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Willow

Hi everyone,

After much thought, I have decided to close the forum. The doors will officially close on December 31st. It hasn’t been the happy, friendly place I created for a long time now. I cannot regain or recreate that feeling that people miss so much; so many original members left here feeling that it had done its job and they were in a better place, which is amazing and I’m proud I could be a part of that - but it’s left Asperclick a ghost town. I will be keeping the domain name and plan to find a way to display some of our best content from the last few years, so we won’t be gone, just no longer a forum. Thank you to everyone who made this place great, and to those who stuck around until the bitter end.

It's not goodbye, it's just see you later.

Willow

xx

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Kuribo

It's a pity that the original atmosphere can't be reignited, but it's probably for the best that the site doesn't carry on as a shadow of its former self. I was hopeful earlier in the year when quite a lot of the 2013 crew started to reappear, but it's perhaps inevitable that when you start out with such a young membership, most will eventually move on with their lives, becoming too busy with education, families, careers, etc.

I think the ability to choose your own social circle without having to deal with "undesirables" offered by platforms like of Facebook has massively disincentivised people from signing up to forums like this, leaving the vaccum to be filled by nutjobs with crackpot political agendas to preach, which in turn scares away the small number of "normal" people who might otherwise have considered joining. It's a vicious circle, and not one unique to Asperclick. Almost every forum I know of is suffering from the same problem.

If you were to reconsider and keep Asperclick open as a forum, I think it would require active monitoring on a daily basis, as well as some tough decisions about whether certain individuals, PM me for names, who aren't necessarily setting out to hurt anyone but are nevertheless a repellant influence on new and old members alike, should be allowed to continue posting.

Either way, I'm glad that you don't feel it's been a waste. You've made a substantially positive difference to a lot of people's lives, and you should take pride in that. I also think that keeping an archive of the best content would be a great idea.

As for me, I don't think I'll be moving to any other forum. They were all crap when Asperclick was in its prime, and they're even worse now. This will mark the end of my seven-year association with the online ASD community, a largely unpleasant ordeal in which Asperclick represented a small oasis of value. For the first time in my adult life, I have proper friends in real life, so I feel less of a need for online companionship overall. It's only worth the time and effort if you find somewhere special, and none of the remaining autism forums are anything special at all.

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Ben

It's all down to this modern day society and the evolution of social media. People on the spectrum are just slotting in better, and are becoming evermore aware of the gifts that ASD brings. That, plus, it's just the norm now. This once dark, misunderstood thing that we were diagnosed with in the 90's is nothing more than a personality type now. 

Every ASD forum has taken a hit - I mean, ASD UK died before Asperclick was even born (which had nothing to do with me being a complete dildo as a mod - I swear.) 

Asperclick was of its time. An important era for a lot of our developments none the less, but I'm 29 now and gave up my status as an Aspie in the 2000's. Alex got married, and Willow swapped the Panda Hat for a Ferrari. 

I've gone over it in my mind, wondered what could have gone wrong, what should have been done to prevent it, but now, I just think everything happened as it should have. Life is a process and we all went through it - as did the forum. I now can't possibly imagine Asperclick evolving into the 2020's - even if you made it an app and spent a ridiculous sum on it, I get the sense that the 20's are going to move fast. I'm quite sure that we'll see the thing that replaces the internet by 2027/28. 

Regardless as to where we all end up, let us never forget @InDubioVeritas- I read his posts sometimes and it's incredible how we never really crossed paths all that much. What a beautiful mind. 

 

 

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Sanctuary

I'm sorry to hear this news but it isn't surprising as the forum has been struggling in terms of activity for some time. I think the decision was inevitable but still a sad one. it's hard to know why this decline occurred but once it did it became self-fulfilling as the lack of activity make people reluctant to post and makes new members either reluctant to join or they might just make one or two posts and then depart. The loss of original members wouldn't have been such an issue if they had been replaced by equally active newcomers but sadly that didn't happen. If it had the site would have been very different and maybe not as attractive to those originals who had stayed but it could have still been very vibrant to its new users. However there aren't many forums and sites that can replenish in that way. it's a particular shame for those members who have been active even over the last few months but it's hard to keep a forum going that hasn't got that broader level of interest.

In terms of those who were long-term posters - those who had been on the site for several years or more - perhaps there comes a time when there seems little new to say about ASD topics. That doesn't mean it isn't a hugely important part of ourselves and our history but at this point at least there isn't much more to say. It's possible to discuss non-ASD topics but often they are too niche to attract much discussion here and would benefit from being aired on specialist sites.

