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Dr-David-Banner

Two days ago I posted a sort of minority topic on Lost In Space (the TV series 1960s). It's already three pages long. Thing is, of the thousands of members, there was a sufficient percentage who had watched the show. Why does that site have so many members in the first place? Well, it's a hobby/interest related site and maybe also it doesn't have strong competition. I notice pretty much "all" the old Asperger websites are very quiet. Maybe someone can suggest why. Even the Spanish mundo aspie hardly seems active, at least last time I visited. Anyone have any thoughts? Why were people much more active on AS sites 10 years ago?

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Ace

Probably because we are antisocial by nature. It probably rarely even occurs to an aspie that there might be a forum with others like them so there are few new people coming in while older members either forget, become distant and disconnected, or something else. I have known for years that I have it but it only occurred to me a few months ago that there might be a forum with others like me. 

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Ace

Although that doesn't explain why it was more active 10 years ago. Maybe it was the relatively new concept of the internet that stirred them to be a part of it while now we are used to the internet and it doesn't seem to excite us as much. Kind of like a new toy or gadget.

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Dr-David-Banner

It is a good point that people with autism issues are poor at socialising. I personally concluded the concept of an Asperger community is a paradox. Plus, even though I study related psychology I am not good at helping others usually. Maybe more neurotypical parents could boost membership? I met a neurotypical mother recently and we got on great. Her son has fairly serious autism. He told his mother his Xmas wish is to have just one friend. Maybe others have some thoughts?

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RiRi

I think ...

  • maybe people are just reading things now instead of getting engaged
  • maybe the people who used to be active on this forum have moved on with their lives/gotten bored of the forum and found interest doing other things
  • maybe people have realized it's best to spend time living instead of being stuck here 
  • a lot of people on this forum weren't understanding of other people, made rude remarks, etc. And some people don't like you and just are mean to you instead of leaving you alone. And I think the anonymity on forums allow that. It's not much of a difference in person, some people are just really negative people and think everyone is out to get them. You just have got to realize that person is just negative and ignore their behavior. In here, behavior as such was never ignored. Instead, it was attacked. Again, I guess being behind device allows instead. So I agree with you guys, there is no sense of inclusion in person or online. I would imagined in person, there would be group and wanting to make everyone feel included, maybe NTs are better at that than aspies, but maybe just humans are not good at inclusion just in general. I know aspies in general are not welcoming, at least from what I've seen in person and NTs are scared of new people or at least the one I saw was. If you're lucky, there will be a very social aspie who will overwhelm you with their special interest and ask you questions. But other than that, no inclusion whatsoever.

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Dr-David-Banner

"maybe people have realized it's best to spend time living instead of being stuck here".

This could be tricky, though. Some people with this condition want to be social but are pretty hopeless at it. Others don't want to be social at all and are avoidant. 

You are right, though, that a lot of people will come with all sorts of "baggage". Those who were unable to find friends or girlfriends due to limitations in socialisation skills frequently grow up and develop with an angry attitude. In some cases, they get drawn into negative social media groups  where some group or other can be blamed. Bottled up anger is a symptom. 

 

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Kuribo

I can only speak for myself, but the reason I rarely bother to post anymore is that the entire core community which made this place worth visiting is gone. No one I have ever considered a friend is a regular poster anymore, and no one worth getting to know is replacing them. I can't imagine why anyone in their right mind would sign up to the forum as it is. The constant racism, religious preaching and other hard-right drivel that's rapidly filling the vaccum would be enough to send any sane human being running for the hills.

In its 2013/14 heyday, Asperclick proved that - at least in the online sphere - the concept of an Asperger community isn't necessarily a paradox. It was a place of refuge where good people from various ends of the autism spectrum with a wide array of difficulties came together to provide support and friendship. There are times when I seriously question whether I'd be here today without the vital lifeline of support it provided. Today, it has none of that social utility.

My sincere advice to @Willow is that it may be time to consider ending it. Either that or appoint another moderator to pull the emergency break on its descent into a worthless echo chamber for racists, fascists and bible-bashers. If it's going to continue as it has been for the past few months, you may as well just save yourself the hosting fees.

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RiRi

I agree with that. @Willow should just close up this forum. I don't recommend the voting poll because some lurkers or people who post nothing and others who have brought up nothing to this forum shouldn't be allowed to vote in the shadows and instead vote upfront. 

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RiRi

Because I remember when that stupid downvote button was instated that the forum went down in flames. 

Also, @Kuribo there was never really a 2014 era. I think it was more specifically from January 2013 (when the forum was created to June 2014) that the core of this forum existed. I never considered myself core of the forum and you probably never considered me a friend because we just weren't and more precisely, you didn't allow it. Anyways, despite not being considered a core member I can recall that I made some of the most positive/engaging threads here. Yes, I was never recognized by the moderator or fellow members for the positive things, but what can you expect from a bunch of people who don't consider the appreciation of people. Because everyone contributed one way or another. 

 

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RiRi
On 11/27/2019 at 9:26 AM, Dr-David-Banner said:

You are right, though, that a lot of people will come with all sorts of "baggage". Those who were unable to find friends or girlfriends due to limitations in socialisation skills frequently grow up and develop with an angry attitude. In some cases, they get drawn into negative social media groups  where some group or other can be blamed. Bottled up anger is a symptom. 

How do you know this is what happens? I personally haven't seen someone leave and report back they've grown angry about the world. 

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