new friends. Friends that I can connect better with. People like you, me, and everyone else on this site, connect well with each other because we know what it's like. You will definitely find better people to be with. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but it will be destined to happen in the future.

I was very naive and I used to think at High School that anyone who talked to me was my friend, when in actual fact they were indifferent or even scathing to me. People used to tell me that if I wanted to make friends all I had to do was talk to someone, that didn't work either. I think there were very, very few which I could call genuine friends.

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Andy

Andy did your friends turn up to the Wednesday pub?

My friends, I have come to the sad realisation that the friends I had have moved on and I must also move on or else be left behind. But they are all full of confidence and self belief, where I am perhaps because of my medical stuff actually declining and I guess confident people don't want wet lettuces around them, of which I have become.

 

They turned up on wednesday but told me they were meeting with the others so our socialising will be brief and it was my sense was they could not wait to get away from me.

 

And last night, it seems the ex mental health nurse has done well with what he said  for last night of the two that had upset me one I got a greetings hug and glad to have me back and the one that had made fun of me in front of ours said he did not mean it and didn't realise I had autism and that my thinking might be different on the matter and so he apologises. I said apology accepted but don't expect things to go back to normal straight away for trust with me is earned and a lesson for he, he should never take for granted everyone is as himself in society and where I will get angry, shout and then storm off others resort to violence when they are frustrated and violence can lead anywhere.

 

But we shall see what happens where I do feel like a big chunk has been taken out of y existence and things will never be quite the same again.

 

But I need to get a job to open up new horizons as like this, well this is it and I am not happy with it.

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