I've found huge insight on Asperclick in the three years I've been a member and have greatly valued the contributions here. I also looked back at many of the much earlier discussions and found them fascinating not just in terms of their content but also as an exploration of the forum's history. Even then there was a sense of poignancy in seeing the names of once-prolific members who had moved away from the forum. Some members of Asperclick have been members of other forums (indeed might still be active on them) but I've never used any other ASD forum and am not sure whether I will join another one. I'm not sure it would feel the same. In a sense Asperclick has been a community with its familiar faces as well as its less familiar or more fleeting ones and going to another site just might not have that same feeling. Even if every Asperclick member joined another forum and became active on there it wouldn't be the same "community" but for some it will still be a good way forward.

Some members may still want to explore and discuss ASD on social media or through blogs or some other means. Some may want to keep in touch on a more personal level. Others will simply move on to other things but whatever they do Asperclick will have helped them greatly as it has in my case and it's a good point for us to reflect on those benefits. It's been a great journey and although all journeys have to come to an end we are thankful for the experience - most of all to Willow as the driving force but to all our fellow passengers who have shared the ride with us. 

 

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Luke

Hey, ghost towns are perfect for aspies! “Asperclick – the friendly ghost town”

It will be sad to see Asperclick go down, but I understand your reasons. I almost never post and have only popped in here and there to see what’s going on (I’m part of the problem haha), but it still makes me sad.

But I agree, I would be proud of everything that has come out of Asperclick. I’m grateful for having had the chance to talk to InDubioVeritas while he was still with us. It was always a pleasure to read his posts.

 

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Dr-David-Banner

Ben made some good points. I think I went through the same thing as George Harrison when he met actual hippy fans in San Francisco. He had expected to meet creative and vibrant people with a love of music and desire to change things. Instead he met drug trippers and dropouts who "liked" The Beatles because it was the "in" thing. This caused George to ditch LSD and live more privately. For me, it was the same. The Asperger community appeared later to be a huge mix of genuinely autistic people, many not quite neurotypical people, oddballs and very many cult followers. As Ben said above, for many it was a progressive movement. At one time I really bought into it and maybe foolishy believed there was a future generation of hybrids in the making. You felt less alone and more understood. Yet, somehow it became a disaster. Often the AS community forums were turning out to be not so tolerant and not so different. Conversation could occasionally surprise but much of it was just totally "normal". Opinion and thought was typical of the local places you visit daily. O.K, sometimes myself and Nesf+Sanctuary had some useful talks on teaching difficulties and that was useful. And King Oni was great to read when he was still around. For me it was my George Harrison awakening. No great flower power alternative. No Asperger alternative. Yet the future is still rosy. Asperger's is still a condition that can awaken different ways of thinking and give rise to mysterious, contradictory people who often have as many gifts as impairments. And just as George never stopped doing albums I still plan on helping spread awareness of autism. And I hope Willow will find her new angle and direction too. She too has been on a long ride with changes, disappointnents and hopes.

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Ace

I'm sad to see it go. I just started on here and hoped to stay connected for a long while and talk to people like myself which is extremely rare any other time. But I guess it makes sense. does anyone have recommendations on other forums maybe the few active of us can migrate to?

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Dr-David-Banner

My advice: Not to rely on other people with various disorders to enlighten your understanding. Look at concrete, scientific information. Try Paul Cooijman who has a site on AS. Look at Asperger's original papers as well as Wing's essays. Ultimately we need information and awareness and to speed up the diagnostic process. We can't just do it as a community because we are too divided and mixed. At least that's my take.

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HalfFull

I'm sad to learn of this. I think Willow has done a great job of keeping the site going through some difficult times in her life. There have been times when there were arguments on the site which is normal but I think its down to the great atmosphere that Willow created that these situations never escalated any further. Granted, the site did become a lot quieter. There were quite a few loyal supporters who stuck around. At times it could be frustrating that there wasn't more activity but that hard core bunch of us who have remained loyal to the end have kept the site ticking over. Despite, less activity I've continued to come back a couple of times a week as I've always felt attached to it.

In its heyday the site was thriving, and this is very difficult to keep up. One aspect that I did appreciate in the last year was the live chats for subscribers. I think I was only able to get to 3 of these but it was great to actually have a voice conversation with Willow and others. I know from personal experience that running websites is not as easy as one might think, but I think that Willow has done very well with Asperclick over the 7 years that its run. I hope that I'll still have some sort of contact with some of you or at least see you on other sites.

Thank you Willow.

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Ben

For what it's worth, the heyday was amazing - and had I followed through with my initial 'walkout' I would have missed the entire thing. Thank goodness I came to my senses. 

The autumn of 2013 was honestly the most fun I've ever had on the internet. 

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